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LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:11

Tusktusk · 01/12/2022 22:08

Just to add, my DCs dad (my ex) is an absolute charmer who will use any opportunity he can to point out what a shit parent I am (while doing very little parenting himself) so that’s an extra layer of crap to this crap story. If he finds out (which he likely will) he’ll be over the moon at the confirmation of his low opinion of me. Not that it will make him ask to have to have DC more (seeing as he’s so great and I’m not) - no, he’ll just leave them to their fate with their shit mum and judge from a distance. So that’ll be fun.

So did your ex go to the parents evening?

Conkersareback · 01/12/2022 22:11

Tusktusk · 01/12/2022 20:35

I think I’m most bothered about how I will explain it to DC when they ask. They will think I don’t care.

You had a blinding migraine, I hope you feel better soon

Chuntypops · 01/12/2022 22:12

God that doesn’t even register as being that bad.

I sent the wrong twin to nursery. I had to ring them and apologise. They’re not even identical and my husband had simply picked up the one that had a coat on. And didn’t notice either.

EarringsandLipstick · 01/12/2022 22:13

This is called kicking someone when they’re down. Plus, you’re not sure how someone forgot something, really?

Oh go away 🙄

Read my post properly, do - it's not very long

I don't know how someone forgets a p/t meeting but equally I recognise we all make mistakes & I encouraged her to apologise & move on.

Hardly 'kicking' anyone. FFS

CloudPop · 01/12/2022 22:13

Chuntypops · 01/12/2022 22:12

God that doesn’t even register as being that bad.

I sent the wrong twin to nursery. I had to ring them and apologise. They’re not even identical and my husband had simply picked up the one that had a coat on. And didn’t notice either.

😂

Conkersareback · 01/12/2022 22:14

Chuntypops · 01/12/2022 22:12

God that doesn’t even register as being that bad.

I sent the wrong twin to nursery. I had to ring them and apologise. They’re not even identical and my husband had simply picked up the one that had a coat on. And didn’t notice either.

This is brilliant! Love it!

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Tusktusk · 01/12/2022 22:15

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet I have no idea. Probably. I would like to have the kind of coparent relationship with him where we can talk about this kind of thing but … see my previous post about his attitude towards me. Just this morning I had a shitty text from him about a parenting decision I’d made (that had nothing whatsoever to do with him).

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Conkersareback · 01/12/2022 22:15

EarringsandLipstick · 01/12/2022 22:13

This is called kicking someone when they’re down. Plus, you’re not sure how someone forgot something, really?

Oh go away 🙄

Read my post properly, do - it's not very long

I don't know how someone forgets a p/t meeting but equally I recognise we all make mistakes & I encouraged her to apologise & move on.

Hardly 'kicking' anyone. FFS

You don't know how someone forgets an appointment, it happens a lot, I can assure you!

rainingcats · 01/12/2022 22:16

Email your child’s tutor tomorrow. Apologise for missing parents evening and ask if they are able to feedback any concerns or positives to you.

I am a secondary school teacher and have this type of email on a regular basis.

Flutterbybudget · 01/12/2022 22:16

Tusktusk · 01/12/2022 20:24

I forgot to attend my DC’s parents evening.

Here’s my list of excuses:
I have a very demanding job
I worked late
I have had a headache all day
DC isn’t with me this evening to remind me with their presence
Parents evening was online, not at school, which makes it seem less of an ‘event’ in my internal calendar
DC is doing fine by all available evidence so I have no concerns on my mind

But you know what, these are terrible excuses and I am struggling to forgive myself.

Feel like a truly shitty parent tonight.

I’ve done it before.
Amd yesterday morning, I forgot my daughters physio appointment - and my older daughter took her.
Ive sent my kids to school on numerous inservice days.
Heck, I even left my son in the shopping trolley one day 🙈
We all have C.R.A.F.T. Moments at times
(for the uninitiated - CRAFT as opposed to Senior moments just means “Can’t remember a f thing)

HowDoYouOwnDisorder · 01/12/2022 22:16

Not a big deal

I did this as well for DS (16)

I wrote a brief e-mail to each teacher to apologise (scoured the school website for their e-mail addresses), krot it short, just explained I was not feeling well, and asked if they had any comments they wanted to give me about how DS was doing this year)

All of them write back, saying no problem and gave some feedback

It was really not a big deal

I also explained to DS who is very sensitive and briefly felt hurt, but was also mature enough to understand I am only human and was having a tough time with work/stress/health, and he actually made me a cup of tea and said he did not mind and that I am only human

So all fine

Hope it is the same for you ☕️

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:17

Tusktusk · 01/12/2022 22:15

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet I have no idea. Probably. I would like to have the kind of coparent relationship with him where we can talk about this kind of thing but … see my previous post about his attitude towards me. Just this morning I had a shitty text from him about a parenting decision I’d made (that had nothing whatsoever to do with him).

How would we find out you didn’t go to PE?

Ignore the shitbag. No wonder you feel this way! Reply saying “we are not Co parents, I will only read and answer texts that are about contact arrangements”.

Unless he’s been to every parents evening he has no right to say anything to you. And make sure you tell the school that you don’t want him having ANY information about you such as PE attendance.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:18

His all these people telling the OP to apologise to her son and teachers.

I missed a parents evening when it went online - easy to do. The teacher emailed me saying “Hi is everything ok - we were meant to have a Zoom call at 4.40pm”.

I just replied “Oops!” and got on with my day 🤣 certainly didn’t apologise to my son!

EmilyGilmoresSass · 01/12/2022 22:18

If it makes you feel better, my mother actually did attend my MUCH younger brothers (think 20+ year age gap) parent evening and got to see about 5 out of 13 teachers anyway!

girlmom21 · 01/12/2022 22:20

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:18

His all these people telling the OP to apologise to her son and teachers.

I missed a parents evening when it went online - easy to do. The teacher emailed me saying “Hi is everything ok - we were meant to have a Zoom call at 4.40pm”.

I just replied “Oops!” and got on with my day 🤣 certainly didn’t apologise to my son!

Your story isn't funny, it's rude. The OP has emailed the teachers to apologise, because she isn't rude.

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Tusktusk · 01/12/2022 22:22

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet he will find out because my DC will probably tell him!

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Conkersareback · 01/12/2022 22:22

@girlmom21 the PP says apologise to her son , not the teacher!

So you're "I'd apologise to the teacher" is irrelevant.

Catch up!

girlmom21 · 01/12/2022 22:24

Conkersareback · 01/12/2022 22:22

@girlmom21 the PP says apologise to her son , not the teacher!

So you're "I'd apologise to the teacher" is irrelevant.

Catch up!

Erm she said that she said "oops" to the teacher with no apology

EarringsandLipstick · 01/12/2022 22:25

You don't know how someone forgets an appointment, it happens a lot, I can assure you!

Sigh.

Not what I said.

P/t meetings are significant, I find it hard that they are forgotten. Not any appointment.

It's still just a mistake, that OP doesn't need to continue to feel bad about, which is what I said

EarringsandLipstick · 01/12/2022 22:26

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:18

His all these people telling the OP to apologise to her son and teachers.

I missed a parents evening when it went online - easy to do. The teacher emailed me saying “Hi is everything ok - we were meant to have a Zoom call at 4.40pm”.

I just replied “Oops!” and got on with my day 🤣 certainly didn’t apologise to my son!

You just replied 'oops' and didn't actually say sorry?? 😳

That's so rude

TattiePants · 01/12/2022 22:28

DD called me at 2.50 yesterday afternoon to ask where I was as I should have picked her up from school 15 minutes earlier. I completely forgot that Wednesday is her early finish and she’d been standing outside in the cold….on her birthday! She only started secondary school in September and it’s the second time I’ve forgotten to pick her up early.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:28

girlmom21 · 01/12/2022 22:20

Your story isn't funny, it's rude. The OP has emailed the teachers to apologise, because she isn't rude.

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Oh noooooo a random stranger on MN thinks I’m rude and not funny 😭😭😭😭 however will I cope?!

Oh wait. I don’t care.

SunlightThroughTrees · 01/12/2022 22:29

EarringsandLipstick · 01/12/2022 22:13

This is called kicking someone when they’re down. Plus, you’re not sure how someone forgot something, really?

Oh go away 🙄

Read my post properly, do - it's not very long

I don't know how someone forgets a p/t meeting but equally I recognise we all make mistakes & I encouraged her to apologise & move on.

Hardly 'kicking' anyone. FFS

I did read your post properly and expressed an opinion on what you said. We’re allowed to disagree with each other without needing to be rude and telling someone to go away.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 22:29

girlmom21 · 01/12/2022 22:24

Erm she said that she said "oops" to the teacher with no apology

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She wasn’t talking about me

TakingThePlunge22 · 01/12/2022 22:29

Aw bless you...shit happens!

I had a zoom parents evening for DD last week - she's in Year 13.

Firstly I missed the email, then managed to book slots with 2 out of 3 tutors at the 11th hour.

We sat down at 5.50pm to log on for our first chat (6pm) last Wednesday after DD have asked me at least three times if I'd checked the timeslots.

I'd got the bloody day wrong!