To not like him calling me Mummy...

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My Husband calls me Mummy around the house while my kids are around, so for example he might shout 'Mummy, do you know where are DS's socks are'...etc
If I have given the kids a snack he will say 'Mummy is there one for me!'
I didn't mind when the kids were really young and he was talking with them but I find it a bit creepy he is using it to directly ask me questions.... am I being unreasonable? Is it me thats overthinking it?

We used to do it before we had kids, when we only had a cat As a joke, honest!

So you will say daddy would you like a cup of tea? Even with no dc around how strange.

Ew. My DP does this on purpose because he knows I hate it. Each time I hear, I'm closer to buying a chastity belt and throwing the key into the sea

😂 I called my DH Daddy, he hates it. Except now our DS (age 5, on the spectrum) calls him by his first name, which he hates more.

DS - "Hi Miss Smith, this is Dave"
DH - "DS, I'm your dad, hi DSs teacher, I'm his Dad"
DS - "....he's called Dave"

I remember my Dad doing this - no judgement on him, it was what his dad did so he just assumed it was normal. My Mum called him 'son' until he unlearned the habit :)

Me and DH refer to each other and ourselves as mummy and daddy when with ds. Be really wierd if we did it when only 2 of us.

Unless OPs DH is an adult baby. Does he get you to feed him while sitting on your lap and carry him to bed? 😂😂

I’m too tired to read the full thread but I wrote a pretty similar one once upon a time and was largely told I was unreasonable.

Seems you could ask the same question three days in a row and get completely different answers lol.

I don’t think you are being unreasonable. Tell him you don’t like it and ask him to stop.

My parents are in their 90s and alternate between addressing one another as Mum/Dad and using one another's names/nicknames. They have done this for as long as I can remember. Nothing "Ugh" about it. I don't know if they still use Mum and Dad when their children aren't present though!

It was far more common a generation or two ago, but it is a bit cringy, isn't it? You might want to talk to him about it, when you can do so very calmly, and ask him to break the habit when not speaking to the children. Ask him if he really wants you to start thinking of yourself as his Mummy, and what that might mean to the relationship.

Ewwww ick 😫

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I call DH "dad" and he calls me "mom". My parents do the same thing. I don't find it weird at all, but that's probably because I'm used to it.

^^this. PS Bad Sisters is brilliant. Binge watch it all if you get chance.

Hand him you phone and say “Then call your mummy” every single time until he stops. He knows you hate it.
That or dog clicker and a treat for every time he uses your name.

Me and DH call each other Moma and Daddy 😬
It didn't start until after we had our boys (3 and 5). And it was and is mainly for their benefit.
But it has trickled into other parts of life, we were in asda a few days ago and I shouted down the aisle "Daddy, they don't have the regular milk. . . . " and stopped myself and cringed. Not sure how to phase it out now, it's basically just his name in our house.

Yuck! My husband used to call me ‘mum’ around the kids and that was bad enough. You are not being unreasonable! Tell him to stop. That’s what I did. Took a few months for it to fully stop but reading this has made me realised it has stopped now.

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This is me and my Dh too! I'm so used to saying ' daddy can you pass Dd a drink' etc at home that I sometimes say it whilst we're out and then have to cringe haha. My kids are 3 and 5 and going through a stage of finding it really funny to call us by our real names so that's how it started.

Oh god it's awful 😖 Absolutely creepy and weird. If I ever heard friends calling each other that I'd presume they were doing it to take the piss.
Also - kids are 8 and 9? And still saying Mummy?
I refer to my husband by his name...because we're adults.

My in-laws have taken this to the next level.

They call each other nana and grandad, and started addressing me as mummy. I had to tell my father in law that I wasn't his mum. They don't do it to me any more but it's still all 'nana can you pass the salt'.

I find it really weird.

YABU for hitting your children. Your husband openly sexualising it in front of them is further unreasonableness.

I would hate it if my DH called me that. The only time I have ever heard of someone doing that is when my dad was a kid and his parents would call each other mum and dad in front of my dad and his siblings they never ever used each others names I have no idea why but that’s what they did.

They meet hundreds of women, they can't remember your name!

This.

If I have given the kids a snack he will say 'Mummy is there one for me!'

WTF? I think it would give me the ick.

If I was to give him the benefit of the doubt I'd wonder if it's just a habit he developed when your children were small and he hasn't grown out of it as they've got older.

If I wasn't giving him the benefit of the doubt I'd think fetish or he sees you as the role you play in family life rather than an individual. Neither of those are good unless you agreed to role play for his fetish.

Tell him to stop it and use your name.