to not be arsed about the football happening on my wedding day?

[MimosasInFrance]

I'm getting married today. I've had about five people give me commiserations about the football. It hadn't even occurred to me to worry about it to be honest.

My DH to be is really worried it's going to disrupt the day and be a huge problem. Aibu to think this isn't really an issue? I honestly can't bring myself to worry about it. I feel like most people are polite and won't do anything rude but I'm not bothered if people are keeping an eye on the score.

Am I missing something? Is this likely to be really bad?

As long as you don't mind some saddos leaving early or trying to sneak a watch then it doesn't matter. Anyone who swerves your wedding for bloody football isn't someone you want at your wedding anyway.

No its not important to everyone but if someone has accepted an invitation to a wedding it should be important enough to them to pay attention during the event and not sneak off like children or watch it on phones during the ceremony.

Honestly if you can't share a few hours with the couple on their wedding day then don't bother to accept in the invitation and leave space for someone who wants to be there.

I'd be sorting out a screen for people to watch it. Everyone will congregate around phones to watch so yes it will disrupt a little I'd imagine unfortunately. Maybe it's best to embrace it.

Honestly if you can't share a few hours with the couple on their wedding day then don't bother to accept in the invitation and leave space for someone who wants to be there.

If anyone had known this would be on, maybe they wouldn't have. There's enough hours in a wedding day to share with a couple. 90 minutes isn't a lot.

I would have thought that most of the men and some of the women will be trying to find TVs to watch/ sneaking off to a bar , at the very least watching on phones / tablets. Agree that you would be better to ask the venue to organise a big tv in the bar area.

Honestly if you can't share a few hours with the couple on their wedding day then don't bother to accept in the invitation and leave space for someone who wants to be there

Bet there are a bunch of plus ones attending who haven't even met the couple

Yes I do not get the hype, but it is the national sport.

It's a national sport. I realise it's the most popular, but I don't see why that seems to mean that football fans expect everything to be reorganised to cater for their need to watch their sport when fans of other sports don't. The fact that it's mord popular than, say, rugby or cricket does not make the 'need' to watch it any greater. It's just a sports match, like any other sports match.

Congratulations OP! Have a wonderful day

I can't get over people's ability to watch games taking place in stadiums that thousands of people died to build so absolutely no way that I would have a screen. I'm also horrified by the suggestion that the atmosphere at the wedding afterwards will be bad if England lose - are there really that many people so pathetic that they sulk and mope over the outcome of a football match? Surely not!

Haven't RTFT but didn't someone post about this happening before? (obviously different wedding and math) and half her guests disappeared down the pub?

I watched a penalty shoot out on the TV at my own wedding.

Maybe this thread

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3588812-champions-league-ban-at-wedding?reply=87146735

I agree. If someone was watching a really obscure sport on their phone at a wedding they'd be called rude, even if they really cared about it.

Nah, fuck that. If it’s on in the middle of the meal you don’t bring a bloody screen to the table. How rude!

If it’s on at the beginning of the evening bit, maybe have it on the TV in the bar. But what happens if they lose and people end up getting mardy about it?

Unless you have huge numbers of people attending that would be unusual these days with the trend for smaller weddings.

Even so Its basic manners - if you accept an invitation to a wedding then step up and participate. If that is too much of a challenge without sneaking away for a couple of hours then really don't accept invitations.

Ask your guests who would be wanting to sneak off and watch it then uninvite those guests.

Congrats on your wedding OP, have a fantastic day.

I would just completely ignore the football, unless you're interested, and just get on with your day. Some guests might slope off for the duration, some may keep checking the score, but most will be enjoying your reception with you

We aren't football fans at all- DP hates it more than I do- so we would seriously resent the intrusion and wouldn't have a screen up. Wouldn't stop people stepping out but would probably consider it an insult and a burnt bridge if they did more than pop out to briefly check the score tbh. As it happens, I don't think anyone we've asked to ours is a football fan so we could probably avoid the drama.

But people accept invitations for all sorts of reasons and the way the draw fell was just by chance. I don’t agree that being interested in a huge games makes you ‘a mannerless oaf’. I DO think trying to police what your guests do and don’t do makes you overly controlling. Weddings just aren’t that interesting for many people, lots of brides - not the OP, she seems very chilled - over estimate how much people actually care.

OP, I’d embrace it and be relaxed around the fact that lots Of people WILL want to watch. But that’s just me.

are there really that many people so pathetic that they sulk and mope over the outcome of a football match?

Apparently so. Overgrown toddlers.

Congratulations, have a wonderful day, is there room for a thermal layer under your dress?

I wouldn't worry as most of my friends don't care about football. But I think you have to know your crowd.

I would provide a screen. It's quite a big deal to lots of people and I'd enjoy it with them in my dress!

This argument is always made whenever the topic comes up, and it's one that sounds good in theory but has limited application in real life.

For guests who less close, maybe distant cousins, old work pals etc then yes, there's an argument that they've made a choice about attending and should've done their due diligence. That is not a realistic option for people who are particularly close to the couple, though. The parents of the bride can hardly refuse the invitation because England might be in a world cup quarter final at the time. Imagine the AIBU threads if they tried it!

I can guarantee that my normally lovely DH,FIL and BIL would absent themselves from a wedding to watch the football because they are utterly obsessed with it. It is baffling to me but they seem to think it’s normal to prioritise football over everything else. We had to move our silver wedding celebrations because they were seriously planning to ask for a TV to be set up in the beautiful private dining room we had booked. The sea view and the company of their family was no competition.