Accidentally found engagement ring

[lockdownbabyx]

I feel SO bad! Was looking for a pair of plain black socks in my partners sock drawer ( I prefer his 😂) and found an engagement ring in there. I was in complete shock. My sister called me about 2 mins after and I told her my discovery and she knew all about it as she has helped him pick it, plan it etc. i feel so so bad, I love surprises and now feel like I've ruined it for both of us. I wouldn't have expected it at all so it would have been a complete surprise too.
I'm not going to tell my partner I know, but I can't help but feel awful now 😔. I'm worried my reaction when the time comes will give it away and ruin his moment for him. Anyone else ever done this?

I think you should propose to him. That way he won't feel let down by not being able to surprise you.

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Take some acting lessons and let him have his lovely moment. I'm sure when he does it you will feel a huge amount of emotion, regardless of whether it wasn't a surprise.

@SmileyClare I know, it's hilarious isn't it, especially the PP whose boyfriend ticked off 'buy engagement ring' in his notebook My friend's husband's list was a list of things to do that year, I presume being an incredibly practically-minded fellow he was making financial plans - such a romantic spirit...!

Please don’t tell him. I understand it has been a bit “ruined” for you as you like a surprise but you found out by accident. Don’t purposely ruin it for him too.

If you'd not told your sister then id have said to style it out and never say, but as you have...id have to tell him. He would be far more hurt in the long term by that if it ever came out down the line than if you tell him now.

This. Tell your sister she MUST NOT tell him you know and just pretend that it is a lovely surprise when you do get it. He will be sooo disappointed if you let on that you found it. The 'surprise' will be much more ruined for him than it is for you. All the excitement of the planning and him looking forward to you being surprised taken away in the blink of an eye. Please don't do that to him. He will be so deflated he will never be able to look back on the day he proposed without the same sense of disappointment and dismay that he felt when he discovered you already knew. In a year or three, you can tell him about it and both have a laugh if you must - but not now, and not for a long time

This! Make it special.

Don't tell him as it will spoil it

A 'friend' told me that I was going to be proposed to. Slightly different and had a negative effect whilst I waited. I didn't want to tell him as I didn't know til that point he'd got a ring, but was hoping for the proposal.
He made a lot of effort on the day, so I'm glad I didn't say anything as he clearly wanted to do the proposal in his way.
Not sure if I'll tell him or not, certainly not in the near future maybe a few years down the line.

It's inevitable if you tell him he will be absolutely gutted and upset. It's up to you if you want to make him feel like that.

Surely you will still be surprised if you sister didn't tell you when it would be? If she did, that's really shitty of her to tell you or you to ask.

Evil but I love it 🤣

If this happened to me I would have to tell him, I wouldn't be able to feign suprise 🤣

I simply don't understand how a proposal could be a genuine surprise, especially in this day and age.

Isn't getting married something a couple discuss long before deciding to marry (or get engaged - although I don't seek the point of that either!)

This happened to Carrie in Sex and the City! She puked in the sink with the shock! She didn't tell him and I wouldn't either.

Congratulations and good luck! x

Please don’t tell him , I’m sure he has put a lot into this for you .

No don't tell the poor guy. How stressful this must have been for him! Typical bloke not to think it completely through

This scenario almost happened to someone I know, she was putting away laundry in his sock drawer and by fluke, didn't see the ring box. He was convinced by the day that he proposed that she'd already found it because she had been talking about how happy she was.

Not quite the same but DP bought me a beautiful necklace on our first holiday together and I accidentally saw him buy a second at the same time. It wasn't mentioned again but it appeared on my jewellery stand on our first anniversary and caught me completely off guard.

Say nothing, he needs to do this his own way. Time will tell whether you need to let on that you knew.

I found mine before hand….I also may have been snooping on purpose as we had a night away. I never told my now DH I found it before and I doubt he will ever know. I loved being slightly
jn on it and guessing when he might pop the question.

No one is further from Disney than me, but I am a bit of a stickler for honesty

I found mine accidently and to this day I've never told him. He went to a lot of effort planning the surprise and I didnt want to take away his moment. I made the decision not to tell him afterwards as I didn't want to ruin the memories or experience for him.

This happened to me, and I told him. I couldn't not, my face gives everything away. He was a little upset it hadn't gone to plan.

However, in the end, we agreed to get engaged together, if that makes sense. He's my love and partner in crime and it was strangely fitting. Happily married 5 years now :)

Why would you tell your sister! Poor bloke

This happened to me too! I didn’t let on, although I did try on the ring. It honestly didn’t ruin the moment at all because the when, where and how was all a surprise. And it was quite nice getting a few days to mentally prepare. Congratulations when your moment comes!