Accidentally found engagement ring

[lockdownbabyx]

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

No, don’t tell him! If he spoke to your sister he’s obviously put a lot of thought into this so don’t let on before he asks you. Tell him later and then it can be a joke. Put it out of your mind and just wait for the surprise because when it happens, emotions will overtake what you’re thinking now.

To be honest I would tell him. You will feel foolish and dishonest faking a surprised reaction which he may or may notice, even if he doesn't realise you already know you will feel like the whole scenario is fake (which it will be!) and you won't really enjoy the moment. Just say you were looking for socks and found a wonderful surprise. Not the engagement he had planned but it will still be lovely.

You also need to show us the ring when you get it 😀

Well if he knows you like to wear his socks he was a bit of a doofus hiding it in the sock drawer! I'd tell him and laugh it off. Moments are overrated - it's getting married that counts.

I am too honest not to speak up if I discover things so I too would tell him.
But you know you and him best. What did your sister advise?

How exciting!

I wouldn’t tell him, but I am decent at acting. (I would probably fess up at some point, but I’d want him to have his moment.) If you aren’t you might need to.

I get you are disappointed you found out about the surprise, but life is like that, so let it go. It’s also a fun story to tell your grandkids.

Buy a bottle of champers and tell him you found it :)

I wouldn't tell him. He's gone to a lot of effort & you'll just burst his bubble

Tell him later - maybe years later lol

Did you like it? (misses point of thread!)

Don't tell him!!!!!!!

He clearly planned it so try super hard to be surprised!

Don't tell him!

Let him have his moment and then you can tell him afterwards and make light of it!

This happened to me! I didn't tell him. We're also divorced now so I suppose it didn't matter 🤣

You’ll forever remember the moment you get engaged. If he thinks it’s a big surprise and then you’re fake acting, that’s a bit of a weird memory to have, feels dishonest.

I’d tell him, and deal with it. 🙈 That way whatever proposal happens, it’s a genuine moment for both of you.

And buy yourself some better socks! From the mens department, the shops make mens socks much better quality 🙄

Aw don’t tell him!! I’m normally super honest but you’ll be still be so happy and excited when asked, it won’t matter that you have already seen the ring!

You could have some fun with him,

Swap it for a really really cheap plastic one, like a kids toy

Move it and hide it elsewhere

Swap it for a haribo ring and then make a comment about how tacky it would be if someone did that

Show him a picture of a completely different ring and say you'd love something like that

Or go the other way and get in there first and propose to him

You have to tell him pp said buy a bottle of fizz, and cook him a nice meal or order a takeaway and tell him over dinner. The guilt qould eat me up if I didn't come clean.

Put some socks on the table for effect !

I did this with my ex. I didn't tell him because I couldn't bring myself to ruin it for him. I didn't know when he planned to propose and in the end he did it in such a lovely way with champagne in a bucket of ice, and rose petals etc, it was a surprise coming home to all that and I wasn't expecting anything to happen that day, so I didn't have to do any acting!

I accidentally stumbled on mine as well. Just pretended I didn’t know 😂

I chose my own ring. I didn't know when dp would propose properly (his request). One NYE he popped to the car and came back with a bouquet. I noticed the box in his pocket.. He bottled it!! I never let on I saw it. He did propose on January 7th! Keep shtum forever imo!

Of course you shouldn’t tell him! He has put a lot of thought and effort into planning a lovely surprise for you. Why would you spoil that?

It’ll still be a surprise, you don’t know when he’ll propose. Nothing’s ruined, you don’t have to fake anything, just react to the fact he’s proposing, enjoy the moment.

You must have had some idea you’d get engaged, haven’t you talked about it?

Did you like the ring? 😬

When gets home throw it at him and say "which bitch does this belong to? How long has it been going on?".

or dont tell him you've found it and wait for the proposal. Congrats!

Also want to know if the ring is nice ...

Did you open the box? Or try the ring on?
Bit naughty, you could have just put it back 🤣but no point beating yourself up.

Assuming you are going to accept.
Say nothing but leave a note in the box saying 'Yes please'