Spent 2.5 hours cooking and not even a thank you

[Kevintheminion]

AIBU to spend 2.5 hours cooking Sunday dinner and expect a thank you? Both my DC say thank you for dinner and help clear up. Barely a grunt from DH, let alone a thank you. You'd at least be polite after someone had gone to the trouble to cook for you wouldn't you?

Your DH sounds like an ungrateful pig.

We take turns to cook in this house(me, DH and DD) and whoever has cooked gets thanks from everyone else.

Is he always like this?

I would be tempted to do an out loud dialogue to make it clear you hate pissed off. E.g. "Why thank you Kevin the Minion for that lovely meal." "Oh don't mention it KevinsDH, it is always nice to cook for an appreciative audience"

I wouldn't be cooking again.

That sucks. You need to speak out though, that much is on you. Don't let this fester. Keep it light. Find a way. You can do this.

I get no thanks from mine either. He usually criticises something.

YANBU I say thank you even if someone makes me chicken nuggets and chips it's just good manners

He sounds ungrateful but 2.5 hours cooking a roast is madness!

YANBU.

In our house, you finish your meal, you clear up and you say thank you to whoever cooked (or whoever helped you cook, if it was a joint effort).

I can't imagine finishing a meal and not saying thank you.

I always appreciate a 'thanks, that was great' from DH when I cook, but he doesn't always remember!

I always thank him for anything he does for me, as that's just me, but he wasn't really brought up that way.

He, on the other hand, never expects a thank you - we're just different! He says that he does what he does with no expectation of gratitude - but everyone appreciates a 'thank you', right?!

Is he generally a great DH in other ways, OP? If things are good otherwise then it wouldn't be an issue but I suspect that's not the case?

Depends how big the joint is surely

It’s disheartening.

Do they appreciate it or would they be happy with a quicker meal you and your DH take turns to cook? If so that might be the solution.

… obviously they should all be saying thank you anyways.

@5foot5 it is half a cow, you put it in the oven and walk away for three hours, surly that doesn't count as I didn't 3 hours cooking?

@Kevintheminion that is horrible, can you secretly plan a meal out with your DC's next Sunday and not invite him?

My DH does the cooking in our house. I sometimes remember to thank him and sometimes don't. Sometimes I'm absorbed in my own thoughts. Have you asked him if he's ok OP?

Well that entirely depends on what you are actually cooking, 2.5 hours isn't very long to make a really good meal.
But anyway, who said it was a "roast"?

@Labnehi I presumed Sunday dinner was a roast...... shoot me!

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its not really when you factor in prep, clearing etc, I wonder what the 'D'H did with his free two hours....

What a weird response, on top of a weird assumption in the first place.

I would always assume Sunday dinner means roast and I'd put money on that being the case here. Otherwise you'd just say dinner.

@Labnehi so that's me and @5foot5 and @Oysterbabe that are all weird....

i would assume a roast too, as its fairly time consuming meal generally

Sunday dinner means a roast for me and those I know; it's like an interchangeable term!

Well, yes. Sunday dinner can be anything at all. It seems to imply a special dinner when put like that, but that hardly means a roast, does it? You do know that there are lots of different cultural and culinary traditions in the Uk and elsewhere, right?

My Sunday dinner is only occasionally a roast. Today it was Makloubeh followed by Knafeh, took more than 2.5 hours!

@Labnehi that's @TwoMonthsOff also!

I'm thinking it's not such a weird assumption?

OP, he could just be being self absorbed or stressed. I'd have probably made a comment like, "Thanks for the appreciation, H" rather than stewing over it. If he woke himself up and said, "Oh sorry, thanks, it was delicious" then all forgiven. If he said, "No need to be sarcastic and stomped off" then I'd stew!