…to think it’s scary how quick people are to far shame?

[NellesVilla]

Hope this woman sees this:

Was visiting a relative in Leatherhead, Surrey today and popped to the Co-op on the way home.

As I was ready to go (in my car) a woman with a large vehicle (4 x 4 maybe) almost drove into me (head on) to then reverse back into her space at some speed.

I gasped in shock and made eye contact briefly as I was like, shit, thought she was going to go into me. She threw her hands up in a ‘wtf?’ gesture, then pointed a finger at her head in a “you’re nuts” way, then stuck her finger up at me, shouting something.

I stupidly gave her the finger back as I was gobsmacked at her unpleasant attitude, then she pulled up alongside me, wound the window down and hurled abuse at me, with a kid in tow, who was laughing.

I said something like “Er, what are you on? What is your problem?”, she then got to the personal stuff like “your fat face; food shopping eh, you fat fucker”, again in front of her kid. I did unfortunately swear back at her- told her to f herself and yes, I’m fat but I can change that- she’s ugly inside and outside and can’t change that etc.

Just horrible. How do people behave like this, in public and with their kid in tow? I don’t have kids and would never do that in front of any children I might have had.

I did nothing wrong, and she exploded just like that. And to call another woman fat (she was hardly Kate Moss in size or looks 😊, and had poorly home dyed hair, I’d assume).

If you’re on here- Leatherhead Bitch- how dare you talk to someone like that, and in front of your kid?

And I know some people are absolute trash but to fat shame someone? Really? Do you really have to go there, you thick, shit-for-brains cow? How do people like that reproduce? My gosh!

Thanks for listening- I was muttering under my breath all the way home in shock, and needed to get it off my chest. My problem is that I stuck up for myself and others, but will stop as it always goes to blows like that and some cunt always has to mention my weight. It stops me wanting to go out tbh.

Anyway, breathe…!

That bit in the middle shouldn’t have been bold or was supposed to be a curse word

I think you started it by making eye contact with her in a way to tell her she was in the wrong with her driving

Of course people are quick to fat shame, it’s literally the easier way to get at someone that’s why it makes me laugh when people say on here “no one would say that to a far person” well yes they would and do actually! I had a disagreement with someone who pushed in front of me in a queue and I said “you’re very rude” and he said “well you’re very fat!”

Because the alternative ended up with a pointless argument between two grown women in front of a child. No-one wins here, but it's pretty shit for the little girl. And of course, her mother is responsible for her, but I personally wouldn't give that irresponsibility any oxygen at all.

You are shaming her. You both shamed each other!

Remind me to avoid Leatherhead, and anywhere else the OP goes.

i expect this sort of ‘to the person who…’ shite on Facebook (which is why I no longe use it), why the fuck do you think she’s going to read this?

You haven't done yourself any favours here op

I live near Wimbledon, @stuntbubbles so avoid that area. We probably wouldn’t want your sort here anyway. Or maybe it’s not good enough for you 😉

So why shouldn't OP defend herself? The other woman behaved like an absolute cunt, you get what you give.

Well this all sounds really unpleasant and you were both awful.

If you hadn't reacted, maybe you'd be feeling better right now. She'd probably be feeling just the same, likely not giving it a thought.

You'll never really know because you don't know her and can't see her now.

So the only thing that's being impacted by any of this is your own emotional health/ wellbeing.

So maybe time to drop it can go about your day now?

your post of 'I would never do that' while doing exactly that is hillarious... do you not see your BLATENT hypocracy?

You have made yourself like fowl mouthed, short tempered and unreasonable and really not shown her up at all (at worst shes EQUAL to you) so well done.

I see. It’s a ‘won’t somebody think of the children?’ one. Ok.

I feel like the OP and I are in good company with such wonderful people who would never say oh fuck you in response. I’m rather less collected and wouldn’t give a hoot about about her kid. Just being honest.

I think a lot of people are missing the fact that you are upset and sounding off on here because the fat shaming has really got to you and made you feel bad about yourself. No doubt it's playing on your mind because you are insecure about your weight and this is why you are saying the comments about hair and stuff, but the woman is unlikely to be on the thread so it's not like you are lashing out personally towards her now , but it will help make you feel a little better and get it out of your system. Xxx

It’s the easiest, most boring insult, isn’t it? This time last year I had an altercation in a car park with a woman. My partner had stopped to let me out of the car before he parked in a narrow spot (I was 36 weeks pregnant) and I had SPD so was a bit slow, but nothing extreme. A woman pulled up behind and started shouting at me that she was late (she was waiting all of 10 seconds). I said she should have left earlier. She said “fuck off you fat bitch.”
I just started laughing and said I hope your day gets better darling. She did look a bit sheepish as she went past after that.
Whenever I’ve been called fat in the past I just laugh. I think people really show their arse when they do it, and they’re expecting to hit you where it hurts. Don’t let them!

I don't feel you are as bad as her. She started on you for no reason and you retaliated with anger, understandably.

Although nowt wrong with home dye!

Could you not have just said ‘what’s the problem?’ out of your window when she started?

Why are you so bothered she called you fat? She was just having a go because she was aggressive and you were aggressive back.

She'd probably say it to a thin person too. She just wanted to hurt you.

Do people really scream back insults and get into fights as grown adults?

Shocked the amount of people saying 'everyone would do the same'... no we bloody wouldn't, I have lived in some rough areas and if someone insults you/tries to pick a fight you ignore it and keep on walking.

Who in their right bloody mind elevates it to screaming insults at tesco prepping to get into fisty cuff. That indicates serious anger mangement and impulse control issues.

Also Im guessing OP left something out because this other woman calling her 'crazy' out of nowhere for just sitting in her car makes ZERO sense, thats a reactive thing to do not uninitiated action so OP obviously reacted to what she deemed was the woman driving too close/fast and that then got the reaction but OP didnt want to include how she started it.

And yes people know to go straight to 'fat' when insulting women cos it pretty much is the worst thing a woman can be (apparently), in our lovely society!

Interesting that you’re more offended by her calling you fat than you are by her calling you nuts. I think implying that you have mental illness as a criticism is far more offensive than her calling you fat.

This!

prepping to get into fisty cuff

ooh ha ha that has made me laugh 😆

I do hope "Leatherhead Bitch" is on here to give her side of the story.

The last post I followed today for a laugh has been deleted.