Leave 16yr old to party while we're away overnight?

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16yr old SS wants to have a group of friends in our backyard pub on a Saturday night. Numbers not clear.
SS asked knowing we're away on an overnight & in response to
us asking SS to come watch the dogs as we're away until following day.
I've said NO. Husband said YES. He tends to never refuse his kids requests.
But no adults present for a group of teens in a pub & empty house for 24hrs not on.
Am I being mean?

Great idea. What could possibly go wrong?

PS your DH is a tool

No way would I allow this.

Holy crap, no way!

That would be a no from me.

Wanhaaaat?!
there’s no way I would allow this
i admire your SS’s cheek in a way 😂
a group of 16 years old and a pub with no parents - no way!
I say this as a parent of a 16 year old

Erm, no. That's a recipe for disaster. At 18 you'd probably have to trust them. At 16 no way.

I'd never allow this, I have teens and they're good, it's all the others. I know what I was like when my mum left me!

Ha ha having watched my SIL redecorate her kitchen walls after her DS’s 16th birthday I would say no chance! They weren’t even away but had agreed to stay upstairs for the duration.

DS just went to a house party for friend’s birthday again parents upstairs and home all night there were girls pulling each other’s hair out and someone selling cocaine apparently.

No no no!

DD1 had permission to have 'some friends round' when I was away at a festival - she was 16 and generally sensible

Had to drive home the next day at 8am - having packed up the tent - all the booze in the house had gone including champagne I had been given for my birthday, doors where off the hinges, eggs on the ceiling and pizza all over the walls

They had gate crashers and were too scared to call the police (she thought I'd get in trouble) or our lovely neighbour (she thought these lads would fight him) she was in a terrible state - so upset and exhausted

She had genuinely invited 5 mates round - news got out - I couldn;t even be angry with her she was distraught.

You live in a pub, above a pub, I don't understand. DS 16 has had a group of friends for a sleepover a couple of times when I've been away, no drinking.

No

Not a chance!

At 16 they need a parent there - if something did go wrong you have no way of sorting it

I have a 16yo Dd and she has never been to a gathering or party without a parent in attendance

I think back yard pub refers to the god awful lockdown trend of sticking a hut in the garden filling it full of booze and calling it a bar.

Nope. Even if your kids are ok, you don't know their friends and the gate crashers. I was in and out of my son's 16th birthday party.

Honestly it's better than them doing the same in a park.

If you trust him to be sensible / make consequences clear, why not?

Not a bleeding chance mate!!

I’ve hosted a teenage party for a bunch of post exam 16 year olds. It takes…. fortitude 🤣

I mean, if DSS is a mild mannered geeky type, who just wants two friends over to watch a film I might consider it, but a party in your garden pub… I can just see it now…

YADNBU

Dont do it, i did thinking my DS would be sensible. I returned to a a smashed back door window, neighbour on my door step complaining as the drunken youths had been throwing stuff and it nearly hit their children. I was mortified and too add we hadnt agreed to him having friends over but did anyway (as i did myself at his age so foolish of me )

If an adults there great crack on. No adults no way. Can he do it a weekend your then and you hide out upstairs

I had to throw a couple of gatecrashers out because they were upsetting the others. The ‘nice’ kids couldn’t handle that themselves. Can’t say I enjoyed it much, but it was the right thing to do.

If you do then you need to empty the entire content of your alcohol cabinet otherwise you are asking for trouble.

Absolutely not! When I was 16 my parents went away and I had some 'friends' round - it got out of hand fast, they wrecked my bedroom (that's human wee AND used dirty cat litter all over the bed that was also broken), police were called etc. I was a good kid usually but got completely drunk and the other kids didn't care. Don't do it

Not in a million years!

Seriously? Just no!
I witnessed neighbours 17 yo son have a party once when his DM & Step Dad were away. At least twice the number of people invited turned up and the police were ultimately called by a neighbour due to the noise (which i think neighbour's DS was actually grateful for tbh as it had got beyond his control).

Free house!!!!! All round to your place

I read somewhere that at parties hosted by the Rolling Stones there was a big bowl of some white powder as a sort of communal ice breaker. Perhaps source one of those too?
NB. Not everything the Rolling Stones did was legal. 🤪