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David Badiel - Jews Don't Count. Shocked

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Everanewbie · 22/11/2022 12:28

AIBU to be disappointed and upset at the blindspot for antisemitism that was highlighted in last night's excellent documentary? The Leigh Francis part was especially revealing to me. The (quite correct) groveling apologies for the Michael Jackson, Craig David and Mel B characters were a contrast to the defining silence on the David Badiel character.

What is more, the reaction from the left-wing commentators (Owen Jones, et al) on twitter seem to suggest that Badiel says other racism doesn't exist, which feels like a deliberate and willful misrepresentation.

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ancientgran · 25/11/2022 15:43

amcha · 25/11/2022 13:26

@socialmedia23 Oh, and re the voluntary contribution - yes it does not need to be paid, and the schools generally fundraise to make up the shortfall - but if people don't pay it, the burden then falls more on others. The idea is that you don't want to exclude people who can't pay, and it is hard to determine where that is and isn't the case (you never know who is funding their own overseas holidays and who is being brought by grandparents etc). In my DD's primary school though, they cancelled the year 5 trip as not enough could afford to pay to go on it, and the year 6 trip only went ahead because - well because my DH had received a small inheritance from an uncle and we and a couple of other Year 6 families helped make up for those who couldn't.

That was a lovely thing to do.

ancientgran · 25/11/2022 15:48

CPL593H · 25/11/2022 14:53

The fact you haven't heard antisemitic comments does not mean that they are not made. I certainly have, often the lazy unfunny tropes about Jews and money and on occasion by people who I'm pretty sure would not make a racist comment about any other group. When I've called them out, I can think of twice where the person concerned said "I didn't know you were Jewish", implying anyone who wasn't would surely have no issue with such remarks.

There is no particular demographic for antisemitism and there never has been.

I think the world is getting more hateful. The first time I heard someone had made a vile remark to someone I knew who was Jewish was when I was an adult, mid 70s I think. She was a friend of my mothers and she was very upset, obviously, and I was shocked as I thought that sort of thing was history.

There just seems so much hate and anger in the world. It is scary to think where these things will end.

Snoozer11 · 25/11/2022 19:24

BloodAndFire · 25/11/2022 14:47

@monsteramunch I strongly, strongly advise you not to get sucked into this. I promise you you will not get anywhere. The person you are arguing with is not engaging in good faith. After many years of this bollocks, I can tell it a mile off. You are wasting your time. I say this with the best will in the world and wish you a good shabbos (if applicable) and a good weekend x

I am engaging in good faith.

I accept that there is awful anti-Semitism in the world. But that I'm surprised by some of the comments on here regarding how severe it is.

I have to say, I find some of the reaction to my posts wholly disproportionate.

antelopevalley · 25/11/2022 19:33

I have read and seen antisemitic comments. For example, during the pandemic comments about a great conspiracy theory involving the Rothschilds and other prominent Jewish people.
I think those who say they have never heard or seen antisemitism are most likely to have simply not recognised it as antisemitism.

Purpleavocado · 25/11/2022 19:43

Snoozer11 · 25/11/2022 19:24

I am engaging in good faith.

I accept that there is awful anti-Semitism in the world. But that I'm surprised by some of the comments on here regarding how severe it is.

I have to say, I find some of the reaction to my posts wholly disproportionate.

Have you ever had someone say vile things to you for no reason other than the fact you are different from them?

Snoozer11 · 25/11/2022 20:59

Purpleavocado · 25/11/2022 19:43

Have you ever had someone say vile things to you for no reason other than the fact you are different from them?

Yes I have.

monsteramunch · 25/11/2022 21:03

@Snoozer11

I accept that there is awful anti-Semitism in the world. But that I'm surprised by some of the comments on here regarding how severe it is.

Surprised or disbelieving?

I understand being surprised.

I don't understand not believing it's as severe and frequent as people are saying when they're on the receiving end.

So hopefully you do believe them?

Purpleavocado · 25/11/2022 21:14

Snoozer11 · 25/11/2022 20:59

Yes I have.

How would it make you feel if people said to you they didn't believe you, because they hadn't seen it happen to you?

Onceuponatimethen · 26/11/2022 00:03

@Snoozer I think it’s a bit like how some men say there’s no sexism at their work, because they don’t experience it personally, but almost every woman I’ve ever worked with will know who the sexists are in any workplace.

If you don’t live in an area with a visible Jewish community you won’t see it.

As I said upthread I’ve rarely experienced a positive reaction when I mention my Jewish heritage.

Rosscameasdoody · 26/11/2022 07:57

monsteramunch · 25/11/2022 14:09

Growing up I did see, and continue to see racism towards black people and South Asians, and general xenophobic attitudes. This is everywhere. But I can honestly say I've never heard anything anti Semitic in the same time period.

This is like a man saying he's never heard misogynist comments in real life. Do we assume the man has genuinely never been in the company of people making misogynist remarks or do we think it's far, far more likely he just hasn't noticed such remarks due to his sex?

This is why I asked if there's a particular demographic targeting Jews. But apparently there isn't and it's everyone.

Who has said 'everyone' is targeting Jewish people? How disappointing and disingenuous to trot out the old 'they think the whole world's against them' trope.

Who has said 'everyone' is targeting Jewish people? How disappointing and disingenuous to trot out the old 'they think the whole world's against them' trope.

She was asking about the demographic, because she’s admitting she hasn’t seen anti semitism personally. I think maybe she meant ‘everywhere’ and not ‘everyone’ - don’t think her message was that Jewish people think the whole world is against them. I think the analogy of the man who doesn’t hear misogynistic comments because of his sex is probably a good one here. It’s difficult to get your head around it unless you’ve experienced it yourself, and unless you live close to a Jewish community you probably don’t realise how prevalent it is.

Rosscameasdoody · 26/11/2022 08:14

Purpleavocado · 25/11/2022 21:14

How would it make you feel if people said to you they didn't believe you, because they hadn't seen it happen to you?

Sorry, but she didn’t say she didn’t believe it happened, she said she was surprised by the severity of the incidents people are describing on this thread. I’m not Jewish but have two very good friends who are, and as others here have said, they just don’t disclose their heritage to people they don’t know well, which is very sad. Even so, until I saw this thread, I was unaware of just how severe the problem is in the UK. The poster who told of her friend telling her to her face that she didn’t like Jews and then gathering up her children and leaving absolutely appalled me. One minute they’re playing happily and the next they’re having the parents’ prejudices forced on them, and the anti semitism is passed to the next generation.

YUPMetoo · 06/12/2022 20:02

I am in Europe currently and went to visit a Shoah Memorial and nearby Museum. I was shocked to see an armed policeman there. It was an eye opener to me I have to say.

Fritilleries · 23/12/2022 11:12

Haven't rtft because it's 33 pages long but have watched the documentary and wondered whether any British Jewish schools have been attacked or invaded? It shocked me to see a security drill being done. Is it really that necessary?

ScribblingPixie · 23/12/2022 12:10

Are you really asking Jewish people to justify why they feel the need to protect their children@Fritilleries?

MissHavershamReturns · 23/12/2022 13:06

@Fritilleries this happened on the street

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-64046173.amp

Ted27 · 23/12/2022 13:34

@Fritilleries

I'm not Jewish, I too was shocked that the schools do this - but do you really think the parents and schools would put the children through this if it wasn't necessary for their protection?

Fritilleries · 23/12/2022 13:41

Ted27 · 23/12/2022 13:34

@Fritilleries

I'm not Jewish, I too was shocked that the schools do this - but do you really think the parents and schools would put the children through this if it wasn't necessary for their protection?

I absolutely agree. I was wondering if a specific school incident had occurred. I know the incidents of antisemitism as reported have soared and I find it strange how for example Kanye West still has a platform. It's a sad indication of the problem when the government has to fund the security of schools. It was a really thought provoking documentary.

BadShepherd · 23/12/2022 15:02

@Fritilleries are you very young? The reason I ask is that you refer to Mr West as opposed to the countless attacks on Jewish premises within Western Europe over the last 20-30 years.

socialmedia23 · 23/12/2022 15:09

Ted27 · 23/12/2022 13:34

@Fritilleries

I'm not Jewish, I too was shocked that the schools do this - but do you really think the parents and schools would put the children through this if it wasn't necessary for their protection?

My DH is 32 years old but he still remembers kids from a local school throwing stones at his window, screaming at him to come out and 'Jew'.

It is necessary. The guards at his school were ex IDF.

Ted27 · 23/12/2022 15:30

@Fritilleries

I'm sure someone with much greater knowledge than me will correct me if I'm wrong, but I doubt the govt is funding security measures at Jewish schools

Fritilleries · 23/12/2022 15:33

Here , I was reading up on it. It's good that it is taken seriously.

Ted27 · 23/12/2022 15:34

@Fritilleries

I should have googled that first, I am surprised to learn that the govt does indeed fund the schools for security measures - yes very sad indeed that its necessary.

Ted27 · 23/12/2022 15:41

@BadShepherd

I'm 57, I think I'm reasonably well informed but the whole Kanye West thing has mostly passed me by until very recently.

There isn't much of a Jewish community where I live, certainly no synagogue, so whilst I am very aware on one level l that anti semitism is a significant issue, I honestly couldn't say I know specifcally about attacks on Jewish businesses across Europe over the last few decades

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 23/12/2022 19:08

Fritilleries · 23/12/2022 11:12

Haven't rtft because it's 33 pages long but have watched the documentary and wondered whether any British Jewish schools have been attacked or invaded? It shocked me to see a security drill being done. Is it really that necessary?

Yes. Many get very credible threats daily. The police don't patrol for shits and giggles, especially with the current cuts. I don't really want to risk my childrens' safety for you to believe what it is really like for British Jews at the moment @Fritilleries My husband having F*g Y shouted at him on his way to synagogue is bad enough Sad

NickyT64 · 20/08/2023 22:41

RambamThankyouMam · 22/11/2022 12:48

Thanks for raising this.

I'm a Jew.

What really hits home for me is the fact that my daughter's Jewish school (in a northern English city) has police and security on the gates. No other minority group needs to be protected like this. I live with a sort of low-level fear that an anti-Semite might one day throw something over the fence into the playground, or try to enter with a weapon.

That's anti-Semitism. The fear.

I remember my children being taught what to do in a terrorist situation ……… at NURSERY!!!! They only knew it as a ‘game’ as they were 3 and 4 year olds. My husband is on the rota for security at synagogue on the sabbath - he has had to have Krav Maga training and wear a stab vest. How is this right? But that’s life at any and every Jewish establishment.

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