To think men are just chronic?

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Always have the same men phoning/messaging me on a Saturday night even though I consistently don't respond. These are men I haven't seen in years and years and met back in the party days when I was out all the time.

What's their plan here? To just phone and message and send me pictures until I reply?

I have this one very persistent guy who I went on ONE date with over a week ago. Told him after that I wasn't interested. At first I responded when he continued the conversation (my mistake) out of politeness but he has been consistently sending me messages without a response since the last reply.

Pictures attached in comments.

Are all men this chronic? I'm not even overly attractive, I'm very average so I wonder what beautiful women must go through.

Refusing to engage with persistent men that have already been told no is not ghosting.

You do if you want to not be bothered by random texts and calls…from people you apparently gave your number to. Talk about mixed messages, here’s how to contact me oh, yes we should get together (but secretly I don’t want to ever speak to you again and every time you attempt to contact me I won’t respond). That’s fucked up.

I see no evidence they have been told no, do you? And OP has said she doesn’t owe anyone any communication, which would include a “no”.

No. He is pestering her. She doesn’t owe him conversation or further explanation. She is not speaking to him and he has noticed, and still trying for a shag. He’s incredibly rude. If a woman came on here saying she’d had a date with someone then sent all those messages and tried calling too but hasn’t heard back, we’d say she was unhinged.

Because where's the drama then?

Just block them and move on

Very simple

Of course you don't owe them anything but come one, how else are you going to get rid of them without communicating, even if it is a polite (or not) "fuck off"?

Surely you mean “they”. It’s 4 men. Too big of a coincidence that all 4 men are pestering her. More likely she’s not being clear. Even the 1 she said she had said not interested to, she kept on exchanging messages with him after that, mixed message again. You don’t say not interested and then keep things going!

Now she’s ghosting.

I have them on Facebook, they are trying to contact me via Facebook messenger.

@Onnabugeisha what thread are you reading?

Just tell them to fuck off and block. The whole not responding things is childish.

And, of course, all men are like this. Every red blooded man is right now texting all the women in his phone contacts to see which of them will let him shag her 🙄

Yes that's what I thought

Far too many are like this. Desperate for a shag.

Just block them.

You've been asked why you haven't blocked them?

Men are just chronic what ? Doesn't make sense ?

If you don’t want to have anything to do with them, just block them.

I suppose I find it amusing. The persistence and even when it stops for a few months, it starts up again. I'm not bothered by it...or offended....more just perplexed by how little THESE men can take hints.

OP won't reply to the why won't you block them questions...

Crikey they're persistent 😅🤘

Yes, some men just try their luck.
The best one for me was when I was 37 weeks pregnant, at the hospital for a scan, and out of the blue some guy I'd dated VERY briefly 8 years previously messaged me on what's app... he'd seen my friends bumble profile which happened to have me in one of the photos, and he used it as a way to message me lol. Was so random and odd.

Chronic makes sense.

Chronic - persisting for a long time or constantly recurring.

Or

of a very poor quality

I suppose I find it amusing.

Don't come here moaning about it then, when you could simply block them.

I'm not moaning, I'm asking for opinions.

Gosh some of you are very claws out tonight.

You're not wrong Op.

Men are chronic.

To me your silence is an obvious indication that you're not interested.