To think my racist SIL should consider another profession?

[Adventcalendargobbler]

I’ve known my SIL (35) for just over 10 years. She’s currently at the tail end of her psychology degree, and is aiming for a career as a psychologist.

She’s a very self absorbed, braggy person anyway, and constantly use unnecessary vocabulary when talking - e.g. using really obscure scientific/medical names for things in a casual conversation.

She’s adamant that she’s going to go on to earn 80k+ as a psychologist, however she is extremely racist, homophobic, and slut shames other women.

I don’t understand how it’s possible or ethical for someone to work in that field while having such awful views of people? It’s a common occurrence for her to make awful racist slurs about people!

Do people in this field have to be assessed before being let out into the wild to do their job? I’d be devastated if I knew my therapist (or whatever it is that she’ll end up doing) was not only judging me for my race/sexual orientation, but didn’t like me because of it.

I’ve told her before that her views and comments are bang out of line, but she just calls me a bore who can’t take a joke, and “obviously” she wouldn’t say this in front of people.

AIBU to think this, or am I being a bore who should keep her nose out?

Someone being angry or offended at hearing racial slurs, homophobic insults or that its a good thing a black man died are not oversensitive. But you are determined to defend this vile woman.

YANBU; but it's a long way from the tail end of an undergraduate psychology degree to becoming a clinical psychologist. She would need to do a 3-year doctorate in clinical psychology, which is not that easy to get onto, and would require a good undergraduate degree and probably at least a year's work experience. The clinical psychology doctorate would include supervised placements.

I wouldn't worry too much about her excessive use of scientific jargon; that is common undergraduate behaviour, and she would be trained to use more appropriate language with patients. The bigoted comments are another matter. Whether they reflect 'real' bigotry, or an enjoyment of baiting and tormenting people (or both), doesn't matter: both are equally ugly and equally unsuitable to a career working with vulnerable patients. However, if her attitudes are as obvious as they seem to be, she will soon be eased out; will learn to change or at least hide her attitudes; or will herself decide to move into another area where she would have, as she would put it, more 'freedom of speech'.

The point is not whether it's a crime; it's whether it makes her unsuitable to work with vulnerable people.

Yes. What the OP reports her SIL as having said is very few steps from a white hood and a flaming cross (people start with this speech before actually doing things, they always have) but some posters are determined to hold the "free speech" "microaggressions/misunderstandings" and even better, the "winding up the oversensitive" line. I call shame on anyone who thinks this acceptable.