To have answered this question from DH truthfully?

[Nowhereelsetogo90]

Watching TV and a character mentioned making a sex tape with a partner. DH asked if I’d ever done that. I said yes, years ago, as a young woman, and that I’d been the only person with access to the video which is long since deleted. He’s now gone off in a nuclear huff using phrases I’m very pissed off about such as “I thought you were better than that.”

Was I being unreasonable to have answered truthfully? He’s done lots of things in his past that I disagree with (and had far more sex with far more partners than me!) and this feels like a double standard!!

He sounds annoying and judgemental af.

He could fuck off with that.

The OP stated that she had the only copy and has deleted it.

You don't know that the ex had an opportunity to put it online.

Please see my earlier comment (fireproof box, cabin in Greenland, etc).

Again, most people are not sex offenders. So it is not "probable" or "very likely" that OP's ex is a sex offender.

I suspect that his anger has come from the fact that his horny little back brain had a twinge and thought "ooh.....we could make a sex tape" and so he brought it up then his ego got a proper kicking when he found out that you are in the "been there, done that" camp so he doesnt get to be your first in that sense. Almost cetainly, if he has been as adventurous as you say, it wouldnt have been his first time on camera but I cant help thinking that the thrill for him would have been in the fact that he thought it would have been yours.

Manky little prick.

As others have said Never ask a questiony you might not like the answer to.

I would suggest that you tell him that you are hurt and disappointed that he is judging you on your past and that you thought he was better than that.

Everyone has a past. How dare he judge you on it. It’s not exactly criminal activity!

BREAKING NEWS!!!!!

PEOPLE MADE SEX TAPES BEFORE CAMERA PHONES AND THE INTERNET WERE INVENTED!!!!

Experts are looking in the veracity of these claims but Debbie, 26 from Dallas, claims that she can indeed corroborate that people were having sex and filming it as far back in history as the 1980's.

People getting offended just because another person disagreed 🙄

I actually know it to be a fact that OP’s ex made a sex tape with Keyansier and posted it online, which is why she’s a bit sensitive on the subject.

Huh? This post reads like a response that I was admonishing the OP for the sex tape, but I didn't

Nobody is offended they are just pointing out you are talking bollocks

What? 😂😂

And I'm a he, btw. He/Him/His/His Highness aka all that bollocks (just my opinion).

Men view things like this differently to women.

I suppose your husband sees it as putting yourself in a vulnerable position and sexualising yourself for somebody that isn’t you husband which is well, not classy.

Yes, but people are getting clearly offended and I don't really get why tbh.

Well I picked up from your posts that we were playing ‘just making up any old shite’ this evening.

??

I'm personally not into playing "making up any old shite"

SIGH....
No dear, it was irony.

I will explain.....

It is taking the piss out the fact that you clearly havent considered that people have been having sex and filming it for many years, many many years before the internet existed. If the OP is my age (late 40s) and made this tape in her twenties then it will have been on a camcorder and if she held the only copy of the tape then no, it wont be on the internet. But yes you do sound very disapproving of the OP's choices as it happens.

I agree @Nowhereelsetogo90 husband is a boorish bully who can’t tolerate she has a past. He’s gone too far with all the complaining

Because you stated OP's sex tape is highly likely to be online? When there's nowt to suggest it would be?

It is 100% not online! No opportunity and a long time ago!

Good to know IANBU! He’s apologised for his immediate reaction - we usually get on very well and I’ve never heard him comment anything like this before so I’m still fairly raging!

I’ve said very sternly and clearly that in future he’s not to ask questions if the answer could be one which he won’t like!

Why is he being such an arse about it?

@Keyansier it is perfectly obvious you are a bloke. When you eventually get a girlfriend, please be kind to her and less judgmental. Good luck

Eh...you're going to have to break this down even further for me if you want me to have any chance of understanding you! My post never hinted that I thought the OP couldn't have made a sex tape because in her and your lifetimes only camcorders existed and the Internet didn't And people have accused me of making things up out of thin air!

How obvious?
And btw I am a gay man, and have a male partner, no girlfriends needed, wanted or looked for but thanks for your concern.

Why, even if OP did have a sex tape on the Internet from back from before she was with her DH (and nothing she’s posted suggests that this is likely with the tape she made), does he have a right to be upset about it?

But curious that you'd still be pissed off if your partner had made a sex tape pre your relationship?... Why is that?

If you genuinely don't understand, then maybe ask open questions next time rather than making definitive (incorrect) statements. Saves you from ending up with egg on your face.

But I think you do understand, and you're on a wind up.