Awake in pain, can I wake my husband up for support or is that mean?

[JKDcot]

I’ve been awake for hours due to a horrid infection. I have started to feel really anxious and not sure if I need to go to a 24 hour supermarket to try and get some medicine. Should I wake my husband for support or is that mean? I know he can’t make the pain go away

Because she is in a lot of pain and is unsure what to do. Did you just post to be unkind and make yourself feel better?

Good news about the antibiotics, keep drinking loads and weeing in the bath if necessary. No need to us soap,just a bit on the outside, never inside.

So glad you have antibiotics, OP. Hope you feel better soon.

I do wash myself with soap but very dilute foam with the shower water. Some shower gels can be more irritating than others though.

No, just water, a GPS told me this agter recurrent utis and thrush,water only, and DEFO not Femfresh as they're worse than normal soap or shower gel.
I find I don't smell at all either just using water

You're not being over the top, I've had a particularly bad overnight UTI before and it was horrendous, peeing every 5 minutes for 6 hours is a special kind of he'll, I even told the doc it was that bad had I owned a gun I would have shot myself that night

@JKDcot Cystitis is awful, I used to suffer regularly. Little tips for going forward... try to have cranberry juice in the house, you can buy long life and it really helps me. At first signs I start drinking copious amounts of water and cranberry. Sit in a bath of warm water and pee in there if you like, it's blissful after peeing glass on the toilet.

I absolutely hate taking antibiotics and, on this basis, my doctor allows me to keep some on standby. She knows I will head off the cystitis myself if I can, but if you suffer regularly, you start to know when antibiotics will be needed.

And it it's the middle of the night, get yourself on the sofa in the living room and watch rubbish tv to divert your mind. Hope you're on the mend.

Please always wake your loved one.there is something so rediculous about a kind word when your scared from someone who cares. In that instant your whole fight or flight response can settle.

anti biopics can give you tummy upset but that is literally them doing their job. But in the meantime they are getting rid of good bacteria too.so taking some sort of probiotic can ease it.also eat something with them to coat your stomach.and gentle circle massage can help.

I’m glad you’ve managed to get some antibiotics and I hope you’re feeling much better soon.
Everything feels so much worse at night or in the early hours of the morning, don’t take any notice of any of the nasty comments. Your husband sounds lovely ☺️

If you can then order yourself some probiotics to take alongside the antibiotics then hopefully your tummy will suffer less too 🤞🏼

Let him sleep, at least one of you will be rested tomorrow. You may want him to take you to the doctor's office, or to pick up your prescription at a pharmacy. If there is nothing he can do for you in the night, don't inflict your suffering on him.

Cranberry juice is the worst thing to drink. You need to neutralize the acid, not add to it.

Don't be selfish, he cant alleviate your pain,
In the morning greet him with a nice cup of tea, followed by a full English
It will make you feel a lot better, to be nice to the breadwinner

I don’t know if anyone mentioned this so sorry if I’m repeating but drinking loads of water when you have cystitis isn’t a good idea. Cranberry juice works great simple but very effective.

Something a pharmacist told me once, OP, is not to use the cystitis sachets alongside antibiotics as they will stop the antibiotics working well.

As someone who has recurring cystitis you have my sympathy it is awful. Only anti biotics clear mine and I get it so bad I take 2 after sex. If you do get it again and can't get to a doctors take ibuprofen not paracetamol. Drink one pint of water quickly then sip water over the next few hours. Get a hot water bottle and put it between your legs it makes it easier to wee. And don't listen to any of the people who said you shouldn't feel anxious. It's awful!

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I hope the antibiotics are starting to work. I had it recurrently and I can tell you are not overreacting it is a true form of torture. Don't ever wash with soap, just warm water and keep the sachets in just incase if you find you get it regularly. Just pain relief and get to the doctor at the first sign to have a dip test. It's too painful to 'leave and see how you get on'. You have my sympathies, luckily antibiotics tend to work pretty quickly and you might get a decent rest tonight.

The comment regarding "not waking the breadwinner" was amusing. 😂 Erm.....I woke my DH. What an evil so and so I was 🤣

Hot water bottle is the only thing that gets me through!

I feel really sorry for you OP.
Keep drinking and take some painkillers. Dont stop drinking however much it hurts to wee
I hope you feel able to wake you DH up as night times always seem to make illness feel even worse.

I use a soap-free wash, OP - Dermol is good (I've had it on prescription before; you can also track it down online), but something like E45 would also work.

I sympathise; cystitis is horrible and can be so painful. I had it really badly once, years ago, and wouldn’t you know it; it took a turn for the worse and I was carted off to hospital by ambulance in the middle of the night. Ended up with a nasty case of pyelonephritis - where the infection tracks upwards to the kidneys - and was in there for a week, completely out of it for quite a few days 😕 So you must always take it seriously.

Lemon barley water is much better than cranberry ime. Hope you're feeling better!

Depends on your husband and your relationship with him…
I know partners who would love to support their partner… hell I’d be gutted if I woke up after a nights sleep knowing my loved one had been suffering all night alone! However when I was in labour I tried to be as quiet as possible to let my husband sleep because I didn’t want him to be tired!! Some of us are givers, carers, others aren’t!…. So it depends which your other half is!

There is no scientific evidence of what I am going to say. I only know this worked for me. I used to suffer dreadfully from cystitis as a teenager. My auntie told me to get a large bath towel and put it between my legs. Then when I needed to pee (and remember you are passing a very small amount) just pee into the towel. It is the getting up and out of a warm bed to go to the toilet that makes you feel worse. The bath towel gives you confidence as you think you are going to pee loads. I did this with a hot water bottle on my stomach and one on my back. I was so bad I was sitting up on the sofa like this. I eventually fell asleep and in the morning my symptoms had gone!. Vigorous sex can bring on cystitis so empty your bladder afterwards. I always wash my genitals with Femfresh which is PH neutral. Never ever use scented stuff in the bath, showering is better. Cranberry juice is just coloured water, much better to get cranberry capsules which are more concentrated. Avoid too much alcohol and drink lots and lots of water. Don't delay getting treament as any infection can travel to your kidneys.

I am not a medical person , but have very occasionally experienced this condition. I think it is the result of an infection within the bladder.
As a paliative I resort to a weak beer or two. That provides a quantity of liquid but it is fairly sterilising and slightly anaethetising due to the alcohol content.
However, too high a concentration of alcohol is not good idea, and may become an irritant.

I remember reading in Cosmo when I was in my twenties that making sure you have a wee after sex helps flush anything out before it gets hold, so I have religiously got up to go for a wee every time for thirty years or more! I don't always want to when I'm feeling all close and comfy, but I haven't had cystitis yet 🤞, though I could just have been lucky.

Hope you get some relief soon.