Leave 16yr old to party while we're away overnight?

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16yr old SS wants to have a group of friends in our backyard pub on a Saturday night. Numbers not clear.
SS asked knowing we're away on an overnight & in response to
us asking SS to come watch the dogs as we're away until following day.
I've said NO. Husband said YES. He tends to never refuse his kids requests.
But no adults present for a group of teens in a pub & empty house for 24hrs not on.
Am I being mean?

This exact situation happened in my friends house when we were 17. It was disastrous. I helped scrub the place top to bottom before parents coming home but goodness if they knew what had happened 24hr before...

Our backyard pub bit bigger than a double garage, pool table, loo/shower room, beer taps, fully stocked gantry, sitting seating etc.
Not bragging but it's attractive to teens and adults for a party.
My husband is indeed to a tool saying yes to every request. But he's also good with tools and built a fab pub. And SS & friends love it.

Wouldn’t say it sounds like the wisest idea🤨

I’m what I’d consider a lenient parent, not a chance in hell I’d allow this. No way, 1000 times no

With no adults around, hell no

Perfect way to make your neighbours despise you

Fine with adult there no chance otherwise

Funny enough they frequent our pub often too. But teens on their own? ⛔️⚠️

My main thought is the noise the neighbours will have to endure. Don’t do it.

I had even expressed to SIL how daft DS was OK'ing it. She says they'll be fine she can pop in during the evening to check on them. 🙄
I'm the ESM again but I'm fine with that.
Thot I would check the AIBU incase I'm the daft one

Not if you want your neighbours to ever speak to you again

Definitely not - and I say this as someone who did this age 16. Not ideal.

One of DS Y10 mates decided to have a Halloween party while his parents were away and his granddad was in charge. Actual disaster!
50 odd 14/15 yo. Booze, fireworks, air guns. DON'T DO IT OP

Have you ever had a teen party?
It's carnage.
Don't let your partner have his way!

Absolutely no way. I have a 16 year old who I would leave in my house alone overnight and maybe with a couple of friends, but in a pub? No chance. Too much temptation for them.

Hell no.

Oh my God don't do it. When I was 16 my friend's parents did this.

My friend ended up hospitalised, we had gatecrashers as the word had got out (even though no social media in those days), the house was broken into after we locked doors trying to keep them out. There was blood up the walls and the police ended up having to break the party up. The emergency phone numbers "went missing" and so the parents didn't find out until the following morning when a small (semi sensible group of us) stayed behind with our parents to clean up and secure the house.

Nightmare and I would never let my child do it!

If it was just a games room in your garage then I'd be fine with a small group, bringing a few beers or ciders each to have with pizza. Not if there are large amounts of alcohol involved.

Tell him if he wants to keep it a 'fab pub' he needs to say no! Did he go to many parties as a teen 😆

Oh god, it'll be carnage! But how can you stop them?

Not a chance!
Seriously....what's your DH thinking!!

Because you don't want your home wrecked.... hard to wreck a park?

Hell would have to freeze over before I said yes to that. Holy fuck, you want to come back to an intact house- right?

Why did the GF think this was okay? He could have called the police if he couldn't stop the teens surely?

My DH worked as a teen and didn't party.
I partied & worked. I know the yarns I spun & what happened at parties.
Thing is nowadays it's not just getting pissed & being sick on someone's good rug!