What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

[badassbaby]

I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

Jesus Christ. Have you actually heard yourself?

If ever there was a massively inappropriate time for a “well as a man…” post, especially one with a boo-hoo I’m a poor nice guy tone, then a thread full of women sharing their experiences is it.

give your head a wobble.

Cousin who made sexual remarks at me when I was 14

The teacher who tried to encourage me to go round to his house when his girlfriend was away and make comments about my appearance. I was 13

Sexual assault by a neighbours son, I was deep in depression and thought I was useless and unattractive aged 16 so I just let him

Multiple occasions of being groped on night outs

@Misunderestimated wtf, do you not realise you are the problem?

Friend daughter and her schoolmates used to travel home from games in their kit
They were leered at, called names, cat called with sexualised comments
Theyre 13 year old. Worst thing, me and my mate weren’t surprised. Just sad. The inevitability of the conversation about keeping safe , stay in group, how to raise the alarm

I was 16/17 and working at a supermarket, we all used to go to the pub after work, and a few of the customers were in there. This became a regular thing and we all kinda became mates.
After a while 'Dave' late 30's and I used to chat, he'd wait for me to finish work, walk me to the pub etc. One day it was my birthday, I finished earlier than my friends and was meeting at 6pm at the pub. Dave was at the shop (he was invited out for the evening) and said he'd walk me to the pub, but he then told me he had bought me a present and asked me if we could go to his house to get it. We get to his house and went into the lounge where it had all romantic lighting, a black leather sofa and soft music....... he followed me in and gave me my present it was a lovely gucci watch! I was amazed, shocked, told him I couldn't take that as a gift it was too much! He promised he wanted me to have it and there was no strings attached.
Started telling me how beautiful I was and that he always thinks about me. I was flattered and said I had to go now as was meeting friends and my boyfriend at said pub. He then said he really liked me and wanted to 'lick me out'!!!! No sex, just wanted to taste me! Wtf!!!!! I literally jumped up and ran out disgusted!! I obviously told everyone what he'd said, and they were also shocked! Strangely I never ever saw him again! Apparently he started shopping elsewhere!!!!

after sharing my story on here earlier ,I realise that I too let the 'vicar' get away with groping me, when really I should have called him out on it and reported him for sexual assault.I dread to think how many others he did this too, being so brazen he probably thought he was god himself

This post hit me like a kick to the stomach. I am so sorry you suffered so much at the hands of this psycho.

Memories are coming thick and fast now. During my training in mens tailoring the subject of measuring the inside leg cropped up. The old guy who taught me said, “Let’s talk about the inside leg…well Daffy, a lot of men are gentlemen but many are not. If anyone says ‘’while you’re down there”or is getting too familiar or you feel uncomfortable, Ask them to stand, measure the outside leg, ask them to sit down on a hard back chair, you then measure the distance from his waist to the chair seat and deduct that measurement from the outside leg and that gives you the inside leg measurement.
Or just give ‘em the tape and ask them to hold it up the business end while you measure the length.
That old tailor taught me a lot and he was gentleman.

Thank you!
I do alterations and frequently get 'cheeky' 😡comments when taking measurements. I have fantasised sticking a pin into them.

@Kittylickingplate you should. Comments like that are sexual harassment and I would defend your right to defend yourself with my dying breath.

What is your point? OP thought her partner was a nice guy and he turned out to be paying for sex.

Your post is proof that incel twats roam this site.

@Misunderestimated Seems like you didn't even read my post? My partner of 15 years WAS what i would call a nice guy. So charming to my mum, polite, only had eyes for me, never flirted with anyone else, ran me baths after a day at work, got along with kids, animals, the elderly.. And then, turned out to have a 'dark side' as he put it. I wonder if every man alive is either a sexual predator, sexually coersive or sexually exploitative. Does every man have this 'dark side'..

Really?
You presumably read the thread...or at least some of it...and this is your contribution to it?
Absolutely unbelievable.

Ladette culture was everywhere and I think us teens picked up on it. Whereas Sarah Cawood, Zoe Ball and Sara Cox were women in their 20s, so downing pints and flashing your bra was although questionable it was somewhat OK as it was their choice and they were older.

It's when girls of 13 to 15 were copying the bra flashing and being hyper sexualised that you get an issue.

As a girl who was not considered worth chasing after in my early teens, due to braces and being flat chested, I hated the girls who the boys liked. I really didn't get annoyed by boys in the school or even older men being all over them, I hated the girls for being allowed high lights and to wear make up and short skirts and platforms to school.
A girls at school got pregnant at 14 by our science teacher and she was immediately treated like scum. He left immediately probably to another teaching job. It was her life that was impacted and worse still, she had to stay at our school due to a lack of anywhere else to take her. By 16 she barely even bothered coming in. She was seen as a cautionary tale to us!

At 17 when suddenly I did start to get attention from men I was happy as Larry. I made terrible choices but as someone who quite literally was treated as repulsive at school as I've commented upthread, I was chuffed that now men wanted me. How I didn't end up pregnant or catching STIs I have no idea. I would often wake up in fields or on benches with no idea how I got there.

As a woman now in my 40s, I'm horrified and if my DD was treated how I was at school I would be angry. Luckily bar the odd nasty word she's quite hardy at school, to the point a boy called her ugly, and pushed her over in year 7 and she punched him on the nose.

But there was a terrible put up and shut up and welcome attention in the 90s for girls. The whole heroin chic thing for goodness sake, and then page 3 with their implants, so in one breath it was be so skinny you look ill but also have massive boobs too. You couldn't win!

Many pp in the thread have wondered if the monstrous male behaviour we were all subjected to is still out there these days. Well, it is, it's just less visible on the streets because a lot of it has moved online. Flashing and cat calling have become dick pics and sleazy messages.

In many ways this could make it worse, as they now move in packs, egging each other on to believe that all women are shallow sluts.

This incel is a classic example. They truly believe in their fundamental equation:

1. Women only want "bad boys", because they're stupid sluts who don't know what's good for them
2. Women don't want me
3. Therefore, I must be a "nice guy"

Many of the men in the stories here would, these days, be members of some hateful sub or 4Chan.

What?????

Not really a youngster but I think I was 28 ish. At the bus stop one dark evening a boy of Around 16 started speaking to me in a really creepy voice.
”where you going love”
”can I come love”
in a slow child like voice that really creeped me out, but unbeknown to him I did hapkido so a swift jab to the throat brought tears to his eyes and promptly shut him up. He spent the rest of his time very quietly waiting for the bus around the corner of the shelter.
That’ll teach him for assuming that all women are helpless.
i’d like to think he thought twice about doing it to someone else.

This thread really highlights how shitty men can be. The fact that most women have had something awful or deeply unpleasant happen to them at the hands of a man/men speaks volumes about our society.

My experiences include; walking to school aged about 12. Guy in a hgv drives past, slows down, "Are you late? Do you want a lift?"

Not quite knowing what to say or do, I promptly legged it through some bushes and out on to the main road towards the bus stop and other people. He drove off. Reported him to school who informed my mum and (I think) the police.

Other inappropriate things include being highly sexualised by men I worked with while on work experience aged 14, one bf practically pimping me out to his mates and another ex repeatedly forcing me to have sex with him when I didn't want to.

Starting to wonder why I'm still trying to a man 🙄

Starting to wonder why I'm still trying to find a man 🤦

I’ll add mine and come back to read the rest later.

Age 16/17 ish, in 6th form. My friend meets this dashing older bloke and starts an affair. She knows it’s an affair as he’s married with children and lives near me. She knows this because he’s a footballer for our local Premiership club - although he’s given her a fake name. At one point he starts calling me, having driven past us together and then pinching my number out of her phone (he told me this when he called me at 2am, waking me up so I asked him in a fury wtf he was and wtf he wanted).

I remember there was an instance of 3some or maybe orgy that at the time seemed really grown up and exciting. It makes me feel ill thinking about it now.

First job early 90s, office in a factory. The blokes would chat about sex to try and embarrass us (they would cheer when it worked), arse slapped multiple times, my immediate boss sexually harassed me and a few others for 5 years before we reported him - then he was asked to resign so probably just continued his behaviour elsewhere and one of the directors was notorious for sleeping with the new female staff! This all seemed normal then sadly but happily, it is no longer the norm.

I was just thinking about this a bit more today, and I think that this point is relevant.

Women are not nice people either.

The cruellest, most vicious people that I have ever met have been women.

I remember older women being severely cruel to me when I was a young teenager, because I was younger than them. I never got to enjoy my youth, because of women.

So many things that I have gone to, have been ruined by women being cruel to me.

So many jobs that I was in, were totally ruined by women being cruel to me.

I know if I go anywhere, it will be much easier for me to talk to the man, than it will be for me to talk to the woman. Women are cruel. For example, I went on a week long meditation retreat last month with a group of strangers. All of the men were polite to me. Three of the women were really, really nasty to me. They ruined my time there.

Another example, I went on a solo weekend trip and I decided to stay in a hostel. I was having a lovely time. There was a common room downstairs with tea and coffee, and I was having a great time chatting to other travellers. I was sitting at a table talking to A man and he was talking to me very nicely about his travels. A woman came over and sat down opposits me. She hadn't met either of us before. She immediately started sneering at everything I said, she was angry at me, and she told me I was stupid. She was so aghressive. I was really upset. Again i came away from an experience feeling that it had been ruined because of a woman.

My friend was round my house in tears last night saying that her female boss was making her life hell at work. She went on stress leave.

I actually decided to work from home, as I don't want to deal with female bullies in the workplace.

Men can be physically and sexually cruel.

Women can be very very emotionally cruel to other women. Women can be utterly heartless, sadistic and enjoy abusing others.

Neither gender are kind.

When I was 23 I worked in a pub and had a lock in with my 42 yo (married) boss and some other people. Ended up going back to my flat with boss and had absolutely wild sex. Then had to go and work a day shift in the pub with him and his 21 yo daughter, covered in carpet burns.

Oh I remembered the worst thing a man did to me.

I was in my mid twenties. I had been in a nightclub in my local town. There was a guy that I had been flirting with a little bit over the last few weeks. It was a small town so we were in the same nightclub every weekend.

On this occasion, he asked me to come back to stay in his friend's house with him after the nightclub. I thought I would just go to sleep there. It wasn't unheard of for people to hang out in houses after the nightclub and just end up sleeping there.

Anyway I went back to his friends house with him. The minute we got in the door , he became really aggressive. He tried to have sex with me. I said no. He didn't like the no. He was lying down on the couch and I was sitting up. He became angry. He then took my head and forced it down over his crotch. I struggled against him and said no. But he was much bigger and he had an iron grip on me.
I was struggling against him, but he held my head down. He then ejaculated on my face.

It was so aggressive and degrading.

It affected me for a very long time. I got therapy over it.

*Men can be physically and sexually cruel.

Women can be very very emotionally cruel to other women.

Neither gender are kind.*

Yep I agree so much with this