To think men are just chronic?

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Always have the same men phoning/messaging me on a Saturday night even though I consistently don't respond. These are men I haven't seen in years and years and met back in the party days when I was out all the time.

What's their plan here? To just phone and message and send me pictures until I reply?

I have this one very persistent guy who I went on ONE date with over a week ago. Told him after that I wasn't interested. At first I responded when he continued the conversation (my mistake) out of politeness but he has been consistently sending me messages without a response since the last reply.

Pictures attached in comments.

Are all men this chronic? I'm not even overly attractive, I'm very average so I wonder what beautiful women must go through.

All you ladies getting catty and telling her 'just block if you don't want the attention' sound very very jealous that ye are getting none of this kind of attention yourselves

It's not catty to suggest the op blokes men sending her unsolicited messages.

It's certainly not jealousy. Why on earth would I want blokes I'm not interested in to be sending me messages over and over? I can't see why getting those messages would be appealing to me,or even amusing to receive.

I get enough positive attention off the people I actually like and/or love and who like and/or love me. I don't need it from blokes I have no interest in 🤷‍♀️

I changed my number in the summer to have a reset. Might be worth doing OP? On social media, change your name to name and middle name? You can also set messages on messenger to not receive new messages from non fb friends.

I think they get bored and just go through their contacts list messaging every woman on their with random "Hiya" and "How's you?" messages.

I'm never bothered like this personally but my beautiful friend is pestered constantly.

Why do you keep them on FB?

Because she’s an attention seeker, likes the drama and loves to moan about all these men after her because it makes her feel special.

(All of which she will of course deny.)

I'm single, not unattractive but men never ever contact or bother me in this way.

Oh gosh I get it OP, I also understand why you hadn’t blocked them. In my experience blocking them can sometimes just make them even more persistent, they make up another profile/phone number or whatever just to ask you why you blocked them….as if it’s not already fucking obvious!!! Why you blocked me??? What I do wrong? I was only being friendly??? They just don’t take the hint at all!

Honestly sometimes the easiest thing to do is to just not respond.

I once found myself a lovely spot to eat my lunch and used to enjoy going there on my dinner hour to have my sandwich and read my book. One day this man (at least 10-15 years older) asked me the time, being polite I responded with the time and went back to my book. He then tried to then make conversation, asking me about myself etc, I never stopped reading my book, didn’t answer the questions about myself and in just got up and said I was due back at work. The next day he turned up did the same thing, so again I just got up and left. I stopped eating my lunch there, which was annoying as I liked my little spot. A few days later a huge bunch of flowers turned up at my office, with a note from him! He then rang my office to ask if I had received them, he then got angry when he was told that no I didn’t want to go out on a date and was incredulous that I still wouldn’t go out with him after he had spent all that money on flowers. I was totally confused as to how he even knew where I worked as I had never told him, until I realised that on that first day my coat had been open as it was warm and my work lanyard was visible. I was 21 and stupid, but it taught me a lesson and I made sure my lanyard was never visible to anyone ever again. I had given the man absolutely no reason at all to ever think I was interested, I had simply told him the time when he asked.

Definitely not jealousy or catty more like wisdom of experience. No hints, just a plain goodbye forever and block. Sending little messages of sympathy with smooches and wondering why you’re getting responses is a bit like the pied piper wondering why a swarm of rats are following her.

Yes, YABU. Men like that are chronic. Others aren’t.

Don't know why you don’t just block.

Victom of what?

Such an overused expression here. Please stop talking as if all women are victims, its fucking annoying.

OP could block them all at any time, chooses not to, instead comes on here to get everyone to look at all the fellas chasing her. She loves it!

An ex did this to me WHILE I WAS IN LABOUR! I told him to go away, and why. He briefly acknowleged that I was probably a bit busy... and then carried on messaging. Mad.

Why haven’t you just blocked them?

I had a few crop up in messages when I moved back to the UK 8 years ago, just block and stop with the drama. Unless you like the attention