What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

[badassbaby]

I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

I'm so so sorry 😞

I've had a few but these spring to mind:
Year 9 at secondary school. I was very self conscious of my looks as I got pretty badly bullied. A new young male maths teacher joined that year.
He was always sweaty. Always. He reminds me now of the boss of the fast food place in Human Traffic for anyone who knows the film.
Anyway, few lessons in we are lining up in the corridor waiting for him to let us in. He comes out, tells the boys to go in and sit to the right side.
He then tells us girls he is doing the rows based in who he wants "sitting by his desk". Me, and two if my mates are told to sit right at the back on the lefthand side.

He then stands by his desk and says "this is how we sit from now on". The girls by his desk are his "designated lovelies" and we are "seated in order of pretty to ewww"

So, my friends and I at the back are the designated eww looking girls he doesn't want in his eyeline as we are obviously so ugly it offends him. Lovely.
My parents didn't believe me!
It was only when one of the "designated lovelies" girls had enough of him licking his lips and funding excuses to stare down her blouse, and told her dad, who came to parents evening and punched him hard enough that his chair went over, that anyone intervened. He disappeared from school from that night onwards. If course, damage was done to me as it gave the nasty look an excuse to be vile about how disgusting I was. That was 1995. Nowadays it would make the news.

Then at 16, had moved schools for 6th form. Me and my mates decided to bunk off last lesson so snuck across the field which had a public footpath across the top end with gate. As we get near the path, we spotted a guy standing around. He shouts us over and says he has something to show us. He got his nasty looking bits out. We ran for it and went straight the to staff. Headmistress says she "knows about the man" and we are to be quiet so as not to upset the younger girls (it was a a girls grammar with mixed sixth). She then tells us off for getting the giggles about it as we ran off! So no police. No parents called. No warning to stay off the top field. He was caught in the end because he jumped out at a lady walking her dog.

Just makes me so mad as its just ridiculous that so many of us have put up with disgusting incidents as we felt we should or people didn't believe us.

first job 15yr working at a pizza/icecream place.one of moms olds friends owned it/was in the kitchen on a ladder getting ahuge 4gallon pail of sauce( hot ) .he grabbed me under my uniform.i dumped the whole pail on his head
owner get him out of the shop.turned out mom use to work for her and he tried the same thing with her and the same pail ended on his head 12 years earier
she made him single that time with me
mom did not think he would do anythng cuz i was so young
they backed me up and i went to court for the for divorce.

in the states any medical/dentist any one there should be a chaprone in the room
same with driving instucters thats from the 70s/niece in same school they still do it

take of yourselves

The worst thing that happened to me was I opened an envelope while on the phone and it contained an incendiary device intended for the man I worked for. Fortunately, it failed to go off.

mine is fairly "tame" compared to some of your horrific stories.
its also fairly outing, but hey ho
we got my daughter christened in church when I was 23,when we left church I complained to my partner that it was inappropriate for him to be groping me on my ass and between my legs whilst stood at the font, nope not him, turns out it was the elderly vicar.

At uni, studying fine art, my photography module lecturer told me, repeatedly, that I ought to be in front of the camera, not behind it.

Being told, by my OH's mother that I would destroy him because I was young and pretty. He went on to punish me for that for 20 years.

Being in the back of a taxi, told by the driver that I was a good looking woman so would obviously understand why men raped people and why Saville did what he did.

Being dropped from a community circle 'neighbourhood thing' because I liked 'foreign' food (that would be Italian, Greek, pasta, flatbread, etc). Actually heard two women discussing this afterwards. That was a weird town.

Being told I could not audition for a uni drama production because I was clearly anorexic and wouldn't be able to keep pace - I was just slim.

Being refused an application for a rental in a rural area because I wasn't married at 40. I was actually told this over the phone by the agent.

Being asked to carry drugs overseas because I looked younger at 20.

Being chased up an actual mountain by a middle aged hotel owner in France when I was 18 after telling him to get lost. I had planned to meet friends in the area and entered his hotel to ask directions. He made a pass at me and became unstable when I refused. The story ends where I meet my friends half way up the mountain at an old fort overlooking the sea. A few of the guys chased him off.

I believed, for many, many years that other peoples sexual issues were my fault. Many of my relationships were beset with jealousy and accusations of infidelity when I was a very plodding, boring, loyal type.

Omg!!!!

I have a few.
Lost my virginity at 13, he was 18.
Countless sexual relationships with men when I was underage.
My mother's ex husband sexually assaulted me when I was 15, he was showing me how I should be treat by my bf🙄
When I was 16/17 I had been arrested for something silly and spent the night in a cell, 2 policeman took me to court the next morning and started taking about how they could easily take me somewhere and rape me, nobody would believe me as I was a nuisance.
There's probably more but I can barely remember.

In Ibiza with 4 friends. We met 2 guys in a bar and we teased that we were going skinny dipping. They followed us down to the beach and one absolute c*nt decided to push me over on the sand and try and rip my trousers off, he managed to pull them right down, I had no knickers on so was semi naked on a beach in the dark. I managed to kick the absolute shit out of him and thankfully his sober friend pulled him off me. It was absolutely terrifying.

Im mum to a 14 year old and she's already asked me if Ill let her go abroad with her friends when she's 16! Absolutely bloody not! Ill struggle even when she's 18!

On a PE school mountain walking expedition when I was in sixth form. We stayed one night in an old ‘haunted’ school which had been converted into dormitories for school outdoor expeditions. Did a Ouija board with our teachers 🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm so sorry x you're story is awful x

Exactly this. So many traumatic stories 🥹

When I was 18 (2002) a male colleague asked for my bra size to buy me underwear. There was nothing going on, never had even discussed anything, he just wanted to buy it for me.
When I was 19, when I worked in a petrol station, I had a man in his 30s asked for my phone number in front of a massive queue. My kind self not wanting to embarrass him by saying no, gave it to him. My dad had to tell him to leave me alone. I was horrified and felt terrible.
In numerous work places, male colleagues have made inappropriate comments and remarks and they really didn’t like it when they were told to stop.
Male customers making lewd comments towards me when I worked alone in the same petrol station as mentioned above.

I was helping my late partner do a gardening job using my pick up and trailer and my 16 year old daughter was bored and came along with us too.The man we were doing the work for was in his 60s and asked my daughter how old she was and when she replied said "oh,you are of legal age now" and then proceeded to recount what had happened on a porn film that he had seen which included the use of a tow bar.We still cringe at the memory.

Also used to deliver eggs to a man who at the start was caretaker at the village school (he then retired).Before I started delivering them he asked whether I would be offended if I saw him naked and I just naively assumed that he sometimes went around without clothes in his house and said that I wouldn't be.But then he repeatedly and very deliberately exposed himself.I asked him to stop but he didn't,so on the suggestion of my partner managed to photograph him and went to the police with the evidence.I stopped taking him eggs after that.One of his daughter's is sometimes on tv as a weather girl,thankfully I don't have a tv as she looks very like him.

@Wheatandchaff

No I'm ashamed to say I was too embarrassed & terrified that no one would believe me. I did tell my older sister years later (she had already left home &married when it happened). She said it would really upset our parents.

This has been an upsetting read. But it has also made me feel less alone in my experiences, as when I think about them in totality I realise my perception of men started to be altered from about the age of 10, and apart from my amazing husband has been confirmed time and time again. I started to write my experiences but then deleted them. I don't know why. I just can't being myself to share them. Or I wouldn't want anyone I know to read and recognize me. Silly really. But I do know they all contributed to how I feel now, which is hyper aware of men looking and expecting/fearing unwanted attention, or for them to perceive me as open to attention, looking for it- asking for it, deserving of whatever they decide they want to do. It's horrible. I'm so sorry so many women here have experienced so many awful abuses too. I look forward to not being looked at like that in the future as I guess it stops by a certain age. I won't miss male gaze at all. Not one bit

When I was 14 in the mid 80s, a girl in our class asked a handful of other girls to do some research into smoking. This involved being 'interviewed' in someone's parents house about underage smoking, paid £5 each and all given cigarettes to smoke in the room! Even at the time I thought it was wrong of this woman to give us cigarettes. I hardly smoked, but peer pressure etc...

Also had woodwork and metalwork teachers who would go to the pub every lunchtime and were hammered in the afternoon lessons. I remember one would sing and dance around the room.

I've got some awful sex related stories too, so sorry to hear about the ones on here. Worst thing was, around 5 years ago it was brought up on a night out and a couple of women were in complete denial about it, p*ssed as farts and defending the man involved. At least two of the group had been attacked by him (not me). We'd only met back up due to Facebook and I didn't see them again.

My ex husband had friends who used to proudly tell the story of how they once met Gary Glitter on an aeroplane and how kind he had been as he had their infant daughter on his knee for the whole flight.I imagine that they don't tell this story these days.

What’s making me gag are the stories of women enabling men to exploit vulnerable young girls. Almost seems as if these women are resentful and jealous because they are no longer attractive to men so are vengeful

That's terrifying.

I'm in my early 60's and I have memories of my sisters and I walking home from the shop and being taken behind a church we passed and a man wanking over us - I was 4 at the time and my sisters were 5 & 3. We told mum that we met a man who showed us 'milk coming out of a sausage' and she called the police.
Another time, in a playground, I was probably 6 and a man stood there and wanked while I was on the swing. Of course, I didn't understand what was happening back then.
Started working in an office when I was 15 - the men back in the 70s were terrible to young girls and you were taught to just shut up and "it's only a joke - you have no sense of humour" even by the older women. It was just expected that men would tell filthy jokes, hand around magazines with naked women, male managers would go out for long boozy lunches and be disgusting letches when they came back to the office. Everyone laughed for years about me being chased by a boss and me running into the women's toilet and him following me - I screamed and he left. Hilarious?? NO
Being paranoid when my daughters were young, never taking my eye off them. Absolutely panicking when I realised my BIL had taken them for a drive when we were at a family party at their home. He just thought he'd take them for ice-cream - I mean WTF?? And my SIL being mad at me for thinking the worst. However the worst for me was having to question my 4 & 8 year old about what uncle said and did.

I have a few that I have never told anyone!

was about 14/15 at a friends house there was a small gathering of our circle of friends, a few were drinking but not all, next door neighbour came by to see what was going on ended up staying a while, he said he was a police officer, as I was sat at the table talking with one of my friends he leans over the table completely uninvited and groped my boobs saying he couldn’t believe how big they were and must of weighed a lot! I was terrified!!

again same group of friends same age, went to a party had one drink and the rest of the night disappeared, all I remember is waking up in my friends bed with bruises all over me and my tights ripped, asked her what happened she said I went missing and a boy ‘found’ me and brought me back to her house!!

between the ages 13/16 my mum was sick and I had to move in with my aunt, she had a neighbour who was married with 2 children which I loved and they were like family, he started grooming me telling me how beautiful I was and how he had ‘fallen’ for me he ended up abusing me for years.

only the past year or so have I realised what happened to me was wrong

What a depressing thread... but sadly very familiar. I have posted about some of my experiences before. It's striking how many cases of girls abused by teachers and bosses have come up on here, and how many stories of horrible abuses of all kinds seem to have been hushed up over decades. It's disgusting how commonplace it seems to be. There is still a lot to be done. Any man who dares complain that MeToo has been excessive, any guy who whines that women are on a witch hunt... well, FUCK HIM- because we've been victimised for long enough.

This is terrifying