To think men are just chronic?

[heyto]

Always have the same men phoning/messaging me on a Saturday night even though I consistently don't respond. These are men I haven't seen in years and years and met back in the party days when I was out all the time.

What's their plan here? To just phone and message and send me pictures until I reply?

I have this one very persistent guy who I went on ONE date with over a week ago. Told him after that I wasn't interested. At first I responded when he continued the conversation (my mistake) out of politeness but he has been consistently sending me messages without a response since the last reply.

Pictures attached in comments.

Are all men this chronic? I'm not even overly attractive, I'm very average so I wonder what beautiful women must go through.

If you're not interested, just block them. It's the smartphone age. Pre smartphones and pre marriage, I had these types... but I didn't have the block option or I would have used it.

Instead I answered my phone in a disguised voice, then could say I wasn't in.

And the prevailing opinion seems to be, just block them if you don't want their attention. Could you not work that out for yourself without asking us? Really?

I don't really get why it'd be amusing. It's just grubby and I'd block them. I'd imagine most women would so they wouldn't know if men are this 'chronic' because they'd not get the messages in the first place.

Just players, playing.

I've seen this with the young, all friends together, to block someone would be seen as the woman being weak.
There seems to be some sort of code that these men should never be reprimanded, as it's uncool. Young women believing that to shut down and block would class you as an angry woman who expects too much (what's up with her, she thinks she's too good) it appears the safest way to keep you from being mentally and socially villified is to just ignor and pretend you're busy.

It get's worse for the pretty ones, at the end of the football season, that's when all the professional ballers go into hyperdrive texting and putting the feelers out, flashing the cash and offering to send taxis to pick girls up from miles away.

If you really want to get rid, get rid of the apps that they prefer to use, get a new number, start again but then you don't get the ego boost.

Well any man who greets me with "How's you?" is an immediate candidate for blocking.

Just block the fools.

if you truly found this annoying, you would block them. clearly you enjoy the attention

Why have you got them on Facebook?

The most insulting one is when someone who has ghosted you gets in touch again wanting a shag and pretends like nothings happened.

I had this once happen over A YEAR after the guy ghosted me. He must have been really hard up for company!!!

Just out of interest, what do you understand by the word 'chronic'?

For reference, 'chronic' means long-term. So many people think it means 'intense' (it describing a new pain as 'chronic' when it isn't) so your title and OP don't actually make sense.

For goodness sake, just block them and get on with your life

Completely agree OP.

Remove them from FB and block. Simples.

I have a few males who message me, whom I never respond to. They know I’m married etc. They literally have a one sided conversation with themselves in my inbox. Telling me about their promotion, new boss, went shopping and bought…met someone. It’s the strangest thing. I haven’t blocked because like you, it amuses me a bit 😆

I just took this post as a woman looking for opinions from other women on the creeps of men that keep texting her.

Of course she finds it amusing, it is amusing and perplexing at the same time that men can be such absolute gobshites. I wouldn't block either unless things became very intense.

All you ladies getting catty and telling her 'just block if you don't want the attention' sound very very jealous that ye are getting none of this kind of attention yourselves.

Victim of what exactly?

OP, you're right, this behaviour is common. Some men take a scattergun approach and have learned not to take no/no response for an answer.

Just block. There are better forms of entertainment out there.

X1000!!!

Suspect OP might be Scottish. "Chronic", meaning really terrible and consistently disappointing,is a colloquialism that I've not heard outside Glasgow.

Are you single OP? Or would they not be aware if you are in a relationship? In my experience this is what a lot of men do to single female acquaintances, particularly at night, particularly when they're back from the pub. They want a bit of attention and/or a cheap thrill/sexting friend for the night, so they start scrolling through their phone.

Unless you explicitly tell them to fuck off they'll chance it, (and even if you do some will still try their luck). It's irritating and I'd just block them on all channels and social media, especially as they're mostly people you've not seen in years and have no reason to keep in touch within 🤷🏻‍♀️

*in touch with

Ah yes, the good ol’ mumsnet fall back of ‘you must be jealous’. Jealous of what, exactly? Attention from men who you acknowledge are ‘creeps’ and ‘gobshites’? Attention from men who are adopting a scattergun approach and texting any and all women they know in the hope one will sext or actually fuck them? Why on earth would anyone be jealous of that??
Nobody is jealous, we just don’t understand why the op doesn’t just block them and forget about them instead of spending a Saturday night musing about them and posting online about them 🤷‍♀️

You said you find it amusing OP. That's a bit weird and sad. Block them. There's far more amusing stuff on line than reading endless texts from blokes just desperate for a shag.
I would also recommend being far more picky about who you're fb friends with. It's not a popularity contest.

who’s jealous about sleazy messages

Unnecessary drama. Just block them. Simple

You’re an attention seeker. Own it.

Otherwise you’d just block them and move on.