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to think the census data on religion should mean some changes to how we view the Church of England in this country

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cakeorwine · 29/11/2022 18:52

ONS data on religion released today

For the first time in a census of England and Wales, less than half of the population (46.2%, 27.5 million people) described themselves as “Christian”, a 13.1 percentage point decrease from 59.3% (33.3 million) in 2011; despite this decrease, “Christian” remained the most common response to the religion question.

“No religion” was the second most common response, increasing by 12.0 percentage points to 37.2% (22.2 million) from 25.2% (14.1 million) in 2011.

You can find out about your area here

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/culturalidentity/religion/bulletins/religionenglandandwales/census2021

An interesting map is available - you can zoom in to local areas
The number of Christians is falling. Still a high percentage but less than half the population of England and Wales say they are Christian.

Christianity could mean Catholicism, C of E and other Christian faiths.

So should this mean we look at 'the State Religion', having Bishops in the House of Lords and the link between the Monarch being the Head of the Church of England. Basically - look at distestablishing the Church of England from the State.

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Chocchops72 · 30/11/2022 07:01

I live in France where the state and church are separate. My children attend local schools, which are completely laïque. No prayers, no assemblies, no visits from the minister, no end of term service, no Carol service. No mention of religion in teaching except in history / geography. I love it tbh. I don’t have to fake belief that I don’t hold to get my kids into a good local school, and they don’t get indoctrinated.

however, there are many religious schools here, all private, mostly Catholic but also Jewish and Muslim ones. The Catholic ones have a reputation for being stricter than the state schools, which some parents prefer. The teachers also pride themselves on being more dedicated to their students - which seems to translate mostly into not striking when the education National teachers do. It’s clear that the old social hierarchies operate through the biggest and most highly regarded of the Catholic privées, at least in my city which is renowned for being very conservative and Catholic: for some, sending their kids to these schools is very important as it gets them into the ‘right’ circles. Other parents just see the privées as a way to avoid the worst of underperforming local schools. The fees aren’t high, and the schools are funded by the government.

Ihearticecream · 30/11/2022 07:07

loislovesstewie · 30/11/2022 06:45

I'm with France on this, I believe in total separation of state and religions and I mean ALL religion. I think people should keep their beliefs to themselves, no one at all should expect special treatment as they have some belief in a supernatural being. I don't want to know what your god thinks you should be doing, neither should it impinge on my non belief. If you believe fine, but otherwise ,no. No bishops in the House of Lords, in fact I would do away with that altogether. No funding of religious schools, by the state or any funding of any other organization that is purely religious in nature. And I agree that only civil marriages should be recognized, if people want a religious service after that,OK , but there needs to be a civil ceremony first. I'm sure that wouldn't be popular with some but if any person believes then they are free to do so, just don't shove it down my throat. Glad I've got that off my chest!

As long as the civil ceremonies are much improved! I’ve been to all kinds of ceremonies and the civil ones were by far the worst! Not in anyway personal and the officiant was just in a rush to get to their next paid job!
Do other countries do it better?

SkinnyFatte · 30/11/2022 07:15

I am pro-secularism, definitely. That doesn't mean banning the CofE or Christianity at all, it just means the Church should be separate from State. People forget that our morality doesn't just come from Christianity, it comes from our own innate sense of right and wrong. Also, whilst we have a long-standing relationship with Christianity in this country, we also have many other faiths here that people find guidance from. The Bishops in the HoL having votes and vetoes on Bills that turn into law is an outdated privilege.

I'm an atheist. Was christened according to tradition rather than faith. Attended a CofE school because there were no other types in the area I grew up in. Never got confirmed because I realised I didn't believe in it. But am I still Christian because I was christened? No. Some might say yes. On my mother's side there hasn't been a strong religious conviction since my great-grandmother's time. My dad's side is a bit more religious. His mother did a lot for her church, my uncle is a devotee, and my aunt organised a funeral for her husband with a vicar and prayers, despite not attending church unless for important life events. My dad is agnostic. He's already planned his Humanist funeral. He's Christian by birth, confirmed like his siblings, but is he still a Christian? Again, maybe yes, maybe no.

loislovesstewie · 30/11/2022 07:30

My DH and I were married in the register office, I didn't feel that it lacked anything as being,non-religious ,for us, we were adhering to legal requirements. As I said if people want religious stuff then do that after, but the civil ceremony was started to give those of us with no religion a legal framework to be married. Until 1836 all marriages had to be religious in nature and civil marriages were opposed strenuously by the CofE. A simple statement and declaration was enough for us and I think keeping it that way is best.

cakeorwine · 30/11/2022 07:30

HardRock · 29/11/2022 23:57

OP do you understand how the law works?

If we separate church and state then where will the moral force for justice come from?

Seems like a slippery slope.

Less and less people might say they’re Christian or CofE because they don’t understand the faith.

Other countries seem to cope.

I am sure that we could figure out justice without having to involve the Church of England.

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cakeorwine · 30/11/2022 07:34

Ihearticecream · 30/11/2022 06:12

This feels like a sad thread. Where I am there are religious schools of many different religions and very highly rated.
I’m not sure what the answer is.

Who has said that religious schools would stop?
No issue with religions running schools.

There is a question over villages where there is just 1 choice of school and it's a church school. And that is historic due to the role of the church in providing schools.

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cakeorwine · 30/11/2022 07:36

HardRock · 30/11/2022 01:11

Are you suggesting there should be a consultation with other faith groups? That’s not a bad idea.

And what does your previous consideration think about the church’s arguments?

In some debates I have felt genuinely terrified if the church (or equivalent) wasn’t there to speak up for the vulnerable in society and signal the virtues of compassion.

You don't have to be religious to speak up for the vulnerable.

At times, it seems that people who claim to be religious forget about the vulnerable.

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loislovesstewie · 30/11/2022 07:42

I disagree with religious schools, I was sent to one, it was the only choice my parents had. I came out an atheist. Constantly being berated for not conforming to their belief system did it for me. Parents should be the ones who decide on religion and whether they attend church etc, teach comparative religions in school but don't promote one over the other. In my case neither parent really believed ,but the school did my head in.

pursuedbyablackdog · 30/11/2022 07:52

I don't know if this has been mentioned, as I've only skim read previous posts. But most faith schools are dual funded, they take less out of the government pot because the faith to which they belong help with funding. It's one of the reasons these schools often have better or more updated facilities than centrally funded schools. (
Our primary is C of E. a few years ago it needed a new roof. The church agreed to fund 65% of the cost. Christian, Muslim and Jewish schools are often better funded than their state counter parts.

OMG12 · 30/11/2022 07:55

Iwritethissittinginthekitchensink · 30/11/2022 06:17

I don’t agree that mindfulness is a bit of a free for all - I don’t think anyone who has practiced it would agree. The practice teaches people to tap into the ‘observer self’ vs the self that has thoughts and feelings, which is essentially a commonality with most religions - tapping into god with us - what Christianity calls Emmanuel. The free for all you refer to might be a surface perception of the freedom that brings people into it (which is in contrast to the structured mythology/theology that people have to be inducted into with Christianity or any other religion). With mindfulness, people are free to believe what they want and call things what they want, but what they find - God in us - the observer self - is common amongst all who practice.

Each religion has its own language and framework to describe things but all describe common human experiences. If you really dig into them all and the human mind you find that we all have common innate values inside. And science/psychology is beginning to describe this e.g. we know that the body thrives when we live inside a window of tolerance of our feelings, particularly in a zone of gratitude and appreciation, and we know what conditions we need in order to live in that zone most of the time (i.e. needing to feel safe and secure, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs etc).

I think it’s only a matter of time until we move towards a more inclusive way of describing our humanity and what conditions make our minds and bodies thrive, which forms the basis for what values we need to have for society to thrive.

Totally agree with the commonality of human subconscious-it’s a concept which has been tapped into through millennia of meditation. It’s the source of a perenial philosophy which is expressed differently through time an geography.

I find it interesting that you use Eastern spiritual terminology. I think this is possibly one of the dangers that people reject one cultural back ground for another, whether it be eastern philosophy (often incorrectly sold to the cross phobic as secular/scientific (“quantum physics is proving what we’ve always known” said every Sunday morning yoga teacher).

Psychology to that extent is just another language for this truth that’s transcended time. I guess the problem.l isn’t anyone who goes deep into any philosophy of how this all works (it’s basically linguistic framing) but where people dabble it’s difficult to control without a framework. Religion for example provides this.

I spend hours every week meditating (I practice discursive meditation which is more common in western practices rather than mind emptying). It’s easy for the mind to stray and things come up where it’s useful to have a framework. If that framework is psychology, religion, spirituality, philosophy etc it doesn’t really matter

Epicstorm · 30/11/2022 08:00

ArseInTheCoOpWindow ·
Yes absolutely. The thread on Rememberence Sunday really highlighted this.

Could you expand or link the thread please?

I’m torn by the shop opening hours debate. I sometimes think that if we had the old quiet/nothing doing Sundays of old it might help by providing a bit of down time and help with people’s stress and anxiety. At the same time maybe people would be more stressed by not being able to shop at a convenient time for them. Not sure what would be best for shop workers etc though.

cakeorwine · 30/11/2022 08:11

I think the thing that the State (and the C of E) needs to remember is:

a) A lot of the country are not religious
b) Those who are religious are not necessarily Christian
c) Those who are Christian are not necessarily C of E

So that should be taken on board when it comes to 'State' stuff.

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mostlydrinkstea · 30/11/2022 08:14

As far as I understand it it is legally quite complicated to disestablish the C of E. It doesn't mean it can't be done but it isn't a decision at tea time and do it next day.

There are some pragmatic issues around schools. The C of E owns the land which the schools are on. Is the government going to stump up billions to buy the land off the church? It would solve the financial problems of the dioceses, but that might seem a step too far in these financially precarious times.

The presence of bishops in the House of Lords upsets some people. What it gives the governance of the country is a group of people who have actually studied ethics and have usually worked on the ground as parish priests dealing with the people who fall through the cracks in the system. How do you replace one of the checks and balances in our constitutional system if you remove them?

ivykaty44 · 30/11/2022 08:17

Shopping on a Sunday will not change in the U.K. due to economic reasons, it’s a day worth £billions long hours will come in for Sunday trading to help boost the economy. I don’t like it but it’s what will happen

our entire constitution monarchy would have to be changed to remove king as head of church. After the brexit nightmare I can’t see people would be willing for more unknown change.

qpmz · 30/11/2022 08:24

olivehater · 29/11/2022 19:20

Top of my list is keeping the bloody shops open past 4pm on Sundays! Archaic

Because people in retail don’t have it bad enough?!?

Online shopping is 24/7.

Alaimo · 30/11/2022 08:25

Fizbosshoes · 29/11/2022 23:34

But wouldn't the basics of all religions (apologies if I'm wrong) and principles of decent non religious people be teaching right from wrong, don't steal from others, treat people kindly etc...?
Iirc after the Grenfell Tower fire a local mosque provided food, shelter etc for people who had escaped the fire. And last year when there was some issue with brexit/covid testing causing chaos with Lorries crossing the channel, the Sikh community nearby delivered meals to lorry drivers who had been in their cabs for days.

I used to belong to a church and then i left because i felt hypocritical. I didn't agree with their stance on women, and their roles in church (or society as a whole) , or on homosexuality....but the thing I miss more than anything is the sense of community and my friends - far more than any teachings

There's a movement called Sunday Assembly that organises secular Sunday services. A friend of mine goes to our local one and she really enjoys it.

ErrolTheDragon · 30/11/2022 08:30

our entire constitution monarchy would have to be changed to remove king as head of church. After the brexit nightmare I can’t see people would be willing for more unknown change.

The monarch is the head of all sorts of things, I don't see there's any fundamental reason he still couldn't be. It might make a difference to the CofE if it wasn't tied to the monarchy but the comparison to brexit is odd. What actual differences would it make to people? (Other than good ones like fairer school admissions hopefully).

ErrolTheDragon · 30/11/2022 08:35

The presence of bishops in the House of Lords upsets some people. What it gives the governance of the country is a group of people who have actually studied ethics and have usually worked on the ground as parish priests dealing with the people who fall through the cracks in the system. How do you replace one of the checks and balances in our constitutional system if you remove them?

No, it's the automatic places which are the problem. There would be no reason whatever why some bishops (along with other religious or secularist leaders) shouldn't still be eligible to be part of the second chamber but on an equal footing to the rest.

loislovesstewie · 30/11/2022 08:36

There are only 2 legislatures where clerics sit in government, UK and Iran. I think that says it all for me.

HardRock · 30/11/2022 08:36

cakeorwine · 30/11/2022 07:36

You don't have to be religious to speak up for the vulnerable.

At times, it seems that people who claim to be religious forget about the vulnerable.

The church goes beyond simply speaking up for the vulnerable. Where I live the church is probably the only institution advocating a community and social conscience to care for the vulnerable.

People are inherently selfish. People sometimes need a bit of spiritual guidance to be there for others in need… it’s very sad.

“You don't have to be religious to speak up for the vulnerable.”

In the debates I’ve seen, the church is the one group that can be counted on to speak up for the vulnerable consistently. The church doesn’t speak up for the needy to earn brownie points in a debate; they speak up for the vulnerable because it’s at the core of the Christian faith.

Without the church and Christian ethos offering a moral framework, I would worry about the most vulnerable in society.

midgetastic · 30/11/2022 08:38

Clingfilm · 29/11/2022 19:04

Top of my list is keeping the bloody shops open past 4pm on Sundays! Archaic.

Watching escape to the chateau the other day I was surprised that only civil ceremonies are classed as legally binding in France, as they're not a religious state, hadn't occured to me before.

This is separate to religion though even if it's history is from there

Do we really want the stress and cost of a 24*7 society ?

I don't

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 30/11/2022 08:38

No one is getting rid of the C of E

But separating church and state would do this. Monarch being head of both!

Does nobody remember Henry VIII?

And FFS! Iran?!?!

midgetastic · 30/11/2022 08:39

People can hold 2 jobs

You could appoint someone else as head of the c of e

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 30/11/2022 08:39

Aargh! Posted too soon

Iran?? What does it take to make that comparison? How bloody deluded, shallow of thought etc? Iran! Think that through!

churlishapple · 30/11/2022 08:39

@pursuedbyablackdog that's part of the problem, corruption. The religious schools often get funding from their respective institutions, and this is why they have power and control given to them by the government.

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