To fart in front of DH?

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So been together for 5 years, and we are now completely comfortable with each other, this includes bodily functions. I thought this was normal… But talking to a friend and she has never heard her partner break wind their entire relationship (3 years) and so she doesn’t either… I can only imagine they must be sitting together with sore tummys waiting for the other to leave the room for a discreet moment 🤣

So am I being unreasonable? Is there such thing as being too comfortable in a relationship?

Hahaha we fart in front of each other all the time. It's not a big deal. Bodies do this, better than feeling uncomfortable holding it in?

I have to agree, after I read this thread last night, I thought about how often I fart, I couldn't recall any yesterday or the day before. And I've been wfh alone so no need to hold it in!

We're vegetarians who like spicy food so being shy about farting has never been an option. Which is lucky as DH now has bowel cancer and I cannot even begin to imagine how much worse this experience would be if he felt he had to sneak around being weirdly secretive about it all lest I faint like a Victorian lady. No good comes of pretending you aren't physical beings with bodies that do things.

I’ve never farted in front of a partner and I wouldn’t like it if they did

I have to agree, after I read this thread last night, I thought about how often I fart, I couldn't recall any yesterday or the day before. And I've been wfh alone so no need to hold it in!

Blimey I wish I had your bowels. What's your diet like out of interest?? 👀

Both of us let rip, was quite early on in the relationship. Married almost 16 years. It's a natural bodily function.

Breakfast porridge, mixed berries and coconut milk
Lunch - sandwich and soup
Dinner - Chicken fajita with avocado, side of sweet potato fries.

Snack, cereal bar and an orange

That was yesterday, obviously not the same everyday.

I mean, I obviously cannot say 100% I didn't fart yesterday as I don't make a record of everytime i fart 😂. And if im on my own im gonna be more thoughtless about it. I just really can't recall a desperate urge to fart at any point yesterday or day before

I barely fart, I just healthy eat.. lots of fruit, veg, chicken, fish, protein bars and shakes. When I come off it for a binge sesh I fart like a sailor 😆

But no I think farting around someone I'm intimate with is grim, I don't wanna smell each others bowels.. instant turn off. Sometimes one slips out and its hilarious, but regularly letting them out or even worse pushing them out is gross. Never felt uncomfortable for holding them in.. I just let it out internally 😂 or when I'm alone.

I am genuinely perplexed by these people who say they've been married 15 years or whatever and have never heard one another fart....

No judgement intended etc but I just don't understand the mechanics of this. Surely this mean you can't be sharing a bed? You know people fart in their sleep? It also must mean you would be having to leave the room in certain circumstances multiple times in a single hour just to go and fart without it being heart/smelled....

I get that farting with abandon all the time can be a bit gross and offputting, particularly if its really smelly. Some people overdo it for comic effect and that's naff and not great for the sex life.

But if you share a home with someone and they've been aware that you have the use the toilet etc, it seems an insanely tortuous leap to tie your life in knots like this to maintain the pretence that you don't fart.

If you don't push it out and ley it pop

pop inside your bum then it doesn't smell 😆

This made me laugh out loud! Thank you. 🤣

Farting in sleep is different. We can't control it.
I just don't feel the need to fart that often.

i don’t fart “multiple times an hour” honestly I don’t think that’s normal, not everyone farts constantly, how do you work or do you just sit there farting multiple times an hour? Thought not

Farts happen …

We have been together for 20 year … farts yep (not that we force them out).

“Is it safe to go in there” if someone has been for a poo (along with faux coughing and “my eyes are burning”

I once got a sudden and unexpected dose of a the trots, when he was in the shower, and had to burst in the bathroom and use the loo (I was profusely apologising at the same time)

We just laugh about these things, all part of life’s rich tapestry

If DH didn't fart in front of me I'd never see him! He's very windy. I think I knew I'd spend the rest of my life with him when the first one escaped accidentally when we were taking his elderly aunt out, he looked at me, I looked at him, she turned around (she was slightly deaf) and said "did you say something?" and we just about died laughing. If you can't feel comfortable and laugh there's no hope, I have been in an abusive relationship previously so it was like chalk and cheese. Dds clearly inherited the windy gene too.I have terrible IBS so I tend not to risk it!

Not all the time, no of course, but there are certain circumstances, after you've had spicy food or have been drinking alcohol or coffee, for example, when your body needs to expel this.

I have had this experience, as has my DP and my daughter. I don't think its particularly abnormal or pathological that most people sometimes when they are digesting certain foods need to fart a lot.

Obviously if I was at work or at the theatre or whatever I would manage it as best I could.

But at home I simply wouldn't be prepared, if I'd had a spicy meal the night before, to go off and cloister myself somewhere in order to avoid the risk that a fart may inadvertently escape. Life is just too short to keep up this level of pretence with your nearest and dearest.

Spicy food or alcohol doesn’t make me fart loads, we are not all the same!

I seem to recall one army officer at dinner complain to another officer that he had farted before the complainant's wife to which the second officer responded with a deep apology that he hadn't realised it was her turn.

@123ROLO no dairy. Noted 📝🤞🏼

Fair enough. But as you say everyone's digestive system is different and surely you could understand that if you were a "farty" person it wouldn't be sustainable to take yourself out of circulation every time there was a risk of it happpening...

I'm probably not the best person to answer this as I have been known to heave one out on my partner on purpose.

😂

This is really funny. 😂

Is there such a thing as being too comfortable in a healthy relationship? I don't think so - being comfortable doesn't mean being lazy. Anyway we got over the farting thing after a short period of time - who the hell cares?

Yeah this.

I have let them slip by accident and so has he but I wouldn’t do it on purpose or want him to because.. they smell.