AIBU to think that once you've eaten your share, that's it?

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AIBU to think that people who eat their share and who then want everyone else's too, are incredibly annoying?

I had a few relatives visiting yesterday and I bought some fairly expensive individual cakes as a treat. My Uncle ate his with lunch then was put out and complained that there wasn't one left for him when we had ours later with tea and coffee. Other small cakes, mince pies and biscuits plus chocolate were still available.

I'm probably being petty but he has form for this. He seems to want his share and everyone else's too.

AIBU to think that generally speaking if you've had your share, that's it? You don't get to eat everyone else's too?

How do you know she didn't, were you there? These sort of replies are so boring - any discussion about a situation being brought down to OP is to blame by allowing the person be rude.

He's greedy. Seems like he has form for it and has never been called out on it.

I'm puzzled by posters suggesting what Op should have said to avoid this.

Unless he is 3 years old, he shouldn't need to have his expectations managed, he should just stop being greedy and impolite.
I'm also puzzled.
Entitled male relative KNOWS he is being greedy and rude, but is relying on everyone feeling too awkward to challenge, minimising his behaviour or bending over backwards to accommodate him.

You could have refused him the fancy cakes earlier, by telling him that these are for later, so that everyone can have them (pointedly).
Guests don’t get to choose when/which food you hand out!

I can guarantee if my Dad wanted his fancy cake there and then (and its 50/50 whether he would or he'd declare it disgustingly fattening and no one needs it and no one should eat any), he would demand, throw things, all the stuff a toddler would do in a huge tantrum, but 5ft 8 and built like a barrel. He'd get more and more vicious until you did what he wanted (pre the 'well we'll just fuck off home if you're like that' response anyway!).

The last Christmas my Dad was invited to, aged 78 I think - he kicked off an enormous strop at not being allowed to continue eating the starters (help yourself little round crispy toasts with cheese and pate and salami to put on it, fewer people ate than expected so there was loads left over) when my Sister was trying to plate up the main course.

He threw his side plate at her (fortunately he has a shit aim and missed wildly), then got absolutely smashed on gin and demanded to be taken home in the middle of dinner, only the only person who could do that wasn't present as they'd gone to let their dogs out for a widdle (20 minute absence max). So then he declared he'd drive himself, then he discovered we'd hidden his keys (we pre-empt that one immediately he enters the building!)... so THEN he declared he'd WALK the 8 miles home, in the dark, along unlit, no pavement roads, and he'd probably fall in a ditch or get hit by a car and die and it'd be all our fault.

You really have to have lived with/spent lots of time with such people to get it - they don't care how they look, they don't give a shit what other people think of them, or who they upset, as long as THEIR needs, fancies and whims are met immediately, every time.

@WiddlinDiddlin great post. I find the smug "what you should have done here is... " utterly maddening - not here but most threads.

The OP did not ask "what should I have said to my uncle?" as if she hadn't attempted any of these completely obvious suggestions.

Unless you've encountered these people firsthand then it's impossible to understand.

And yes you can never have them in your house again - simples! But I had a father who behaved horrendous way to yours who we did keep at arm's length but that also was not 'simples'. Realising he was alone at home on Christmas day, often crying on the phone was very hard to come to terms with.

The anger this provoked just reading it. Greedy twat

@Sickofcoughing yup!

And yeah, he's never in our houses now for any sort of 'event'. He goes to my sisters occasionally for a bath (he won't otherwise. Really.) but Christmas, we drop in, give him a gift which he refuses to open because he thinks he's denying us see him enjoy something (We know, we don't care), or he will open and tell us he doesn't need it...

She takes him to the pub, takes me home, collects him from the pub a bit later (when it kicks out, he won't leave til then, FOMO), drops him home with some dinner and goes off to do her evening Christmas dinner.

He is undoubtedly, lonely - but theres really not much we can do about that. He has made himself unwelcome in several of his nearest pubs, a couple more have closed and there is now only one pub he can use, if he fucks THAT up... fuck knows what will happen.

He's taken an active decision to be deeply unpleasant to everyone he knows, including us much of the time - we've found ways to amuse him occasionally whilst keeping him from upsetting others (and us) but between him upsetting his friends or them dying of old age, he hasn't much left!

Some people simply won't change, some people actively enjoy being arseholes - maturity is knowing when to leave things be and understanding you can only control you, and what you do and where you go.