Accidentally found engagement ring

[lockdownbabyx]

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

That made laugh.

Im all for To Do lists but who forgets to propose?
Would he have got in bed that night and thought Oh bugger! I knew there was something! I was going to propose today..if only I’d put a reminder on my phone
😂

If you didn't see the ring itself (assuming you didn't open the box) and don't know when/how he is going to do it then there will still be lots of elements of surprise left. The problem now is that you'll feel really impatient as you know it is imminent!

I'm also thinking surely it wouldn't have been a complete surprise anyway since I imagine you have discussed getting married to some extent.

Enjoy your proposal and hope you aren't waiting too long 😊

So many men who are so crap at hiding things!

Yes - telling your sister was totally daft.

I think you have to tell your BF because, otherwise, at some point your DSis may let it slip that you knew. Then he'll be so gutted.

Personally, I wouldn't tell him now. Let him go ahead with the actual proposal, which will still be a surprise, but tell him afterwards that you had found the ring.

If you’re in a Disney film maybe.

Well he was a bit of a numpty 'hiding' it in his underwear drawer if he knows you go in there! He could have left it with your sister as she's in on it.
I wouldn't tell him until after the proposal though.

This was me 19 years ago! I never told him 😅

I knew my husband was going to propose and just acted surprised! Felt awkward in the run-up though, bless him!

😆

It's hardly 'staged' 🙄 she still has no idea how or when it will happen and she'll very likely still find the moment emotional.

Don’t tell him - let him have his moment.

However, you could amuse yourself by saying, “oh, do you mind if grab some of your socks, mins are all in the wash’ or similar. And then watch him panic 😂

Don’t tell him.

I'm glad you're positive about this but noone should ever propose as a Complete surprise, surely couples will have already communicated a marriage in their future? Its a huge life changing financial decision and of course it will impact on your lifestyle/ personal autonomy, no matter how you think. Legally it's a big step.

😂Love it.

Don't tell him you found it. He went to a lot of trouble getting your sister onside to ensure you will love the ring. Let him have his moment. He is probably planning to propose over Xmas. Just looked surprised open eyes wide and be speechless. Ask him how did he know you would love that style of ring. Let him have his excitement at roping your sister in.

I chose my own ring and then my husband choose when and where to ask me :) I knew it was coming but it was still a surprise when he actually asked me and it was still the most special moment <3

It can still be a surprise! :)

DP played me a blinder. I was convinced he was going to propose on my birthday. We had talked about getting married and he had even taken me to the jewelry quarter to look at rings 4 weeks before. He booked an amazing hotel, we went to one of my fave places (he didn't do it there), we had afternoon tea (he didn't do it there), we went up a tower (he didn't do it there). My birthday ended. No proposal. We went to the beach the next day, he didn't do it there either so I glumly thought 'Oh well, must have changed his mind'. We went back to the hotel that afternoon and did the deed and all of a sudden, he runs across the room (stark bollock naked, as was I) pulls out the ring and proposed. He said he was waiting until it felt right to him. So now when anyone asks about how he proposed I have to be very very vague

Just to warn you OP, you are in for a few weeks or months of guessing when it will be!

Don't tell him! I don't see how this is much different to knowing that your DP is going to propose at some point, and also knowing that you're going to choose your own ring. It's not just about the ring, it's about the asking. The asking is so much more important. He needs to do it in his own time, and the way that he does it will be special. Don't crash about ruining that moment before it's even happened. Keep quiet and enjoy the anticipation.

Agree!!!

Brilliant! 😂

@lockdownbabyx Hopefully the ring is for you! And it's not some Emma Thompson from Love Actually bullshit! (It won't be!) Congratulations!!! 🤗

My mind is boggling as I wonder where he pulled the ring out of !

@Mumto3thatsme I was literally thinking of how much I would hate to be expecting a proposal but be kept waiting that I would end up doing that when I read your post.

Also love the idea of leaving the ‘yes please’ note with the ring. That tells him you found it but he doesn’t have to reply straight away and can still propose as he planned.

I was fully expecting my now husband to propose when we sent to Sydney for New Years Eve, but I didn’t expect the timing of the proposal. He still managed to surprise me.

I actually really like this idea too.

Do not marry a man who lets you put all the clean washing away.

Why do women go snooping through drawers, phones, 'accidentally' of course?

When I was coming up for retirement OH was doing some DIY in the house and asked me to get him something from the garage, told me roughly where it was, as I moved stuff I found a lovely steamer chair boxed up which I had longed for and was obviously going to be a retirement present, never said anything though. and it was there in the garden when I came home from work for the last time!