To be totally turned off by this?

[teslaplayer]

Went on a first date with a guy I met online last night, went out for dinner. When I got there I definitely found him attractive. However when it came to ordering drinks he ordered himself a glass of milk.

I've honestly never came across someone doing that in a restaurant and I just think it's really odd and really put me off him. I have tried to work out why this was such a turn off and I can't come up with a reason it just made me feel a bit yuck.

AIBU? It's just so odd on a first date I feel.

That's good because lots of people don't want drunks..

Ooo I like this theory

Yeah this wouldn’t bother me.I still drink a glass of milk sometimes and all three of my kids drink milk regularly at 21, 15 and 13.

I think the notion that you should stop drinking milk at a certain age more bizarre than anyone ordering it as a drink. What a senseless thing to hold against someone.

🤣 are you being serious?! No need to be a dick

I know it’s a stupid thing to get the ick over but I did!

My husband drinks san pellegrino orange sometimes, which I used to think was mega wanky, but I find him attractive so god knows what it was when this particular bloke ordered Diet Coke

Definitely a bit odd. It could be construed as a bit childish. Or not very manly. But worst of all, he didn't follow the thought process that leads him to think how you might judge him for it and then think better of it. Impressing you didn't even cross his mind. It's not a great start, is it?

Or maybe he doesn't consider it weird and so didn't think the OP would?

😂😂😂😂😂

You think that people who don’t want to date teetotallers or drunk drivers…are drunks or do want drunks? Please explain that train of thought.

Had he been to the gym before. Some people have milk after as a source of protein.

Not being snarky, but I'm curious now 😁- what kind of drink would you have liked him to order?

This is why I despair of people and women especially.Why the hell does milk matter? He may have a stomach ulcer.Why is it not nice for goodness sake? Why are you such a conformist lot of people? If he was an a....hole then fine but give him a chance and think out of the box???

Heartburn?

reflux?

my man is hot as fuck but he is one weird eater, who cares

Personally I would like the fact he goes his own way. And honestly, there are a trillion worse flaws he could have other than liking milk with his meal. A bit more open mindedness might be needed here.

Why women especially? Do you think that men don't get the ick over nonsense things?

Normal is a spectrum. What’s bat shit crazy for one person is mundane for another. None of us gets to decide that their behaviours the right one. If you’re put off my a person orders glass of milk and have to come to MN to discuss it maybe relationships aren’t for you 🤪

@Underanothersky I think you’ll find she said people and women - I think men are classed as people now a days!

For a potential partner to do weird things and not even realise they were weird be even more excruciatingly embarrassing to me. I am sure other people are more tolerant.

She said ‘people and women especially’. @Underanothersky has questioned the ‘women especially’.

I think how I’d feel about this would depend on how the restaurant reacted. If the waiter said “Sure thing!” then I’d be fine with it. If they went “Oh … I can find out whether that’s available …” then it isn’t on the menu and I’d be put off.

I think people should be happy with what they can get at the restaurant they go to or go to another restaurant.

Id prefer a man ordering a glass of milk to just a tap water. And I don't like a glass of milk myself!

So perhaps it should be kudos to the date that he was just himself and didn't put on a pretence for OP. If she finds him unattractive cos he didn't just drink water all night, I don't think he'd missing out

For a potential partner to do weird things and not even realise they were weird be even more excruciatingly embarrassing to me. I am sure other people are more tolerant.

But there's no single definition of weird, as this thread proves. It's entirely subjective, so how's anyone supposed to realise others might be judging them as weird?

I'd definitely prefer the water

I never really thought about this until now but it appears there is an abnormality scale for drinking milk.

Ordering a glass of milk at dinner = quite abnormal apparently.

Ordering a mug of warm milk with a little bit of ground plant seed = perfectly normal

Ordering a glass of thicker flavoured milk with cream and other garnishes = acceptable depending on venue.

Who knew there were so many layers to drinking milk.

Wouldn't bother me.