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To hate bloody Christmas cards?

214 replies

HandbagsnGladrags · 04/12/2022 13:41

I'm not a Christmas Grinch - I like Christmas. But AIBU to think that Christmas cards are a total waste of time and money? I fucking hate them. I wish no one would send them to me. They end up cluttering up the windowsills and making the house look untidy. I don't send any except to my bloody mother who makes a right fuss if I don't send her one. She also comments on my lack of card sending to others. Fuck off.

Is anyone with me?

OP posts:
NoNamesLeft234678 · 04/12/2022 14:08

I've written loads this morning to family, friends and baby class teachers so hopefully they don't feel the same as you 🙈 My cards are keepsakes though as they have pictures of my little one on 🥰

garlictwist · 04/12/2022 14:10

I haven't sent a Christmas card since I was at school and I'm 40 now. I never get many and those I do just go in the recycling Blush.

mamabear715 · 04/12/2022 14:11

I SUPPOSE I'll have to write some soon.. :-(

TeeBee · 04/12/2022 14:12

I haven't sent them for years for the same reasons. Nobody has said anything. Utter waste of time when you can wish people merry Christmas. Any I receive generally go straight in the bin. There's enough clutter at Christmas.

AperolWhore · 04/12/2022 14:13

I personally love them, I send them all the last week in November. There is something so traditional about them.

Ballsaque · 04/12/2022 14:13

YANBU

My Mum sends about 200 of them!

DillDanding · 04/12/2022 14:14

I can't stand the fuckers. Any we receive go straight into the recycling bin.

Thankfully, not many send them these days. I think we stopped sending them about 10 years ago.

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 04/12/2022 14:14

Every now and then, someone will write a real, thoughtful, personal letter. Those are wonderful.

Typically though, it’s just “Holiday wishes from our family to yours”, and it feels like a total waste of time and paper. I don’t want to just be a chore on someone’s Christmas prep list! I have to admit, receiving generic Christmas cards gives me a moment of silent rage, every single time… even from people I really like!

OoooohMatron · 04/12/2022 14:14

I hate writing cards. I absolutely love Christmas, love decorations, buying presents, wrapping, cooking etc but writing cards is a massive chore for me. I've started just sending to relatives who are older and I know they appreciate them but I'm tempted to text my friends and tell them I can't be arsed this year. The cards we receive are a few from older relatives but mostly for my 12 year old DD from her friends. I string them up out of the way.

goadyolddough · 04/12/2022 14:16

NoNamesLeft234678 · 04/12/2022 14:08

I've written loads this morning to family, friends and baby class teachers so hopefully they don't feel the same as you 🙈 My cards are keepsakes though as they have pictures of my little one on 🥰

I know this sounds harsh, but I doubt anyone (apart from very close family) keeps them!

NippyWoowoo · 04/12/2022 14:17

Culturally for me they're not a thing, so
I do feel it's an obligation to write them out for those that I know will give to me.

Biker47 · 04/12/2022 14:19

NoNamesLeft234678 · 04/12/2022 14:08

I've written loads this morning to family, friends and baby class teachers so hopefully they don't feel the same as you 🙈 My cards are keepsakes though as they have pictures of my little one on 🥰

Those are the worst types of cards to receive.

pizzaHeart · 04/12/2022 14:19

@NoNamesLeft234678 Don’t worry, not all people feel like this , we still keep a card from one of our friends with their little ones from more then 10 years ago.
Our family doesn’t get many cards as all our relatives live abroad and they don’t send cards, it’s never a family tradition. However it’s ok when we all were living in a half an hour walk area and visiting each other for Xmas. Most of them still live close by but it’s not the case for us. DD loves Xmas cards and they make her feeling less lonely. I know it’s a bother and there are FB messages but for our family it’s not the same.

BecauseICan22 · 04/12/2022 14:23

NoNamesLeft234678 · 04/12/2022 14:08

I've written loads this morning to family, friends and baby class teachers so hopefully they don't feel the same as you 🙈 My cards are keepsakes though as they have pictures of my little one on 🥰

These kind are the worse! Other than immediate family, and even that's debatable, no one keeps them.

No one.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/12/2022 14:23

Ours don’t clutter up any windowsills or mantelpieces. I blu-tack them to various painted surfaces where they’re not in the way of anything - takes v little time. They form a nice cheerful part of our decorations.

phoenixrosehere · 04/12/2022 14:24

YANBU

DH family does them which I think is a bit silly since it’s a generic card saying the usual generic Christmas tike stuff when we usually see or talk to them over the Christmas season anyway. Why do we need a card as well? Why the waste of paper?

I purchase them from the school, DH does the writing and sealing and I post them and that is the extent of what I do.

They’re in the shredder after New Years Day.

XmasElfontheShelf · 04/12/2022 14:25

If you find other ways to see your friends or talk to them @HandbagsnGladrags , great.

I send and l love getting them. I'm in my 60s and send to friends I was at school with and who were special friends at the time. We've not see each other for decades as we live a long way apart - other ends of the country- but it's a way of saying 'Hi, hope you are okay' and keeping the memories alive.

We aren't close enough any more for chats or whatever, but it's a once a year way of keeping in touch and sometimes swapping a few lines of family news.

My mum is 96 and gets around 90 cards, some sent from women she knew when they were 7 years old. I think it's really sweet.

TheLadyOfHay · 04/12/2022 14:26

Why not just say to people that you don’t do cards. I wouldn’t mind if someone did that, one less to write and post so saves a bit of money. I work on the basis if I don’t get a card from someone one year I stop sending from then onwards. My pet hate is receiving cards for the pervious owners of my house. I don’t know where they’ve moved to so those go straight in the bin.

lap90 · 04/12/2022 14:26

Love receiving and sending them.

XmasElfontheShelf · 04/12/2022 14:27

DillDanding · 04/12/2022 14:14

I can't stand the fuckers. Any we receive go straight into the recycling bin.

Thankfully, not many send them these days. I think we stopped sending them about 10 years ago.

God, what a bloody Scrooge you are, eh? Straight in the recycling bin. I hope your friends cotton on.

CuriousMama · 04/12/2022 14:30

YANBU can't stand them. Ours are in a pile usually on top of the fire then go in recycling. I'm only sending them to service users this year.

A new 'friend' asked my address to send my card. She said she might have gone over the top. I said I don't send them I give to charity. Haven't received my card 🤣 Result!! Nah feel a bit guilty but I was only being honest. It may still arrive but that was over a week ago? There's the royal mail strikes though.

Pondlifer · 04/12/2022 14:33

I like them but the cost of stamps are such these days that I only send to older relatives or friends who aren't on social media. It's sad, because I think it's a lovely way to keep in touch or let people know you are thinking of them. As a child, I used to get really excited if we recieved any from abroad. Used to cut out the stamps and collect them!

OchonAgusOchonOh · 04/12/2022 14:34

NoNamesLeft234678 · 04/12/2022 14:08

I've written loads this morning to family, friends and baby class teachers so hopefully they don't feel the same as you 🙈 My cards are keepsakes though as they have pictures of my little one on 🥰

They're the worst, particularly if the sender expects them to be kept. I have no interest in having photos of other people's kids on display. Grandparents are really the only ones who might appreciate them.

Glitterblue · 04/12/2022 14:35

What a lovely lot you are 🙄 People go to the bother of writing and posting cards to you and they go straight into the bin or fire?! Bunch of Scrooges. I love getting cards, especially the ones with a letter.

Oblomov22 · 04/12/2022 14:36

I don't like writing cards.