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Honeybirds87 · 03/12/2022 07:07

I didn't until I was pregnant with dd1, since then I'm way more gassy. Dh would let rip no problem and in the past would comment on it not being ladylike if I did. That double standard annoyed me. These days everyone in my house farts like some sort of weird orchestra and no-one else cares as long as we say "pardon me"

uhOhOP · 03/12/2022 07:12

Passthecheeseboard · 03/12/2022 00:23

So been together for 5 years, and we are now completely comfortable with each other, this includes bodily functions. I thought this was normal… But talking to a friend and she has never heard her partner break wind their entire relationship (3 years) and so she doesn’t either… I can only imagine they must be sitting together with sore tummys waiting for the other to leave the room for a discreet moment 🤣

So am I being unreasonable? Is there such thing as being too comfortable in a relationship?

There is definitely such a thing as being too comfortable in a relationship, yes, however long you've been together. I'm sure it doesn't affect everybody, but I've definitely felt it in my own relationship, where boundaries that used to be respected aren't, or things that are or are not done out of respect for the other person suddenly fall by the wayside.

I don't know if people will jump on me because I've said this and the thread is about the hilarity of farting rather than something serious.

MistyRock · 03/12/2022 07:44

MissCrowley · 03/12/2022 06:25

I was with my SO around 2 weeks before I got caught pregnant with my DD. As soon as we'd agreed that we were staying together and keeping the baby we relaxed a lot more and farts was the first thing that happened. No way could I hold farts in for 3 years.

You're not really holding it in (for 3 years), you're just nipping to another room or bathroom as you would for other bodily functions. I don't actually find it particularly difficult to NOT fart and I have stomach issues. I wouldn't stand and wet myself in front of anyone so therefore, for me, I wouldn't intentionally fart in front of them.

MissCrowley · 03/12/2022 07:48

@MistyRock you do you my love. We've been together 10 years now and completely happy.

Pretty sure wetting myself and farting in front of my DH are completely different....

Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 03/12/2022 07:57

Passthecheeseboard · 03/12/2022 00:47

OMG me too, I think it’s the nuts, I find if I eat nuts I get such bad farts… I think it must be some sort of allergy… It’s a shame too because I love snacking on cashews😢

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I suspect it’s the skimmed milk powder. I have lactose intolerance and skimmed milk powder has really really high levels of lactose. You might have a very mild level of lactose intolerance, it’s not an all or nothing thing, it’s a sliding scale.

Sorry if I have derailed the thread but it may also be relevant re farts, mine were frequent and sometimes stinky before I discovered that I was lactose intolerant. Much better now.

I still can’t face farting in front of newish DP, mine are so loud! He occasionally lets slip a really quiet discreet one and says ‘excuse me’ if it’s remotely audible.

connie26 · 03/12/2022 07:58

I can't imagine having to run out of the room every time I needed to fart. It sounds exhausting!

PepsiMaxAholic · 03/12/2022 08:00

connie26 · 03/12/2022 07:58

I can't imagine having to run out of the room every time I needed to fart. It sounds exhausting!

I couldn't be doing with it either. Especially when I've had beans or something, I'd be jumping out of bed every 2 minutes 😂

CulturePigeon · 03/12/2022 08:07

Farting and burping in front of anyone else is horrible. It's inconsiderate, to put it mildly. I think it's revolting - why would you do it? Excuse yourself, surely.

Once you start doing that in front of a partner it's fair to say a certain je ne sais quoi in the relationship has definitely gone for ever! It might happen accidentally - we're all animals, basically - but to do it quite deliberately - no thanks.

PepsiMaxAholic · 03/12/2022 08:12

CulturePigeon · 03/12/2022 08:07

Farting and burping in front of anyone else is horrible. It's inconsiderate, to put it mildly. I think it's revolting - why would you do it? Excuse yourself, surely.

Once you start doing that in front of a partner it's fair to say a certain je ne sais quoi in the relationship has definitely gone for ever! It might happen accidentally - we're all animals, basically - but to do it quite deliberately - no thanks.

It depends on the relationship though. If you both do it and both don't mind, and actually find it funny, then where's the harm? Me and DH still fancy each other like mad after almost a decade so definitely doesn't affect anything there.

PuzzledObserver · 03/12/2022 08:56

I can’t remember when the farting started in our relationship, but it was within the first few years I would say.

But I still can’t countenance doing a poo with him in the room. I have occasional bouts of intestinal hurry, and I once really, really had to go when he was enjoying a long hot soak in the bath. There was only one toilet in that house and it was in the bathroom. I made him get out while I did what I needed to.

MistyRock · 03/12/2022 08:57

CulturePigeon · 03/12/2022 08:07

Farting and burping in front of anyone else is horrible. It's inconsiderate, to put it mildly. I think it's revolting - why would you do it? Excuse yourself, surely.

Once you start doing that in front of a partner it's fair to say a certain je ne sais quoi in the relationship has definitely gone for ever! It might happen accidentally - we're all animals, basically - but to do it quite deliberately - no thanks.

Agreed its really quite slovenly imo.

MistyRock · 03/12/2022 08:58

MissCrowley · 03/12/2022 07:48

@MistyRock you do you my love. We've been together 10 years now and completely happy.

Pretty sure wetting myself and farting in front of my DH are completely different....

Of course wetting yourself and farting at completely different, but both can be held in until an appropriate time.
10 years. We'll done. I'm pleased for you both.

Kindofcrunchy · 03/12/2022 08:59

This is pretty much a threadful of people who clearly have digestive issues. I don't think I ever physically feel the need to fart in front of my husband? What's wrong with people?

MiddleParking · 03/12/2022 09:08

Together nearly eight years, two kids (including one vaginal birth), we never fart in front of each other - I actually don’t like saying the word fart full stop, to him or anyone else except the kids while they’re tiny. I think I am quite on the weird end of that scale though but so is he so we’re well matched.

MistyRock · 03/12/2022 09:08

Kindofcrunchy · 03/12/2022 08:59

This is pretty much a threadful of people who clearly have digestive issues. I don't think I ever physically feel the need to fart in front of my husband? What's wrong with people?

I have digestive issues (crohns) and I still don't fart in front of my husband or anyone else for that matter.

Enko · 03/12/2022 09:14

Runningupthathill78 · 03/12/2022 01:04

@Enko this is exactly how I was brought up to think and it has stuck with me. I don't (or try not to) fart in front of anyone. Ever. However, I find farting rather amusing, generally for some reason. But my DH of 11 years farts consistency and putridly in my company which I find utterly disgusting because of the smell (he is diabetic so his tablets do affect this to a degree) but also because he thinks it's okay to fart in my company (I don't) but also on the other side he is aghast (and bangs on about how unladylike I am) if one ever unintentionally slips out of my nether regions whilst he is in the same room. I think it's all down to what you've been brought up to to believe is 'polite'.

Whilst I get your post I was not brought up in a house where it was not allowed. My mum and step dad would joke and deliberately do so. I never liked it i find it unpleasant.

Just mentioned this thread to dh and he said he agrees w me and some things he simply prefers to do in. Private.

I find it really odd that I am accused of being uptight because I don't like this. Yet many times when people talk about hating others chewing they get told they are just fine.

I also don't burp in front of my family

JustDanceAddict · 03/12/2022 09:19

That’s weird, and anyway sometimes one just pops out spontaneously!I can’t remember when we first farted in front of each other, maybe a few months in, but if I couldn’t pass wind in front of a partner I’d feel v uncomfortable in both senses of the word. Maybe not gassing each other every night but ffs it’s a bodily function.

PortiasBiscuit · 03/12/2022 09:21

I wouldn’t fart in front of anyone by choice, but I’m a 58yo vegetarian so I really can’t help it..

LoopDiL00p · 03/12/2022 09:22

No sleep farters in here then?!
I was horrified when DH first told me, but not like I can do much about it if I don't know I'm even doing it.

lightlypoached · 03/12/2022 09:23

Why are farts so funny?

I've just been reading this crying with laughter. I'm 57. 😬

lightlypoached · 03/12/2022 09:26

EmmaDilemma5 · 03/12/2022 06:46

Call me old fashioned but I think purposely farting in front of anyone is rude and gross.

Accidentally/unexpected? Normal, not a problem.

On purpose? Eugh. If I feel one coming, I'll go to the toilet or another room.

My dad used to moan about farting in the lounge 'can't you leave the room to do,that?' I'd always respond with the truth that if I did, id never be in the lounge.

I've got IBD. 😬

Stangerthings · 03/12/2022 09:29

Its not about being comfortable imo its about self respect. It seems anything goes these days. I have never and would never do this.

edenhills · 03/12/2022 09:30

We don't fart in front of each other (on purpose, obviously happens occasionally). I would find that pretty unattractive tbh. Been together 25 years.

BogRollBOGOF · 03/12/2022 09:33

We met in a uni society where one friend would light his farts 😂

I have IBS which I later realised is easily triggered by alcohol/ sugars and aggravated by onions plus low tolerance to lactose and soya. There were a lot of everyday triggers. To have not farted in front of him would have meant living in the bathroom. Since recognising the triggers which was about 15 years into our relationship, things are a lot calmer.

I tried holding it in the first time I met his mother. I don't know why it didn't occur to me to just excuse myself to the toilet, but we'd reached the point of paying the bill and I thought we'd be leaving any moment... and it dragged. By the time we were safely out in the car park I was in awful, cramps. The pressure release was amazing!

Worst was when I was recovering from birth injuries and had poor digestive control and limited sensation. I had no idea that I'd farted until the deed was done. It simply was not possible to not fart in front of him, and at least there wasn't additional embarassment of having previously censored basic body functions in front of him.

Clarich007 · 03/12/2022 09:52

On our 2nd date with the love of my life.
I had bought new clothes hair make up, nails, the lot and feeling great.
We got out the car and walked over to the restaurant over some stony ground. My heel got caught, turned my ankle and as I stumbled, I let out the loudest fart that sounded like Donald Duck playing a trumpet.!!
I was mortified and froze daren't look at him. I heard a snort behind me, turned and saw he was hanging onto a lampost laughing with tears streaming down his face. I knew he was a keeper 😂😁