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to not be arsed about the football happening on my wedding day?

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MimosasInFrance · 10/12/2022 07:26

I'm getting married today. I've had about five people give me commiserations about the football. It hadn't even occurred to me to worry about it to be honest.

My DH to be is really worried it's going to disrupt the day and be a huge problem. Aibu to think this isn't really an issue? I honestly can't bring myself to worry about it. I feel like most people are polite and won't do anything rude but I'm not bothered if people are keeping an eye on the score.

Am I missing something? Is this likely to be really bad?

OP posts:
terriblyangryattimes · 10/12/2022 07:43

Congratulations! I hope your day goes as smoothly as possible with little football involvement too. Don't worry about it and concentrate on your day!

ThePenIsBlue · 10/12/2022 07:44

Have you got evening guests coming? I’d imagine many won’t be arriving until 9:30 ish…. 😁😁😁

ShaunaTheSheep · 10/12/2022 07:44

If people are staying overnight at the venue, I would expect some to sneak to their bedroom to watch.

SaySomethingMan · 10/12/2022 07:45

Of course yanbu on net getting worried. What would you gain by getting worried?

People will check the scores, if they want to or go out and watch it someone where, etc etc.
Those who want to stay, and actually engage present, will.

Congrats!

notangelinajolie · 10/12/2022 07:46

There was a big match on the day we got married. Everyone turned up but there were a few absent faces as the day progressed. Including our photographer who was also a press photographer and the touch line was calling. I didn’t really mind or notice tbh, I was too busy in my happy bubble.
There weren’t any iPhones back then so it was impossible for anyone to watch the match at the reception.
At least guests at your wedding will be able to watch it on their phones. If there is a big screen anywhere close by be prepared for a few guests to disappear.

And congratulations on you big day 💐

Y7drama · 10/12/2022 07:46

I’m sure it’ll be fine OP, some will watch on their phones or slink off for a bit. I wouldn’t do a screen either. The atmosphere would be rubbish if England lose!

MillyMollyManky · 10/12/2022 07:48

You sounds very sensible. Have a lovely day.

SaySomethingMan · 10/12/2022 07:48

Swingwhenyourewinning · 10/12/2022 07:32

Oh I don’t think people would be worried. I wouldn’t be getting a screen with the match being at 7pm-9 and maybe extra time. That’s party time

this World Cup dosn't seem to have people as interested as other years

Not sure where you are or how you’ve drawn the conclusion in your last paragraph.

England seems to have a tangible chance this year so the interest around me, on the media etc is huge.

Around the world, even more so because football is such an accessible and therefore, widely-played sport.

fruitbrewhaha · 10/12/2022 07:48

If “lots of people went missing” at my wedding to watch a football match I’d be pretty upset. Everyone has smart phones they can keep up to date with, dip in and out etc. But disappearing to watch the whole game is rude. There will be plenty more football matches but this is the only
time your getting married.

How can people’s priority is a bunch of strangers kicking a ball around than their actual friends?

lap90 · 10/12/2022 07:52

YANBU to be bothered about it. It is your wedding day after all.

But there will be people who want to watch the game and take action to do so.

WeWereInParis · 10/12/2022 07:52

it would be necessary to update the score to your guests

Why? Anyone who is interested can always look that up. There's no need for OP to be involved if she doesn't want to be (and it sounds like she doesn't) - I wouldn't be standing up saying "by the way, France just scored" or whatever. Anyone who wants to know that will already know it.

If it was my wedding, no way would I be putting a screen up because I don't want to watch it. But I wouldn't attempt to stop anyone watching it on their phone if they were so inclined. I'd think they were rude though.

underneaththeash · 10/12/2022 07:54

CantFindTheBeat · 10/12/2022 07:42

Gosh, why are you only posting this morning? This has been on the cards for a few days now.

Go and have a great wedding day - and embrace the football, lots of people will appreciate it and it will make your day even more special.

Why on earth would the OP want to "embrace" something utterly unimportant on her wedding day?

Ignore it.

Lcb123 · 10/12/2022 07:56

We attended a wedding on the day of an England match in the last World Cup. There were people watching on their phones but only a minority of guests-I’d just be prepared for that to happen. We got married this April and my DH made us pick a date where there was no risk of any sporting event 😂😂

LadyHarmby · 10/12/2022 07:58

There’ll be a sizeable chunk of guests who’ll want to watch it. They might just be satisfied with doing that on their phones or they might slope off to find a screen. Not much you can do either way so just crack on, be relaxed about it and have a lovely day.

gogohmm · 10/12/2022 07:59

If been at weddings where there is as a "key" sporting fixture and the hotel put the game on in the bar adjoining the main venue on 2 occasions and another the couple out it on in the main area as keen fans.

Whilst we have only know England were successful this week, the draw dates so the potential for this match has been known about for a while

Againstmachine · 10/12/2022 08:01

it’s fine to say you aren’t bothered, but the majority of people are

This isn't actually true, viewing figures so far have been a lot less than a majority.

BorisJohnsonsHair · 10/12/2022 08:02

Congratulations and good luck for today Flowers

I got married on Cup Final day and lots of people were sneaking looks at their phones in the church!

I think you should own it, by getting DJ/toastmaster etc to announce that they will let the guests know every time there's a goal. That way the guests can relax a bit. I wouldn't bother putting up screens.

RabbitTastic · 10/12/2022 08:02

DH &I are available. We've had to cancel the restaurant because they are showing the match. I'm actually more interested in your wedding.

I remember each wedding quite distinctly over the years. Sporting stuff really just blends in to one. There are more if us then you think, we just try not to piss on the sports fans chips.

LlynTegid · 10/12/2022 08:04

Congratulations, hope you have a lovely day and no-one in the later evening sulks when the French win.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 10/12/2022 08:08

*Why on earth would the OP want to "embrace" something utterly unimportant on her wedding day?

Ignore it.*

That's fine just don't complain that people do want to watch it and if they do so on their phones. It's not important to her but it is to some people.

BrightSaturn · 10/12/2022 08:11

She’s getting married today! She’s not exactly going to be finding a screen to put up?

people will check the score on their phone and a few might watch it but it’s not a big deal.

congratulations and enjoy your day!

ijustcouldntthinkofausername · 10/12/2022 08:11

Ah don't worry about it OP, you'll have a few blokes checking their phone but I'm sure their partners will nudge them if they're becoming noticeably too invested in the football and especially when it's first dance/speeches etc I doubt people will be rude enough to have the football blasting out on their phones when those are happening.
Hope you both have a wonderful day ! Good luck xxx

gabsdot45 · 10/12/2022 08:16

I went to a wedding once on Champions league final day when Liverpool were in the final. FOB was a huge Liverpool fan.
They set up a laptop in the corner for people to watch it.
It was fine and added a bit if extra fun.
However I've also been to weddings where people leave the wedding room to go to the bar to watch sport. That's not great imo.

If you have somewhere set up to watch in the room you'll be ok. And of course not everyone is going to be interested anyway.

IdisagreeMrHochhauser · 10/12/2022 08:16

ijustcouldntthinkofausername · 10/12/2022 08:11

Ah don't worry about it OP, you'll have a few blokes checking their phone but I'm sure their partners will nudge them if they're becoming noticeably too invested in the football and especially when it's first dance/speeches etc I doubt people will be rude enough to have the football blasting out on their phones when those are happening.
Hope you both have a wonderful day ! Good luck xxx

Sexist. I'm a woman and I'm far more interested in the football than a wedding. What hey key wedding events will be happening between 7 and 9pm anyway? If it's the meal then what harm would watching it do. I doubt anyone would miss any scintillating dinner chat for 90 minutes.

Pineconederby · 10/12/2022 08:18

I can’t think of anything more rude than going to someone else’s wedding and then getting my phone out to use like a TV! Normally Mumsnet is so hot on manners too. Can you imagine the reaction if half the guests sat and watched Eastenders? Plain rude. Football is no more special than any other programme 🙄 and certainly no more important than a friend’s wedding!

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