Accidentally found engagement ring

[lockdownbabyx]

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

Go to M and S and buy some men's socks then you won't need to go through his drawers! He's the one I feel sorry for, he seems to be a good person.

I'd go for this as a 1st choice.
You still won't be expecting it. He might go the whole hog with The Proposal.
He might ask you over a cup of tea during an ad break on Tv (if he's nervous).

It will still be a Surprise. You won't have to 'act' much probably.
(tho now your sister knows you found it it might all come out in the wash eventually? will he be more upset if you fess up now or later? only you know..)

Why did you tell your sister!? You should have just pretended not to find it and then wait for the proposal.

You'll have to tell him as at some point it will come out that you found it and he will be upset you never mentioned it.

Don't worry about your reaction. I guessed to the minute when my DH would propose (it was a special day and time to us, and we had been discussing marriage, and had just bought our first home together).

But honestly, in the moment - it was so wonderful and overwhelming, you will definitely have a reaction. Enjoy it! ❤

Maybe he put it there on purpose so you’d find it and that’s your proposal?🤔😁

@ItsJustLittleOldMe a friend of mine had similar, but it was a note on his phone, with 'propose to X?' on it. We still laugh about the question mark (a lovely wedding and 1.5 children on)

Don't worry. My husband ordered ring and parcel was left with our neigbour- he brought it to me 😂I knew it was the ring. My husband blew me off for a few months; I forgot all about it and then he surprised me with proposal. Tell him, so he can postpone the engagement a bit 😂Although now you can get suspicious every time he takes you out, so it's bit more difficult to him.

Found the box in his back pack while looking for something he asked me to find when we were travelling. He kept me hanging for another 2 days.....

(add on to that the very mysterious will to go and buy tampons for me before we departed (COllecting the ring))

Don’t tell him! You’ll ruin it for him. You shouldn’t have told your sister either. You still don’t know when or what he has planned so just button it.

I saw in my husbands Google history that he’d been looking at engagement rings in around August time. He didn’t propose until December on a surprise trip to New York, so there’s still loads you might not know about. Keep schtum.

DH booked a surprise trip to Florence for my 50th. I found out months before because I went on my BA app for flight info and in came up in my upcoming trips. I told DD and my parents that I knew but we all agreed that I wouldn't tell him I'd found out.

I love this idea!! 😁
Please come back and update us when it happens OP.

Yeah, I agree it will still be a surprise when it happens! DH and I had discussed marriage in a, way that meant I knew something was coming, and he probably wanted to do the proposing. Surprised us both when it happened!

This happened to me. Our airing cupboard had a large storage area at the side and one day I decided to give it a clear out. I've never told DH. I

t was still a surprise when DH proposed,. A couple of days later he left a note and cuddly toy outside flat, then some nice music to play. I thought that was it, he was about to propose - no. Instead he did it a couple of weeks later in front of the crown jewels - security were not amused! I was completely surprised at the craziness of the venue.

@IveDroppedMiBiscuitInMiBrew absolutely loved this comment!! we are both huge friends fans so it would actually be really funny 😂

I over heard my ex husband telling his friend he had bought me an engagement ring , I told him and it ruined the surprise. Don’t tell him !!

I knew my partner was going to propose to me as he'd done a spontaneous drunken one and then said he was going to do it properly. He kept me waiting for about 3 weeks! But when it happened I wasn't expecting it, like there wasn't any 'it's happening today' vibes. So I'd say keep quiet and try not to shout 'YES' when he's actually just picking something up from the floor!

I would tell him, because otherwise you have to carry that lie forever and it is part of your unique story.

Hope he doesn't take too long, you'll go mad!

You can always tell him after - it's not a bad thing, after all - you found the ring and you were delighted, and you trusted his judgement enough to wait for the proposal - these are all good things about how you feel about him and your relationship!

I wouldn’t tell him you will spoil his moment! Oh dear bad move him putting in a draw he knows you wear he socks so you could find it! You can tell him months later or whenever

Don't tell him it will take the wind from his sails. Tell him a bit after the event, which sounds like its likely to happen at Christmas.

Forever? Really? She could just say afterwards or further down the line that she found it. Proposing can be quite a stressful thing, my friend had a comedy mix up involving a dish sponge, so telling him beforehand could mess up whatever he has planned.

It depends on whether your sister is likely to slip now or in the future to him that you found the ring and faked the surprise.

Turn it around, you propose and surprise him

Don't forget to show us the ring when it's happeened

What - tell him later that the big emotional moment he thought he was having was staged? That would be very weird.