Awake in pain, can I wake my husband up for support or is that mean?

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I’ve been awake for hours due to a horrid infection. I have started to feel really anxious and not sure if I need to go to a 24 hour supermarket to try and get some medicine. Should I wake my husband for support or is that mean? I know he can’t make the pain go away

You have my sympathy too!
I wouldn’t wake your husband as you want him to be A1 this morning to look after you.
30 years ago my GP told me to eat toast, then sit on the loo with a constant supply of water and keep drinking and stay there for as long as you can!
Maybe medical advice has changed now, but it’s advice I have always followed.
Send dp out for medication in the morning.
I hope you get over it soon, I understand the panic you are feeling- it’s such a nasty complaint.

Get the cystitis sachets as soon as your husband wakes up. Drink loads of water, go to the loo as needed. Take painkillers. Get antibiotics this morning when you can. In the meantime don't worry - even if there's blood - unless you get a fever or start having back pain (sign of kidney infection).

If possible, get hold of the herbal remedy ‘D-Manoose’. It worked wonders for me years ago when I suffered recurrent infections. Hope you feel better soon!

OP I'm so sorry, they are horrendous. I used to get them all the time, really badly, and would wee blood. When I would get one overnight I would go to A&E just so I had the prescription as soon as the pharmacy opened. The pain can be agonising.

I'm actually on antibiotics for a UTI atm as well lol. Just make sure you get the meds as I once left it and the nerves got inflamed, and it felt like I had an infection for about a year 😱

How are you OP?I hope you get some relief and catch up on sleep today.Cysitis is the worst, I was left in floods of tears :(

Thank you all so much for your kind messages.

my husband has been really kind and I’ve had some more chamomile tea and painkillers. It’s starting to ease a bit and I’m going to try and get some sleep.

Will call the doctor to try and get prescription for antibiotics. I’m a bit nervous to take them as last time I had a wisdom tooth infection and took them I had a bad tummy and had to stop them…. Anyone know which ones are gentle on the stomach or just not strong / kick ass ones??

It's probably a bit late OP, but bicarbonate of soda (baking soda) dissolved in a citric acid solution (eg lemonade, water with lemon juice, orange juice etc) makes sodium citrate solution which is the stuff in the cystitis relief sachets.
It fizzes up like mad though so only fill the glass half-full.

Take the antibiotics....I had antibiotics but they didn't cure it, should have had more but was reluctant. A week later I was in hospital with urosepsis! Antibiotic drip for a week and was very lucky! Don't shy away from them.

Of course you wake him up. My other half would be really upset if I was suffering by myself.

Drink as much water as possible and cranberry juice and buy some treatment sachets from the chemist as soon as possible. Not antibiotics.

Yes, it hurts when you pee but holding it in is impossible and will make it last longer. Google it!

Hope it passes soon.

Re cranberry juice. Remember there are lots of real cranberries in the shops right now.

You've got cystitis. It's absolutely nothing to get anxious about. I've been getting it almost weekly since I was eight. Yes it's painful, but it's not going to kill your. You need potassium citrate either as a medicine or in a sachet. If that doesn't clear it, you need antibiotics. You could buy sachets at any 24hr supermarket. Sit in a warm bath with no products in to help relieve the pain.

I think they’ve found that cranberry is better as a preventative than a cure.

Try the bicarbonate. A tsp in a half pint of water. It tastes foul so have a drink of something else ready to drink.

It really does work though.

Hi op, sorry you are suffering like this. I have long time UTIs and have learnt a lot over the years! Once you get your antibiotics, avoid drinking too much. This is counterintuitive to the advice you see to ‘flush it out’ but if you do that, you will also flush out the antibiotics, and they will not work. You need them to be concentrated in your bladder. Of course stay hydrated with the recommend amount of fluids a day, just no need to over do it.

also make sure you get a long enough course. Often the 3 day courses don’t clear up the infection and you can be left feeling worse later on. You might be able to get a week but I’m sure a GP or pharmacist will advise on that. Good luck and hope you feel better soon x

That's really not true. The antibiotics don't know where they are off to, they are mostly absorbed into the bloodstream in the small intestine.

Poor you OP. Cystitis is miserable. If it were my OH awake and in pain, I would want to be woken up even if I couldn’t do anything. Please get to the docs and get it treated before it gets worse. All the best.

You really should drink the bicarbonate of soda solution, OP. It will ease the pain of urinating, but it does not treat anything so you must still get treatment even if it eases your pain.

Go to Boots online now and order some antibiotics. They may be available in a couple of hours

Most women get cystitis at some point. No idea why OP is scared, anxious and stressed!

Because she’s in pain and has been awake all night. No idea why you’re so unsympathetic!

I used to find it really helpful with cystitis to point the shower head at my bits using warm water at quite low pressure. Do you have a shower that allows you to do that?

Cystitis can be incredibly painful.for some, I remember peeing blood and being unable to stand from pain. It can also potentially travel to the kidneys and become very dangerous. People experience pain differently (just look at child birth), there is no need to be unpleasant or judgemental towards someone who struggles

I had about 4/5 years of recurrent cystitis (like every few weeks) so a veteran of this stuff and I saw lots of specialists. In case you get it again OP this helped me:

1.) drink lots but in batches and allow it to clear. Constant drinking once it has set in will irritate. Drink instinctively, I used to have litres of water and a large cup of mint tea and sometimes an OJ. Most people would say OJ is bad for it but it helped balance me when drinking lots of alkaline stuff.
2.) hot water bottle was a game changer but put it between your legs (with a cover and dressed) to really help relax things
3.) sitting on the loo for long periods can irritate too
4.) the nausea will be hunger and pain, any mid or lower back pain it might have gone up to your kidneys. That will need strong antibiotics but they are so necessary.
5.) I have wee’d out blood clots with my worst infections - don’t panic, it’s unlikely to be a sign of something worse
6.) get the dip tests a PPmentioned
7.) if you get lots there are herbal remedies like D-Mannose, or long term low level antibiotics or urethral dilations - I had two of the latter and never had another uti.
8.) I had it so frequently a doctor prescribed me antibiotics to have at home for another attack.

hope you are sleeping and feeling better Op! Xx

@Badgirlriri I've never had a UTI, I would be the same as OP the first time I eventually get it. No need to be so rude.

OP

Also, not all women get cystitis the same way - the vast difference between a bit of a sensation and weeing clots is vast!

@Badgirlriri

because it hurts. people react to pain differently. “Most women” also “give birth” in their life and whilst some people have lovely water births… others get very unwell and require emergency surgery. Just because you can cope with pain from cystitis, don’t assume everyone is like you.

Why are you so unsympathetic. There’s always someone on mumsnet!