To not like him calling me Mummy...

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My Husband calls me Mummy around the house while my kids are around, so for example he might shout 'Mummy, do you know where are DS's socks are'...etc
If I have given the kids a snack he will say 'Mummy is there one for me!'
I didn't mind when the kids were really young and he was talking with them but I find it a bit creepy he is using it to directly ask me questions.... am I being unreasonable? Is it me thats overthinking it?

My ex used to do that I hated it!!

It’s a nope from me.

We tend to call each other Daddy and Papa, we just sort of fell in to it, although I did once call his work and ask the receptionist if they could put me through to Papa.

Eeww

Oh dear. I was expecting you to say a lot younger! Surely by that age, they've moved onto saying Mum/Dad anyway, so they're probably cringing just as much as you are.

Why so defensive?

What's repulsive and puerile? A grown Mann calling his grown wife mummy or grown women referencing the fact they have a vagina and the way we wish we never let them near it?

What's defensive about that? Just a suggestion that if you don't like what you're reading, stop reading. Don't try gaslighting me @bellac11

erm nope it's the literal reaction I feel when reading that post. I could never ever have sex with someone who called me that. Full stop. End of.
Have you told him you will never have sex with him again until he stops, op? I would!

Gaslighting? You dont know what the word means clearly and you sound paranoid

Its a discussion forum, where people discuss the point of the thread and other posters points, you came on the defensive and you still are. I made a point about some of the posts, I didnt say I 'dont like what Im reading' or that I was offended, where you got that from I have no idea.

Jesus some people are so dramatic.

Gads!

Absolute vom

🤢

Yeah, OK. Off you pop now @bellac11

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Fanny dehydrator is a fantastic turn of phrase

Oh Jesus 😅

Yuck. FIL called me mummy after I had DC. I said nope immediately. Shudder.

And as some replies have shown, some families do this without any fanny dehydration, so it's not like he is being intentionally unreasonable. I'd suggest you actually talk to him about it and say you don't like it, emphasising the fact it males you not want to have sex with him. I guarantee he won't say it again

Even the thought of other people doing this is giving me the shudder

Absolutely no need

Make your husband watch Bad Sisters. Make a point of shuddering when the dude does this.

Teachers and nurses do it because they're trying not to get the form of address wrong and cause more offense. Nurses who don't have a long relationship with the family and secondary school teachers who potentially teach 150-300 different children a week particularly won't usually know the family dynamics and might not have quick access to whether whether Olivia Smith's mother is Mrs Smith or Dr Smith or Ms Smith or Ms or Dr or Mrs a different name or would prefer to be called (or conversely be mortally offended to be/ feel patronised if called by her first name).

Obviously the better way to deal with it is to introduce yourself "hello, I'm Emma Bloggs, Olivia's nurse for the next nine hours, please call me Emma, and you're Olivia's mum I take it, may I call you Rebecca?" or whatever, but you can cause offense anyway (for example if the person doesn't want to be called by their first name or feels you should know they have a different surname or that they're a Dr. not Ms. or whatever). Being addressed directly as "Mum" probably is worse because it sounds so patronising, but it's a clumsy attempt to negotiate around not having a quick way of knowing the parent's correct title and surname.

Totally different to being called mum by your spouse, who presumably knows how you prefer to be addressed...

If you have let him call you that for a long time and not said anything he is obviously going to assume it is OK and no doubt when you say to him it creeps you out now he is going to feel a bit embarrassed by it

YES!! 😳

Just refer to him as daddy all the time, he'll soon get how weird it is calling you mummy and stop.

Ohh that's given me the ick.
I couldn't have sex with a man who called me Mummy - that is grim.