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To fart in front of DH?

145 replies

Passthecheeseboard · 03/12/2022 00:23

So been together for 5 years, and we are now completely comfortable with each other, this includes bodily functions. I thought this was normal… But talking to a friend and she has never heard her partner break wind their entire relationship (3 years) and so she doesn’t either… I can only imagine they must be sitting together with sore tummys waiting for the other to leave the room for a discreet moment 🤣

So am I being unreasonable? Is there such thing as being too comfortable in a relationship?

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MadameMackenzie · 03/12/2022 21:01

@Passthecheeseboard The legendary evil fart! This made laugh so much 😆

KimberleyClark · 03/12/2022 21:04

I assume all these happy free farmers also do so in front of people at work, in a restaurant, on public transport etc?

why on earth would you assume that?

Theydoyaknow · 03/12/2022 21:12

God no. Never have, never will. In saying that OH does fart in bed when he is asleep but wouldn’t cock his arse and let one go when we were sitting waiting tv. Ughhh no. I think it’s gross to deliberately do it in company. Nothing funny about it.

FettleOfKish · 03/12/2022 21:22

If a fart is accidental / unexpected then so be it, but I've never purposefully farted in front of anyone, partner, husband, colleague, family, friend...

I don't know how gassy people are that it's a 24/7 battle to hold them in but perhaps a diet or gut health review is in order.

As for intimacy, no, I don't put any intimate value on my Husbands fecal particles nor he mine so I don't feel a lack of open and regular farting harms our relationship.

MistyRock · 04/12/2022 04:12

FettleOfKish · 03/12/2022 21:22

If a fart is accidental / unexpected then so be it, but I've never purposefully farted in front of anyone, partner, husband, colleague, family, friend...

I don't know how gassy people are that it's a 24/7 battle to hold them in but perhaps a diet or gut health review is in order.

As for intimacy, no, I don't put any intimate value on my Husbands fecal particles nor he mine so I don't feel a lack of open and regular farting harms our relationship.

I agree. How often do these 'open' farters actually need to fart. I was a bit gassy last Sunday but since then nothing. Am I unusual to not need to fart on a daily basis? Also I do cook with a lot of beans, lentils etc and still no huge wind issues.

LuckySantangelo35 · 04/12/2022 08:30

Some of you must have such stinky living rooms if you have to fart so much and refuse to go to the bathroom to do it

OrangeFluff · 04/12/2022 09:43

Been with my partner for 5 years. If an accidental one slips out then it’s no big deal, but we would never choose to do it in front of each other. We are very close and intimate, very comfortable together. I don’t feel like the lack of farts means we are missing something special between us.

Maybe we are not gassy people? I really don’t need to fart much, so not a problem to avoid releasing my bowel gas in his presence.

I suppose it’s also a respect thing? He is the person I love most in this world, so he is the one that I make the most effort for. If you wouldn’t do it in front of your boss, relatives, strangers even… why would you inflict it on your partner?

FettleOfKish · 04/12/2022 09:51

LuckySantangelo35 · 04/12/2022 08:30

Some of you must have such stinky living rooms if you have to fart so much and refuse to go to the bathroom to do it

I was thinking this too. A PP upthread surmised that a couple would never be in the same room if they're leaving the room to fart. If they're staying in the room to fart that regularly it must be a foul atmosphere in there Confused

Passthecheeseboard · 04/12/2022 16:58

FettleOfKish · 04/12/2022 09:51

I was thinking this too. A PP upthread surmised that a couple would never be in the same room if they're leaving the room to fart. If they're staying in the room to fart that regularly it must be a foul atmosphere in there Confused

unless you have a bad stomach farts don’t smell everytime though, most are just loud and proud ones

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CookPassBabtridge · 04/12/2022 19:33

I'm one of the non farting posters but could talk about allsorts with my ex.. shit consistency, discharge, I peed infront of him.. anything gross we used to talk about. It's different from releasing toxic gas in each others company 😂

candycrush789 · 04/12/2022 22:00

Mine farts infront of me all the time. I don't infront of him but I do it accidently in my sleep or it comes out by accident he says and I quote 'it's puts him off' don't know if I'm supposed to be a perfect fucking princess or not but in not. There's been many a time I've had a bad stomach cos I've held in farts and he says woman don't fart. He was bought up by his mother who goes ny the same motto. She of course never farts, poos and is perfect 🙄

butterfliedtwo · 04/12/2022 22:04

EmmaDilemma5 · 03/12/2022 06:46

Call me old fashioned but I think purposely farting in front of anyone is rude and gross.

Accidentally/unexpected? Normal, not a problem.

On purpose? Eugh. If I feel one coming, I'll go to the toilet or another room.

Completely agree.

Lydiahateswashing · 04/12/2022 22:24

I think it’s not unreasonable. Unless it’s one of those ones that gets caught in your bits and you have to squiggle over to let it out. Sorry if TMI!!!

PepsiMaxAholic · 04/12/2022 22:36

Lydiahateswashing · 04/12/2022 22:24

I think it’s not unreasonable. Unless it’s one of those ones that gets caught in your bits and you have to squiggle over to let it out. Sorry if TMI!!!

😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

MexLass · 07/03/2023 19:17

Only been with DH for 4 years now but don't often fart in front of him. Lucky he works from home as sometimes my office cubicle is like a gas chamber 😂
It doesn't often happen except on accident sometimes but I mainly pity the other people on the tube😂! Forgive my English as I still speak to my friends and family in spanish!

Zerrin13 · 07/03/2023 23:56

But surely lots of farts are just air and don't have an unpleasant stench to them? Mine are extremely loud and plentiful but they don't smell of anything. If my husband and I had tried to avoid farting infront of each other for over 20 im sure we would have exploded by now

JunkinDonuts · 08/03/2023 00:32

We let it go in front of each other.
Our place sounds like a percussion band is marching through it sometimes.

Emptycrackedcup · 08/03/2023 00:33

We try not to, it's nice to try and keep some things to yourself ... there is such a thing as too much sharing

TMess · 08/03/2023 01:00

I’ve been married ten years and never once have I. I don’t care that he does though he does make somewhat of an attempt to keep it in til I’m not in the room. It was just drilled into me as a child that it’s rude and unmannerly, I can’t break the habit! In theory I don’t care because I’m definitely totally comfortable with DH but in practice, no.

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