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To think he’s just a cocklodger?

161 replies

TheSunnySide · 06/12/2022 22:51

Lots of debate in previous months about the high profile marriage split of a famous (ish) Welsh actor, who got his big break with a bit part in the Titanic movie. He has spent the last year doing no work, no childcare and just traveling around the world with his new girlfriend who appears to also have no job.

And now he seems to have admitted that his living expenses are being funded by his poor partner who is also battling a challenging life-changing illness.

He's just another cocklodger, isn’t he?

OP posts:
Ponoka7 · 07/12/2022 00:17

So you think that he's hiding wealth? In which case he isn't a cock lodger. I don't see what your issue would be with her. Alice certainly can't afford the house, he's showing to the court that he can't. He pays Alice's and the children's health insurance, private school fees etc. He's putting it to the court that he can no longer do that. Which is his right. Alice needs to face up to working.

whumpthereitis · 07/12/2022 00:18

TheSunnySide · 07/12/2022 00:11

What has she directed?

she was in accounting and previously married, maybe her wealth comes from that. She then was an extra, though she gave that up before she met Ioan (she said) until she did one last extra job where she met him. Her acting credits are small independent and web based things (about 3 or 4) but I can’t imagine they were well paid.

The rent on their flat adds up to something like 40,000 dollars a year (not including living costs) and if he is as broke as he says he is then she must have an incredible income from her SM given how little she posts!

I’m not sure you’re going to get the information you’re after from mumsnet, not-Alice.

MyMumSaysALot · 07/12/2022 00:22

Alice doesn’t sound very nice. And even in sweltering California, their home is in swanky La Jolla which is on the ocean right by San Diego. But the power bill is almost $5000? That’s just excessive and there’s really no excuse. Like she’s purposely wasting energy. That’s the sort of energy bill for a small hotel.
And also, $2million in LaJolla isn’t all that fancy, considering they’ve got homes there going for $20million and up.
(I read that in a Daily Mail article dated 12/05/22. Sorry - I don’t know how to upload it here).

TheSunnySide · 07/12/2022 00:23

Ponoka7 · 07/12/2022 00:17

So you think that he's hiding wealth? In which case he isn't a cock lodger. I don't see what your issue would be with her. Alice certainly can't afford the house, he's showing to the court that he can't. He pays Alice's and the children's health insurance, private school fees etc. He's putting it to the court that he can no longer do that. Which is his right. Alice needs to face up to working.

No I think he’s a cocklodger. He has no money and his sick girlfriend is paying for everything.

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Sunshinegirl82 · 07/12/2022 00:24

Wasn't he granted a restraining order against Alice? And it seems he's been paying all of her and the children's expenses (including a nanny despite Alice not working) for nearly two years?

It seems entirely sensible to me that they sell the property and downsize to provide adequate housing for each of them and the DC.

There is decent equity in the house by the looks of things, entirely possible he has agreed to pay her back once the house is sold. She is unwell and we don't know what level of day to day support she might require, that might impact his ability to work.

I think it's a bit of a stretch to make too many assumptions. The court will have all the info, they'll take a view.

TheSunnySide · 07/12/2022 00:25

whumpthereitis · 07/12/2022 00:18

I’m not sure you’re going to get the information you’re after from mumsnet, not-Alice.

Nor from IMDB apparently. 🤣

OP posts:
whumpthereitis · 07/12/2022 00:28

TheSunnySide · 07/12/2022 00:25

Nor from IMDB apparently. 🤣

Her finances are her business. As is her choice to support him.

Not sure why it’s relevant anyway. She’s not liable to pay your mortgage.

Talia99 · 07/12/2022 00:54

TheSunnySide · 07/12/2022 00:23

No I think he’s a cocklodger. He has no money and his sick girlfriend is paying for everything.

He has no money because Alice has been spending like she’s married to Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise (not a B list TV actor) while not earning anything herself. If the house is sold and the equity divided, IG will easily be able to pay back his new partner.

I strongly suspect a big reason IG can’t get work is because no one wants Alice’s social media vindictiveness and outright lies directed at their project. She is a living example of cutting off her nose to spite her face, having successfully sabotaged his ability to earn money and therefore fund her lifestyle (which he has been doing for years).

CJsGoldfish · 07/12/2022 00:55

Didn't he take out a restraining order against her?

No sympathy for Alice, she's a right piece of work, not to mention abusive.

Would like to know where you're getting your info not-Alice because it seems so balanced 😂

JackieDaws · 07/12/2022 01:07

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Perfectpeace · 07/12/2022 01:40

Did you start this thread in an attempt to hide the fact that court documents show Alice has been stealing Ioan’s money while hiding her own? Did you miss the part where is states he has paid every bill for the house, her and their children while she lies in bed, drugged and pissed daily? Did you miss the last set of court documents outlining the abuse she has directed at him and their children?

Alice is an absolute disgrace of a woman and I hope his house is sold ASAP, all the money she stole from him is returned and she has to move to the area of LA where 70% of children speak English as a second language, that she was so afraid of doing. Racist bitch to boot.

lovemelovemesaythatyouloveme · 07/12/2022 02:22

I don't understand this threads He has a restraining order against his wife, they don't just hand those out like sweeties, she has obviously not been at his best. He nor she can afford to keep the house and therefore it must be sold.

GrandTheftWalrus · 07/12/2022 02:33

I've just found this thread and really want to know who it's about.

lovemelovemesaythatyouloveme · 07/12/2022 02:33

GrandTheftWalrus · 07/12/2022 02:33

I've just found this thread and really want to know who it's about.

Ioan Gruffudd

cypresstree · 07/12/2022 02:34

I don't know why any woman would go near him, some men are just that obvious, I mean even if you came from an age old respected family and had a castle for example in ireland, you could choose anyone without that overt misoginistic smirk.

GrandTheftWalrus · 07/12/2022 02:38

lovemelovemesaythatyouloveme · 07/12/2022 02:33

Ioan Gruffudd

Fair enough.

I thought it was going to be one of the threads that gives clues etc. Like the blind items on CDAN

GrandTheftWalrus · 07/12/2022 02:39

However I don't remember him in Titanic.

Backtoblack1 · 07/12/2022 03:07

Why are you so invested?

FuckMyLife2022 · 07/12/2022 08:00

YABVU.

Alice has a permanent domestic violence restraining order against her. The court docs and evidence are in the public domain, along with evidence of her abusing him and their daughters.

Fragrantandfoolish · 07/12/2022 08:07

How can you say he’s a cocklodger when he’s paying 10 grand a month or so,for the family home for the last two years. He’s run out of money of course it’s to be sold. What do you want him to do, pull cash out his arse? Alice needs to bloody work and evenly contribute

Flapjackquack · 07/12/2022 08:13

Your dislike of him is really odd OP, do you know them personally?

Nicknacky · 07/12/2022 08:22

So he is a cocklodger but you don’t mention Alice getting a job to help support her children?

I’ve been following the car crash on Twitter and her behaviour has been disgraceful to say the least. People have been giving her money who can ill afford it and she has no issue taking it from them.

skilpadde · 07/12/2022 08:37

Wouldn't he need to be, you know, lodging in the family home and being a financial drain, to be considered a cocklodger?

A bloke who is not living in the family home but paying all the bills for that home would seem to be more of an anti-cocklodger.

The sooner those two divorce, the better. She seems immensely toxic.

DailyMailReporterTellMeAllYourSecrets · 07/12/2022 08:41

Didn’t realise he had a bit part in Titanic. Was it speaking or just an extra?

Jammydodger1981 · 07/12/2022 08:51

DailyMailReporterTellMeAllYourSecrets · 07/12/2022 08:41

Didn’t realise he had a bit part in Titanic. Was it speaking or just an extra?

He was the guy in the life boat who rescues Rose and says ‘is anyone alive out there’