To think she should have watched DS

[BearySilly]

On holiday with in-laws and we are all taking it in turns to cook dinner. On me and DH's night I cooked and he was watching the kids but then FIL asked him to help with something around the house that really couldn't wait. Everyone else was out or busy so I asked SIL to watch 10mo DS. She did for a while but then when I looked round he was crawling around the kitchen by himself and she was on the sofa playing video games. She totally ignored me as I cooked, laid the table and minded DS and DD.

I think she was very rude but DH thinks that she's just one of those people who thinks "your kids, your problem" and, as she and BIL had cooked a couple of nights before she felt like she'd done her bit.

I'm biased against her as she and BIL (she's his gf) stayed with us for 10 days and she was the laziest most ungrateful house guest I've ever had. My cooking was not up to scratch, she never helped clean up after dinner and she just generally made everything more difficult despite insisting she was staying with us to "help out".

Not her kids, not her problem and she already had her turn.
It’s down to you to watch your own children even while cooking.

Some people must be utterly miserable.

@VladmirsPoutine, are you suggesting that I’m miserable? I was replying to:

@Santagiveyoursackawash, who said
Bow out of cooking duty. State you are looking after your dc.

which I didn’t think was fair for the whole holiday.

There's need to pick on me.

If you’re making dinner for everyone, someone else has to watch the kids. Doesn’t matter who it is, but as you were clearly “out of the game” the rest of them should have decided amongst themselves who was doing it before starting anything else.

Possibly she thought she was watching the baby- if she doesn’t have kids she may have thought, “I’ll just sit here on my phone, how hard can it be?” My MiL used to be like this (with less excuse as she had children)- she’d offer to watch DS and then start reading the paper and I’d find DS half way out the door.

@piedbeauty I apologise, if it came across as though I was picking on you. It just seemed the general tone of the thread was quite miserable. If you can't rely on your family to watch your kids while you're cooking for the whole family on ostensibly a nice family trip then life must be miserable. I just can't get on board with much of the thinking on the thread. Mountain molehill but if these are the people who are supposed to love and support you then god help you (not you).

@piedbeauty I apologise, if it came across as though I was picking on you. It just seemed the general tone of the thread was quite miserable. If you can't rely on your family to watch your kids while you're cooking for the whole family on ostensibly a nice family trip then life must be miserable. I just can't get on board with much of the thinking on the thread. Mountain molehill but if these are the people who are supposed to love and support you then god help you (not you).

@piedbeauty I apologise, if it came across as though I was picking on you. It just seemed the general tone of the thread was quite miserable. If you can't rely on your family to watch your kids while you're cooking for the whole family on ostensibly a nice family trip then life must be miserable. I just can't get on board with much of the thinking on the thread. Mountain molehill but if these are the people who are supposed to love and support you then god help you (not you).