To think that not sleeping around when married isn't that big a deal?

[Janbohonut]

Just read an interview with Tim Minchin and he talks about how in his career he travels a lot, loves women, loves to flirt and has got really close at times, especially when women are literally shaking and in tears at meeting him, but then he realised his marriage was too important to throw away.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-11-07/tim-minchin-reassesses-comedy-approach/101564662

"You're away from home for a long time, you're jet-lagged, you're drinking. I think the times I got close to doing the wrong thing made me realise it wouldn't be worth it to blow my marriage... I'm away a lot and I am in a really flamboyant industry and I'm really flirtatious and I really like women."

And meanwhile his wife, who supported him as a social worker at the start, is sitting there having to listen to all this.

I mean, in most long marriages there have presumably been opportunities for both parties. Either you act on them or you don't. But I can't imagine a celebrity woman talking in front of her husband about how she loves men and loves to flirt and had loads of chances to cheat, but didn't. It felt like a gigantic humble brag.

Exactly this.

He doesn't say it's a major achievement though. He's talking about the fact that his marriage is worth more than casual sex. I don't know what's wrong with that. He isn't asking for accolades.

He does have a 'practiced' smugness about doing the right on thing. This is just part of it. He thinks a lot if himself, like a lot of privileged white men. He pits on a good show.

I've had conversations with my dh where I've told him that I came close to cheating. Nights out with the girls where I've had one too many drinks and an attractive bloke has been interested etc. I've admitted to him that I was flattered and tempted but ultimately turned the bloke down. He has also told me similar. I think it's part of being in an honest relationship. I'd feel like I'd done something wrong if I didn't tell him and would have been wracked with guilt.

Ehhh, I fee like the noble thing to do is not put yourself in situations where you're too drunk to think and coming close to cheating on a regular basis. I don't think this is healthy, personally, it's just causing anxiety for your partner and putting yourself first. Some things don't need to be said, because you could just like - you know- not do that thing that's making you get tempted

I've just Googled his wife. He is seriously punching.

I’ve never heard of him so I googled him and discovered this prat -

I can only think there is another Tim Minchin or the comments allegedly made by him are satire.

It made me laugh. It’s how I feel - I would give anything but … There is an honesty there about the lust for sex and the perils of fame. He thinks plenty of himself - you have to in his job and that can easily fuck things up

That's how I read it too, he was saying that when you're famous it's thrown at you and he took the conscious decision to be faithful to his wife. Those going on about his looks, are we allowed to be so dismissive about a woman's looks now?

Can't be bothered to read the entire link, but imo you shouldn't even be flirting with other people if you're married, especially if it takes so much self-control to not cheat on your wife.

😂 If you’re determined to think he’s an arse, go ahead. It makes no difference to me!

Like I said, he talked about a lot more than that, firstly, a few years ago. To my knowledge he’s not been banging on about it since. 🤷‍♀️ He’s just written a song, recently, is all. He’s giving interviews to coincide about its release.

It doesn't sound like bragging to me, either. Just the self-awareness lacked by a lot of people in that industry.

He addresses his ‘look’ too. He slogged away for YEARS, supported by his imo, fabulous wife. He had one last crack, wrote some songs, put on eyeliner, mussed up his hair, and gave himself an image. So did Boy George, Alice Cooper, David Bowie. It’s not a new thing.

slate.com/technology/2013/09/tim-minchins-storm-critique-of-alternative-medicine-and-defense-of-reason-in-song.html

this is very old but brilliant.

no, I’m not his promoter 😂

So in the last few days I've seen David Williams be called all sorts because he gave an opinion on a woman and then I come back to MN and apparently now it's OK to insult a man's Appearance

I suspect this will be a quote that comes back to bite him on the arse someday.

Reading pp re gf since 17 and I’m willing to bet not a wild kid with loads of attention etc it must have felt like a new world

Not that it’s an excuse but kind of the geek that is more desirable

Not sure why but I heard more from him in an in-depth interview the other day on radio. It was quite interesting, the part where Hollywood said no after four years of production on a film

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That just means that those who do it are total twats, not that his not doing it is anything that needs highlighting.

If you’re in love with your partner, you’ll be invested in the relationship and not cheat. There’s nothing really needs saying about it. You don’t even get close to doing the wrong thing. You don’t encourage it and if anyone else is getting too close, you shut it down. He’s talking shit.

Its because men’s appearances haven’t been used to oppress them for centuries. I know you want to pretend judging men and judging women is exactly the same, but it isn’t.

Christ on a bike, he's a comedian discussing his relationship. Standard stuff.

Worth reading the article and watching the interview clip embedded in it for the whole context (as other posters have said).

In the video, Tim and his wife talk and joke about the song and the anecdotes behind it:

“That's a song about my darling husband, like, not cheating on me," says Sarah with a mischievous smile. "Congratulations. Well done, Tim."

She is obviously being sarky, laughing at him a little and he laughs along too. Looks like they have a nice relationship.

No but I don't come on here as often as I used to and it's just having read one thread and then leaving and coming back and seeing the opposite happen just feels a bit ironic.

She is obviously being sarky, laughing at him a little and he laughs along too. Looks like they have a nice relationship

Nope. He's an abusive gaslighting walking red flag. She needs to ltb.

Is David Walliams here slagging off a man’s looks?

I would put money on him already having cheated on her and being caught.

This is the script of someone whose spouse has offered him an ultimatum.