To think men are just chronic?

[heyto]

Always have the same men phoning/messaging me on a Saturday night even though I consistently don't respond. These are men I haven't seen in years and years and met back in the party days when I was out all the time.

What's their plan here? To just phone and message and send me pictures until I reply?

I have this one very persistent guy who I went on ONE date with over a week ago. Told him after that I wasn't interested. At first I responded when he continued the conversation (my mistake) out of politeness but he has been consistently sending me messages without a response since the last reply.

Pictures attached in comments.

Are all men this chronic? I'm not even overly attractive, I'm very average so I wonder what beautiful women must go through.

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There's always been a thing about how men boomerang back around. I think its just to try there luck with a familiar face from the past. Like a carousel of past lovers who might want a quick fling.

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Yes. You are right. Very odd. Not uncommon in my experience either sadly..

Perhaps you haven’t been as clear as you think you have? It’s odd that the 1 common factor of all these 4 men seemingly unaware you are not interested is you…leads me to think you tend to ghost instead of communicate.

If you don't specifically say you're not interested then some men are like a dog with a bone. You need to be very clear.

Why not just block them?

Sorry, just noticed you told him you weren't interested. Just block him.

Ghost? I never dated the other three, they would chase me years ago for a shag but I never slept with any of them, I don't think I owe them communication?

It's bizarre that you don't just block these idiots. You must like the attention.

My DH has a friend like this and always says ‘if you throw enough shit at the wall some of it’s gotta stick’.

they just try their luck because they might get a shag.

I think you may be too nice when you say no. A clear as bell NO should eliminate this problem. If not just block.

victim blaming

even if she did block them, they still would be constantly texting / calling without even a reply.
she didn't even reply, but thats not good enough? she had to Ignore them and block

Men are so weird. I've got 2 ex boyfriends who do this. Every now and again they'll message me through Facebook or Instagram, seemingly always a new insta account too

I've been married 7 years

Stealth brag alert 😂

Block them if you don't like drama and attention...

Yes!

I've been quite lucky to be too old to be dating in a time of social media/messaging apps, but yes, I think a lot of guys just chuck messages out there hoping for a shag, which I can imagine gets very tedious! Just keep ignoring.

It’s Saturday night they’re looking for a shag and you’ve never told them to do one.

What’s your plan? Why do they even have your number?

This is so insulting to actual victims of male violence it's ridiculous. Give your head a wobble.

You can have them if you want, I'll happily pass on your number. Nothing to brag about, I said in the OP, I'm very average, none of these men are in my opinion attractive so certainly not bragging.

Ghosting doesn’t require fucking or dating. You can ghost a friend or an acquaintance or a relative or a neighbour. Anyone you’ve met and have no interest in getting to know better.

I think if anyone is attempting to communicate with you, you do owe them a “sorry, not interested please do not attempt to contact me again”

Just being silent is shitty and cowardly.

If someone tries to communicate with me I do not owe them anything. I don't owe anyone anything.

There's a Facebook group called Men Talking to Themselves Online. Literally hundreds of men having one sided conversations with women that want absolutely nothing to do with them.

No you don't but to get them off your back just say you're not involved and block thrm?

*interested, not involved