to not be arsed about the football happening on my wedding day?

[MimosasInFrance]

I'm getting married today. I've had about five people give me commiserations about the football. It hadn't even occurred to me to worry about it to be honest.

My DH to be is really worried it's going to disrupt the day and be a huge problem. Aibu to think this isn't really an issue? I honestly can't bring myself to worry about it. I feel like most people are polite and won't do anything rude but I'm not bothered if people are keeping an eye on the score.

Am I missing something? Is this likely to be really bad?

Btw, threads like this on here have been picked up by the media before, so be aware!

My family is not into sport at all but I know my husbands is and I knew when I married him, that are not obsessed but have a very strong interest

So I go along with it and am happy to do so as my husband does things he didn't grow up with either

I love the football, season ticket holder. But in this situation I can't imagine people would be too bothered aside from checking it on their phones. If I was the bride, I would ask for a screen but that's because I love football. As a non football loving bride, I would fully understand not asking for a screen. If I was at someone's wedding tonight I would just have a few checks of the score on my phone, I wouldn't dream of going missing to watch it elsewhere, and none of my season ticket holder male or female family would do that either. No matter how much we all love football, it's just a game. We would all be respectful at a wedding x

I feel so sorry for all todays brides who may be worried about guests sloping off to watch the match. ,Surely you can sneak a quick look at the score and then watch the whole thing tomorrow on catch up? Actually I know we’re not supposed to brag on MN but I just commented on this thread to DH and his response was “what match?”!!!

Perhaps the first dance should be to La Marseillaise!

To be honest reading that post I'd have wanted to swerve that wedding because of how rules were being thrown at people. And as a season ticket holder, a champions league final is a completely different thing to England in a quarter final. My response to the England match tonight is that I'd check it on my phone, I certainly wouldn't go missing. My response to thread in this link would be different because of the rules imposed but also because its a champions league final! If there wasn't a screen up at this one, I would 100% have watched in on my phone whilst enjoying the wedding.

@Orangepolentacake storyline more about views on whether it's acceptable to watch match whilst a guest at a wedding

I see these on Facebook quite often. links to media articles where the focus is on different opinions, not the issue itself

Ignore it if you aren’t bothered about the match. A few people will find somewhere to watch it, a few will watch on their phones, some will check the score. Most will ignore it. Personally, I’d be in the “check the score” group unless it went to penalties, at which point I’d disappear for 10 mins to watch them.

It depends on how much into football your guests are likely to be. Our wedding clashed with the FA cup final, but most of our guests really weren't that bothered.

Whatever you do, don't arrange a screen for people to watch, it's liable to kill the wedding. And if the reception venue has screens elsewhere, it might be worth asking them to keep it discreet so that guests aren't tempted to disappear.

See I agree with this.

Whilst I don't have family particularly into football, we are quite into rugby - several ex-semi pros in my family.

Never in a million years would I think they'd leave my wedding to watch even an important game!

To be honest reading that post I'd have wanted to swerve that wedding because of how rules were being thrown at people.

I would have too. Can't dictate that people can't look at their phones. Weddings are long, not every minute needs to be focused on the bride and groom.

People will disappear. People will be figuring out how to watch it. I can guarantee it.

But people have done.

There was a thread on here not long ago about lots of people leaving a wedding half-way through to watch the rugby match. I think they all ended up in the pub!

It’s not ideal and it would worry me that people wouldn’t be focussed on my day. Such is the nature of a world cup.

Anyway, no point really worrying about it right now.

Enjoy your winter wedding and have a fabulous day.

I think people will either leave to watch it or watch it on their phone. I think you should prepare for that.

I went to a wedding on the day of a World Cup final. Loads of guests crowded into staff areas where it was being watched ad hoc on TV. Felt so sorry for the bride and groom.

• But people have done.

There was a thread on here not long ago about lots of people leaving a wedding half-way through to watch the rugby match. I think they all ended up in the pub!*

@thelobsterquadrille sure, I'm sure someone has done in the past. As I said, I'd be furious! No one I know would do this, I'm positive. I'd be interested to see how/if the responses differed on that thread though.

As far as I can recall, most people told the OP that it was inevitable that people would want to watch it - so to plan for that.

She didn't and people wandered off to watch it anyway - and she got really upset that people wanted to watch the match instead of sit around at her wedding.

Assuming you're in England, lots of people will want to watch at least part of the England match this evening (plus you'll also have people checking up on the other quarterfinal which is on this afternoon)
People aren't being "selfish and pathetic" to want to watch it, as a PP has suggested.
See if you can get a TV set up somewhere in a separate room, then at least everyone who is actually with you (and not watching the footie) will be concentrating on your wedding and not glued to their phones

I think you'll lose people to the nearest pub that's showing it for a while, unless you can make provision for it to be shown. Of there isn't a sensible option they'll set up their own and be gathered around tablets and phones. Most people now will say they would dream of doing that, but once the first person does and makes it "OK" others will follow

I actually think showing it will add, not distract from the day.

Surely you can sneak a quick look at the score and then watch the whole thing tomorrow on catch up?

it never ceases to amaze me that this keeps being trotted out on every football thread ever. No. That's not how live sport works.

OP is relaxed, everything is fine. Lots of people are boycotting it anyway and as for pp's suggestion of "due dilligance" before accepting the invitation months ago 😂It's a tournament. You'd have had to make a complex calculation (were the groups even known then?) and basically turned down every saturday invitation just in case. Nope.

Yes, what could be worse at a wedding than guests sharing something they enjoy? That would be a terrible state of affairs, guaranteed to "kill" any celebration 😆

Except they're meant to be celebrating the bride and groom, not the football. That would completely miss the point of the day. I wish I was surprised that people could be so selfish, but I'm not.

I'd be gutted if i was you OP, but hopefully people will be respectful.

I know it's become the norm, but a wedding used to be about the guests enjoying themselves. Any normal host would be pleased guests had fun not insist on 100% attention on them at all times.

Yes, unfortunately as recent wedding threads have shown with people being annoyed at having to spend money on feeding and watering their guests, it’s no longer about giving the guests a good time, it’s about how good the photos are