AIBU to think that once you've eaten your share, that's it?

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AIBU to think that people who eat their share and who then want everyone else's too, are incredibly annoying?

I had a few relatives visiting yesterday and I bought some fairly expensive individual cakes as a treat. My Uncle ate his with lunch then was put out and complained that there wasn't one left for him when we had ours later with tea and coffee. Other small cakes, mince pies and biscuits plus chocolate were still available.

I'm probably being petty but he has form for this. He seems to want his share and everyone else's too.

AIBU to think that generally speaking if you've had your share, that's it? You don't get to eat everyone else's too?

Or not and I'd eat two.

This was my question until I saw that he expected you to have none so he could have two.

I'm willing to bet he's an arsehole in other ways. No one is this mean and selfish without it leaking out.

I’m desperate to know what happened though…
dod you say no, you can’t have my cake, have something else?

I hoped you didn’t give in to the greedy pig!!

YANBU he was being greedy

YANBU. Just don't invite him again.

Not often, no - by me and my sister, yes and if he keeps it up, we leave or if he is at her house, she takes him home. Generally, we now ensure we're never in a situation where we cannot up and leave the moment he gets obnoxious.

Unfortunately he is 81 and we're all he has barring the people in the pub he rants at/chats with/argues with, and he has VERY much embraced the idea that now he is in his 80s he can say what he likes, when he likes and behave like a pig if he wants to (not sure what his excuse was in his 40's, 50's, 60's or 70's...).

He doesn't try it on all that often now and we're old enough and confident enough now to laugh at his behaviour much of the time - he's an old dog and we're not teaching him any new tricks NOW but we can change how WE respond to him.

I sent him a parcel of stuff addressed to someone else so it looked like it was an accident - all Japanese sweets and crisps - he absolutely DELIGHTED in the thought he'd got someone elses parcel and could eat all of it and they'd never know and he'd never be found out. Like a pig in shit for days he was and as a result MUCH nicer to everyone around him.

I said that I was sorry but there were only enough for everyone to have one each

Please never say sorry to this man, or anyone else, again, when he or they are behaving like this. Someone in your family needs to be firm and call him out, and if that leads to a row, so be it (IMO) and you can disinvite him from your home permanently if he ends up starting a row in it as well. He's still doing it even though he "has form" because people aren't standing up to him. Am no blaming you though OP, these situations are a minefield in families especially at this time of year.

He's a greedy selfish person, this was non-trivial as described, and I do wonder if his attitude is just around food or whether it translates into expecting what he wants when he wants it, regardless of etiquette or common decency, in other parts of his life.

Ugh. My father is just like this. Hoover up more than his share and pretend when challenged that he thought there was plenty for everyone and blame my mum for not buying/ making enough. He'll sit down and start piling up his plate when other people are still arriving at the table. Infuriating. Greed and self importance.

They need on average about 200 more calories a day than women. So that's a couple of slices of toast, or a bag of crisps, or a handful of nuts.

Nobody "needs" cake at all, so trying to apportion based on need would be ridiculous. It's a treat, so you get your share and no more (unless someone offers you theirs).

I cannot believe some twats are trying to justify this fuckers appalling behaviour.

"Men need more calories" ........FFS so he scarfs down 2 expensive cakes meaning someone has none AT ALL and that's OK, after all he has a cock and balls 🤔

I've heard some pathetic excuses in my time but COME ON 🙄

He just sounds greedy. My FIL was very greedy if other people were paying/providing the food.
sometimes he made himself sick.

we were once having a takeaway and SIL left the room to sort one of the children out. she was late to sitting down and we’d all basically finished, so we were leaving the dining room and she said she would just eat with us in there when she was done. In the few minutes from us moving to another room and SIL coming back downstairs, my FIL ate her takeaway. He declared she hadn’t wanted it because why would she leave it.
so my BIL went to get her another and FIL had a massive tantrum that he wanted a second dinner if she was getting a second. There was no reasoning with him…

Wow so essentially he wanted a third dinner after scarfing his own and his daughter's in one sitting? How was he not embarrassed

@ScottishLavender but men do need larger portions on average they need more calories a day, thats just a simple fact

He should not have asked you to give up your cake.

if I was the host though and someone asked for their cake early, I would make it clear that there was only one cake per person and he had to make a choice as to when he ate his portion.

Yanbu he ate his earlier so had his one , he could of waited and ate with everyone else
If i give my kids a bar of chocolate each and one eats it straight away and the other has it a day later , doesn't mean the one who ate it gets another one etc

I feel sorry for the woman he might be married to, how embarrassing for her to show up by Mr greedy fucking cunty twat

On average, 200 calories extra a day. Two slices of bread more.

They don’t need 2x £7.95 cakes while the OP has zero £7.95 cakes, though. That’s not a male calorie thing: that’s a male entitlement thing.

He can’t eat his cake and have it!

This about manners, not sexual dimorphism.

but men do need larger portions on average they need more calories a day, thats just a simple fact

No man on the planet needs 2 patisserie style cakes to meet his nutritional needs unless he is have a hypo or is literally starving and that is the ONLY (sweet) food to hand. And then the same would be true of a woman or child.

My partner didn't really understand this when we started living, shopping and cooking together. This was due to previous lifestyle before buying a house - fewer commitments, more money, and not having learned to budget or plan meals from his parents earlier on. We have extra digestive biscuits, fruit and plenty of bread for sandwiches in the house, to deal with his need for more calories. And the portion sizes of our main meals may not be exactly the same, unless I haven't eaten as much earlier or won't be later. It's not hard, and he's not a plonker, so he doesn't snaffle my share of expensive food (much). 😉

Wow!
So if you didn't even need one, how come he "needed" two?

Awaiting the usual
'But this is your faaaamily! How do you know how many Christmases you have left with him 😱😱'
He sounds an absolute entitled glutton!

I've never seen him do this when a guest or in a restaurant though, he always makes sure no-one else wants the last whatever and would only ask for something if he was really really hungry and not the posh cake, it was just the general food arrangements that needed some work.