Page 6 | To have answered this question from DH truthfully?

Nowhereelsetogo90 · 2022-12-06T21:40:10+00:00

Watching TV and a character mentioned making a sex tape with a partner. DH asked if I’d ever done that. I said yes, years ago, as a young woman, and that I’d been the only person with access to the video which is long since deleted. He’s now gone off in a nuclear huff using phrases I’m very pissed off about such as “I thought you were better than that.” Was I being unreasonable to have answered truthfully? He’s done lots of things in his past that I disagree with (and had far more sex with far more partners than me!) and this feels like a double standard!!

FloydPepper · 07/12/2022 00:36

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:33

Tbqh, this is all coming across as quite pedantic now. Feeling rather sorry for the OP who has had their thread hijacked by others with things that aren't even to do with what they asked about..

Seriously, just put your hands up and admit you were wrong. You tried to be certain when you should have said it was a possibility.

itz ok to be wrong

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2022 00:36

I am not sure if there is any point posting further on this thread

After all that you are "not sure"?! Let me help you. I am fucking CERTAIN that there is no point in you posting any further on this thread.

You're welcome!

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2022 00:38

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:35

But just because I disagree with you (I assume, a woman) doesn't make me a misogynist. But if you can describe how I've been, then explain, using my words in my posts as a demonstration, please.

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Bless

claretblue79 · 07/12/2022 00:38

Hurray! End of thread(hopefully!)

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:39

Not enraging with this thread any more. Good luck OP, you're likely to need it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2022 00:40

FYI......very disappointed that no one has got my Debbie Does Dallas reference......

FloydPepper · 07/12/2022 00:41

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:39

Not enraging with this thread any more. Good luck OP, you're likely to need it.

Brilliant typo

Starrylight · 07/12/2022 00:41

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:39

Not enraging with this thread any more. Good luck OP, you're likely to need it.

One last dig? (but clearly not! as I'm sure you'll explain to us all )

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:42

Starrylight · 07/12/2022 00:41

One last dig? (but clearly not! as I'm sure you'll explain to us all )

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It wasn't a dig at anyone.

claretblue79 · 07/12/2022 00:44

I think the OP has long since left the thread!

claretblue79 · 07/12/2022 00:45

@PyongyangKipperbang Did get your reference but was embarrassed to admit I knew about such things!

Heavyraindropsarefallingonmyhead · 07/12/2022 00:48

Keyansier · 06/12/2022 21:45

It is very likely that your sex tape is on the internet for anyone to see. I think someone has the right to be upset by that.

If your other half had made a sex tape with an ex and that ex had posted it online without their permission, and your reaction is to be upset with your partner and not the ex who committed an actual crime you are not a good partner

deeperthanallroses · 07/12/2022 00:48

Ignoring the shaming going on here, I am glad he’s apologised, and think you should spend the next few weeks saying ‘I thought you were better than that.’ Burnt dinner? Forgot the washing? I thought you were better than that. Home late? Forgot something on the shopping list? I thought you were better than that. HAve a Christmas party Friday? Want to go to the pub Sunday? I thought you were better than that.
😂

caringcarer · 07/12/2022 00:49

I'd have conveniently forgotten about it especially if you know what he gets like.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2022 00:50

claretblue79 · 07/12/2022 00:45

@PyongyangKipperbang Did get your reference but was embarrassed to admit I knew about such things!

In all honesty, I only know it as a cultural reference for "mucky" films! I was genuinely shocked a few years back (in my mid 40's) to find out that is in fact a proper porn film....I thought it was one of those horrible dirty-but-not-quite-porn films churned out in the 70's!

KitchiHuritAngeni · 07/12/2022 00:52

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2022 00:40

FYI......very disappointed that no one has got my Debbie Does Dallas reference......

I definitely didn't, I'm far too young and innocent to know about Debbie Does Dallas 🤣

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:52

deeperthanallroses · 07/12/2022 00:48

Ignoring the shaming going on here, I am glad he’s apologised, and think you should spend the next few weeks saying ‘I thought you were better than that.’ Burnt dinner? Forgot the washing? I thought you were better than that. Home late? Forgot something on the shopping list? I thought you were better than that. HAve a Christmas party Friday? Want to go to the pub Sunday? I thought you were better than that.
😂

No, I wouldn't be angry at them doing it but I would personally feel very angry at the situation in general. I think that would be a normal reaction to have.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2022 00:52

caringcarer · 07/12/2022 00:49

I'd have conveniently forgotten about it especially if you know what he gets like.

So the OP should deny her past in order to appease an insecure partner?!

WTAF?!!!

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:53

So sorry, that was in response to the post made by @Heavyraindropsarefallingonmyhead

monsteramunch · 07/12/2022 00:55

@Keyansier

No, I wouldn't be angry at them doing it but I would personally feel very angry at the situation in general. I think that would be a normal reaction to have.

It's not a healthy reaction.

And I don't understand the difference between being angry they did something and being angry with them. Same thing, surely?

monsteramunch · 07/12/2022 00:56

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:39

Not enraging with this thread any more. Good luck OP, you're likely to need it.

Freudian slip there!

Heavyraindropsarefallingonmyhead · 07/12/2022 00:57

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:52

No, I wouldn't be angry at them doing it but I would personally feel very angry at the situation in general. I think that would be a normal reaction to have.

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Yes unfortunately some men do feel anger is the correct response when sympathy and empathy and support would work so much better

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:59

monsteramunch · 07/12/2022 00:55

@Keyansier

No, I wouldn't be angry at them doing it but I would personally feel very angry at the situation in general. I think that would be a normal reaction to have.

It's not a healthy reaction.

And I don't understand the difference between being angry they did something and being angry with them. Same thing, surely?

And I don't understand the difference between being angry they did something and being angry with them. Same thing, surely?

No, not IMO. The (incorrectly quoted) post questioned whether I would be angrier towards my partner if they filmed a sex tape and not against the person that uploaded it, and my response was that I would not be angry at my partner for doing such, but would be angry at the situation in general if it meant there was a sex tape of my partner online.

Heavyraindropsarefallingonmyhead · 07/12/2022 01:01

Keyansier · 07/12/2022 00:59

And I don't understand the difference between being angry they did something and being angry with them. Same thing, surely?

No, not IMO. The (incorrectly quoted) post questioned whether I would be angrier towards my partner if they filmed a sex tape and not against the person that uploaded it, and my response was that I would not be angry at my partner for doing such, but would be angry at the situation in general if it meant there was a sex tape of my partner online.

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actually interestingly in my post that you respond do I actually state upset, you are the one who changed the reaction to anger

Pythonese · 07/12/2022 01:06

Some things are better left unsaid.