…to think it’s scary how quick people are to far shame?

[NellesVilla]

Hope this woman sees this:

Was visiting a relative in Leatherhead, Surrey today and popped to the Co-op on the way home.

As I was ready to go (in my car) a woman with a large vehicle (4 x 4 maybe) almost drove into me (head on) to then reverse back into her space at some speed.

I gasped in shock and made eye contact briefly as I was like, shit, thought she was going to go into me. She threw her hands up in a ‘wtf?’ gesture, then pointed a finger at her head in a “you’re nuts” way, then stuck her finger up at me, shouting something.

I stupidly gave her the finger back as I was gobsmacked at her unpleasant attitude, then she pulled up alongside me, wound the window down and hurled abuse at me, with a kid in tow, who was laughing.

I said something like “Er, what are you on? What is your problem?”, she then got to the personal stuff like “your fat face; food shopping eh, you fat fucker”, again in front of her kid. I did unfortunately swear back at her- told her to f herself and yes, I’m fat but I can change that- she’s ugly inside and outside and can’t change that etc.

Just horrible. How do people behave like this, in public and with their kid in tow? I don’t have kids and would never do that in front of any children I might have had.

I did nothing wrong, and she exploded just like that. And to call another woman fat (she was hardly Kate Moss in size or looks 😊, and had poorly home dyed hair, I’d assume).

If you’re on here- Leatherhead Bitch- how dare you talk to someone like that, and in front of your kid?

And I know some people are absolute trash but to fat shame someone? Really? Do you really have to go there, you thick, shit-for-brains cow? How do people like that reproduce? My gosh!

Thanks for listening- I was muttering under my breath all the way home in shock, and needed to get it off my chest. My problem is that I stuck up for myself and others, but will stop as it always goes to blows like that and some cunt always has to mention my weight. It stops me wanting to go out tbh.

Anyway, breathe…!

No!!

Fat, not far!

Well, you're hardly better in this situation are you? You've talked about her shit hair and said she's thick, that's no better than calling someone fat.
As for doing it in front of her child, you also shouted and swore in front of the child.
Yes she started it, but I you're not covered in glory.
Pot, kettle.

She's no Kate Moss?

So people who look like Kate Moss can call others fat?

Sounds like you both had a go at each other in anger in front of a child. Because she called you fat doesn't make her worse.

You were as bad as her!

Yes, you are as bad as she is.

You’re fuming because you encountered someone as aggressive and foul-mouthed as you are, and the only thing you think that gives you the moral high ground is that she called you fat.in reality, you’re birds of a feather banging heads.

This is not going to go the way you want it to...

Shocking behaviour

But I'd have loved to see it

You do not sound pleasant at all either.

You both sound as bad as each other.

She was aggressive and rude as well as a basic twat to go straight for the fat comments. You were verbally abused and it’s not surprising you reacted as you did.
I wouldn’t spoil any more of your day thinking about her though…you gave as good as you got and it’s over now.

Thanks guys- I’m not perfect no, I’m really not and I do swear under my breath a lot but I never start anything. I’m bad at reacting though, I agree.

I’m pleased that others haven’t gone “there, there, what a mean lady” with me tbh as it’d make me feel like a victim iyswim, and it helps to make me see that it is just one of those things and that I should’ve just ignore the skank with shit box dyed red greasy tresses.

But, really, it’s ok to fat shame someone who’s not really done wrong- who won’t stand for your shit? Really?

I will just have to learn to ignore nasty people I suppose, but I will certainly not stop sticking up for myself.

And if/when I lose the weight, I hope to god I’d never be a cunt and fat-shame someone else carrying a little extra.

Good for you standing up for yourself. She sounds like an angry person, don't let her ruin the rest of your day.

Tit for tat isn’t it?
Makes me think of two kids calling each other names and then one pipes up and calls the other a bully for it. As above, birds of a feather. No point dishing the aggression out and then playing the victim card when it hits you back harder.

First post nailed it.

Thanks, @pictish; I really couldn’t articulate myself clearer than you have here. Much appreciated.

Do you actually think her fat shaming you is any worse than your odd obsession with her ‘shit box-dyed red greasy tresses’?

People have always been quick to fat shame. If anything I see less of it now. No one even questioned fat shaming back in the day. It was fine. At least there is something of a movement of dissent on that old chestnut nowadays.

What's wrong with dying your own hair? Some people can't afford to do it any other way. You're as bad as her.

Good grief, do they really allow this sort of foul-mouthed carry on, from both of you, in Surrey? 😆

You’re welcome. And I say that as someone with box dyed red hair. 😆
Mine looks phenomenal though. 👌

You’re getting a hard time OP. You were rude to her but she started it by calling you a fat fucker so I understand why you insulted her back, she deserved it in my opinion, and to shout ‘’fat fucker’’ in front of her child is going to make sure they grow up to be a pleasant adult 🙄

It sounds like you're upset because you feel you lost the slanging match.

Did her barbs sting and you worry that she has forgotten about it already?

I agree @Whitney168 - not in a naice place like that part of Surrey! I once lived in Birkenhead and even in the part I was in, it’d be frowned upon (no offense to any Scousers- I love Liverpool and surrounding area!).

@Rippled , yes, she did seem the type of person who would shout obscenities and personal insults at people then happily go on her day. That’s pretty disgusting isn’t it? And to fat-shame. In front of her kid?To me, that’s vile.

Even when I was thin I wouldn’t have thought things like that, let alone used fat-shaming to upset someone.