To have answered this question from DH truthfully?

[Nowhereelsetogo90]

Watching TV and a character mentioned making a sex tape with a partner. DH asked if I’d ever done that. I said yes, years ago, as a young woman, and that I’d been the only person with access to the video which is long since deleted. He’s now gone off in a nuclear huff using phrases I’m very pissed off about such as “I thought you were better than that.”

Was I being unreasonable to have answered truthfully? He’s done lots of things in his past that I disagree with (and had far more sex with far more partners than me!) and this feels like a double standard!!

YANBU that's really nasty of him @Nowhereelsetogo90 . We all do unwise things sometimes, especially when younger.

I see your Debbie Does Dallas and raise you a Danish Dentist On The Job.

Promo: When he fills a cavity, it feels marvellous!

But I digress. Surely this ludicrous chain of persistence deserves to go into Classics?

Ask him if he would have preferred you lied about it.

Glad you seem to have sorted it out.

I, as a poker player, fold!

But I second the nomination!

You’re really determined, aren’t you?

What a bonkers hijack of a thread over a completely made up.scenario.

OP, I had an old video of me in my early 20s, with a boyfriend. Tbh it was so tame and I looked so magnificent then, I kind of wish it wasn't an a long destroyed vhs.

Your DH is being unfair and the PP who mentioned that he wanted to be your first experience probably hit the nail.on the head.

I've just read through all of your comments and wholly agree with the consensus that you've made a tit of yourself.

I got the reference, was going to reply but the mansplaining merailer had me in stitches.
Poor man, never understanding all the polite responses to his misogyny.
Oh but if you just explain, I can mansplain some more and still I get your attention, which is all I ever wanted, whoopee

OP has said, in plain language, that she was the only one with access.

For example, filmed on a phone - her phone. Locked phone. Ex doesn’t know passcode. OP chooses not to send it to him and later deletes it. Hence, only one with access.

I’m not sure how you’ve established he’s some kind of pro-hacker. 😂

@Keyansier

She filmed a sex tape with her ex and he had the opportunity to put it online and may have done so.

OP has clearly stated that she was the only person to have access to the video and that she deleted it a long time ago.

So why do you insist there is still a possibility he could have shared it online? He never had it to share.

Why do you think you know better than her about her own life?

This.

HIS reply would give me the Ick.

You have EVERY right to be very pissed off at this reply.

Berk.

I'dve thought the average person in this day and age would just find it funny that their spouse did something like that long ago.