Am I being grabby?

[Julies87]

Genuine question as I don't know how to feel about this. It's another in law one I'm afraid.

We have 3 kids and DH sister has 4, all similar age ranges and all under 10. Ours are overall younger than SILs as they're a little older than us although the youngest child in both families are the same age.

When our first came along GPs said they'd set all the GCs a budget for Christmas and birthdays of £30, which is lovely obviously and that's what they stick to with SILs kids. However over the years I've noticed that the presents our kids get are always half that, they only ever spend £15 max per child.

I didn't really notice at first but now I've become aware it really annoys me. DH is upset by it but seems willing to just ignore it. His choice but if they were my parents I'd say something but we have a very different relationship I suppose. DH loves his parents and they're nice people, they don't really 'talk' though IFSWIM. How do I get past this and learn to ignore it 🤷

I get where you’re coming from OP. I think some posters on here are deliberately focussing on the £30, and not on the discrepancy, which is the main issue here. I would be fed up if my dc were being treated differently than their cousins. It’s unfair and would make me think my children were considered not as important. Unfortunately, without making a big deal of it with the grandparents, there isn’t a lot you can do. Maybe you can come to terms with it be spending more on your parents than his. They won’t know, but you will, so in your head it would balance it out.