Evening.
My husband has recently started a new job in a new area we live in.
They have a group messaging app where all colleagues talk (about work)
Let's say dh boss is called Pam.
Pam works with dh closely.
After his first shift, randomly in the day I asked how his new colleagues were etc and he just replied with he thinks Pam has had a BBL? When I mention how random that is he said "I can just tell, her bottom is too big to be real" then he says before I have a chance "oh god now you're going to over react.. I knew you wanted to know how she looks but I can assure you even though her body is good her face is disgusting" ??!!!!! Like ok.
I chose to remain quiet because I wanted to wait and hear "more"
I read their conversation last night and in the space of two weeks he's progressed to putting "x" at the end. And they constantly ask each other when they are going to the smoking section etc..
I asked him about it all today he basically flew off the handle saying in order to have a career and progress he needs a good bond with his superior and I've got trust issues, my insecurities are showing up blah blah blah
To which I replied
"That's true babe, I've been out of work for a while so I've forgotten how it is to have work friends, when I return I'll guess I'll find out"
Then he goes
"If you cheated I wouldn't care, what could I do? Kill you. No it's your life, we would just finish"
Completely unprovoked.
I feel like he's gaslighting me to basically shut up asking about his work.
Sorry I'm really confused and I know it all doesn't make sense but could do with a straight talking to.
Im alone in this town so that probably doesn't help with two babies.