To fake orgasms with DH

[Gingerangel]

Sometimes I’m just not in the right headspace to orgasm and if there’s no clit stimulation it’s not going to happen…

Most of the time I will use a small bullet vibe on myself during sex to provide clit stimulation but I always have to be the one who’s responsible for my own orgasm and sometimes I just can’t be arsed…

DH will ask if I have come and I usually am honest and say no if I haven’t but sometimes I just lie to save the awkwardness of the conversation.

Oh wow, he can't be bothered with foreplay?

As others have said, foreplay is sex, for most women anyway. Im afraid anyone who couldn't be bothered with foreplay and had to ask if I'd come wouldn't be getting a second go!

No foreplay, no chance.

Be honest, because it is the only way you're going to get what you need here!

Tell him what to do, show him if it's easier.

I want a relationship but not bothered by sex. Very unlikely to find so I just get on and do it. Lie back and think of England.

I want a relationship but not bothered by sex. Very unlikely to find

It's not, @JamSandle

You're settling for something you don't want, and having to have unwanted sex, and having to lie within your relationship. There's many possibilities for asexual relationships. Lying back and thinking of England is very 1950s. Have you no respect for your body?

No foreplay..No entry.
He wouldn't want to have resit it wasn't satisfying..why should you??

*have sex..not resit ffs!

I like the way of thinking that foreplay is for the woman's orgasm and sex is for the men.
We should work this more in to society's narrative. So, for every time a man says 'I left my ex wife because we no longer had sex' there should be a woman saying 'I left my exhusband because we no longer had foreplay.'
And, in the same way leisure time should be divided equally, orgasms should also be. I wonder how high the percentage is on how many mothers in a relationship have far less orgasms and far less leisure time than their spouse - I'll go 90%.

I could never fake it and would not know how to. I have always had trouble orgasming through penetration only...but my husband makes very sure I have several times through other means before he does. He loves seeing me orgasm and he would definitely know if I didn't .