My father in law is morbidly overweight, struggles to walk, etc and I have nothing against him but dread the thought of my husband being like that. I’m sorry but I couldn’t stay, I want to be active and do things and to be doing that to your own body…
He’s quickly heading to that direction though. Him and I never share a meal, he doesn’t eat the healthy food I cook he would just order a takeaway instead. He says he loves my cooking but can’t see him eating it?? I batch cook things so there’s always healthy food in the freezer but he won’t eat it. I eat my dinner earlier as I don’t want to put on weight, I will only eat in the evenings if there’s a special occasion.
As well if we go for a day out I will eat and the kids will eat before so we don’t get hungry and he says he’s not hungry and as soon as we get there he will buy something unhealthy. This is exactly what his father would do. I just reminded him there’s some really delicious risotto in the freezer as he said he was going to get a takeaway, he says he hasn’t eaten all day. He’s not taking the hint! Would I be unreasonable to just tell him if you get as big as your dad I will want a divorce..?
AIBU?
I want to tell my husband I will divorce him if he gains a lot more weight
LongStoryShorty · 18/11/2022 20:55
Am I being unreasonable?
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BosaNova · 18/11/2022 21:16
I am not on the side of op but.
Addiction is sickness for example. Should people never divorce addicts?
ironingboredrefusal · 18/11/2022 21:12
Eh? Isn't it in the marriage vows that it is the job of spouses to look after each other as in the vow in sickness and in health?
Mojoj · 18/11/2022 21:10
Nothing wrong with that. Being morbidly obese is disabling. It's not your job to look after him.
Youdoyoutoday · 18/11/2022 21:27
So what happens if you put on weight due medication or something unforseen? Would you be OK with him leaving you if you got fat?
If so then I guess it's fine.
However, you both seem to have issues around food which need to be addressed.
Youdoyoutoday · 18/11/2022 21:27
So what happens if you put on weight due medication or something unforseen? Would you be OK with him leaving you if you got fat?
If so then I guess it's fine.
However, you both seem to have issues around food which need to be addressed.
cheeseandwineissofine · 18/11/2022 21:17
If a man wrote this about a women he would be slaughtered...
Thelongwayround · 18/11/2022 21:08
Fuck me. Who else do you shun? The disabled? Very underweight people? Smokers? People with heart disease?
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FreakyFrie · 18/11/2022 21:34
I don’t blame you. No one wants to stay with a fat slob.
Just him straight.
He doesn’t need a takeaway and he can eat the risotto!
UmbilicusProfundus · 18/11/2022 21:03
I started off fairly sympathetic to you, but you do sound a little … intense…and it feels like there is more to this story.
cheeseandwineissofine · 18/11/2022 21:17
If a man wrote this about a women he would be slaughtered...
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Thelongwayround · 18/11/2022 21:08
Fuck me. Who else do you shun? The disabled? Very underweight people? Smokers? People with heart disease?
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DespicabIeMe · 18/11/2022 21:05
Do your husband a favour and chuck him my way.
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