Spent 2.5 hours cooking and not even a thank you

[Kevintheminion]

AIBU to spend 2.5 hours cooking Sunday dinner and expect a thank you? Both my DC say thank you for dinner and help clear up. Barely a grunt from DH, let alone a thank you. You'd at least be polite after someone had gone to the trouble to cook for you wouldn't you?

I suspect you have a very different personality to me and my family, and not in a good way. 😆

Yep it's rude and disrespectful.

He's been rude by not saying thank you. It's basic manners to say thank you to whoever has cooked. Even if it's a quick 20 minutes weeknight dinner we say thank you.

See I would always say thank you when someone else cooks, but thinking about it why is cooking seen as different to any other household chore. I don't expect or wouldn't say thank you for hoovering, doing the washing and so on.

I'm clearly in A minority...which is I suspect is what you really mean....

Well what a huge surprise I was right @Labnehi !

I'm so sorry I offended you by making a correct assumption that Sunday dinner meant a traditional roast.

Do you always take offence at such things, life must be very tiresome for you.

Whether it’s a multi course banquet or a cup of tea you should always thank whoever made it for you. It’s just basic manners.

I'm clearly in A minority...which is I suspect is what you really mean....

That's not what anyone meant and you're just looking for an argument.

Exactly!

Now you're going out of your way to find offence that clearly isn't there.

@blooos you seem to be in the minority with the not thanking someone for cooking a meal.

I know Wiki is not always reliable in its content but that gives Sunday lunch/dinner as alternative names for a roast dinner.

DH and I always thank each other for cooking a meal. Also if I pass him a pile of his clothes cleaned and ironed he would thank me.

I think thanking the other person for doing something is just part of what makes for a good relationship, along with being considerate. It doesn't hurt, and it shows you appreciate each other. Does he show appreciation in any other context?

I knew before clicking it would (a) be a roast dinner thread and (b) there’d be a stupid argument on it, but nothing prepared me for the gloriousness of the stupidity. Kudos on an original bunfight!

Anyway, of course you say thank you for dinner! Next time, cook for everyone but DH.

I also knew (c) there’d be the usual “roast dinners are easy, what takes so long? simply put meat in oven without prepping it, touching it, turning it, basting it, dry it out for hours, then serve with packet gravy, packet stuffing, frozen potatoes and overcooked boiled vegetables, I make a roast daily and my twins love it like this” brigade.

@blooos You can be absorbed in your own thoughts but still use basic manners like saying Thank You

We don't always say thanks as we take it in turns and its just dinner

@Labnehi in the uk , well certainly england sunday dimner is usually considered a roast thats just how it is however you try and make out otherwise

It's his turn to cook lunch on <checks diary> 25th...of December.
No more roasts for him until he learns basic manners...possibly no clean pants either, but that's probably better saved for a new thread.

Oh, give over, you're embarrassing yourself now! Do you do "offended" as a profession?

@Kevintheminion yes you should get a thank you!

No it's not. I don't know what you cook for YOUR roast, but it can easily be that long in the kitchen. I'm an experience cook and it would be at least that from start to finish.

My husband always thanks me for cooking a meal. I would do the same if he ever cooked. 😀

Go to say, as an experienced cook, a roast does not take 2.5 hours in the kitchen, don't know what you cook for YOUR (not sure why we need to put that in upper case, but I'm sure you have good reason) roast. You certainly don't need to stand in the kitchen watching the meat or potatoes cook.

That is a midweek roast. A perfectly good meal but not a Sunday roast.

A winter Sunday roast calls for at minimum cauliflower cheese, a selection of roast veg, roast potatoes and Yorkshires.

I dunno I think I say thank you for most things my partner does (and him to.me) just a quick "oh cheers for taking the bins out" etc

My DH always says thank you for dinner, even though he helps me most of the time.