What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

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I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

But one that really lingers in the memory is when I was 13 I went to hang at a friends house and her neighbour was there who was 18/19. My friends mum spent the whole day dropping hints that me & the neighbour should get together and ended up locking us in the annexe for a couple of hours whilst he tried it on with me. It is so vile even thinking about it now. What mom does that to someone else’s kid?! I was just there to hang with my friend! So messed up.

@Coolcoolcool this is so sad. You must have been terrified and violated. I'm sorry you went through this.

I remember working in a restaurant when I was 17 and I annoyed one of the managers one day and he kicked me in the leg and I had a massive bruise. Never occurred to me to complain or even leave. He also dated my friend when she was 17 and he was around 30.

For those saying the thread should be banned I disagree. It massively highlights the misogyny and abuse women have faced and still face today.. I was so impressed when everyone's invited came out because it highlighted womens ordeal and it's needs to be out in the open. The reason its happened so much is because it's often brushed under the carpet.

So many times I was assaulted in a nightclub or at a party and it was accepted. It shouldn't have been acceptable in the nineties and it's not acceptable now.

That’s awful. Did he touch you? I would report both the guy and the woman to the police. It would give them a good scare.

I have had so many similar encounters as pp. The most recent happens about 5 years ago when I was 50. I had pulled into some services on my way to work and was feeling happy and confident. As I was getting into my car a guy approached and was saying something to me through the window I could hear him so put the window down a bit. He started spewing the most vile disgusting things to me about what he would do to me and what a slag I was. The younger me would have let it go and then stew about it all day.
This time I followed him in my car at a crawl while shouting at him saying he was a pervert. The services were busy and I'd parked a way from the main building so he had a long walk with everyone staring at him. I know it was a minor thing compared to what some of you lovely ladies have been through but in that moment I felt that for the first time in my life I had claimed back my power and he received the outpouring of years of sexual harassment and my frustrations. My teenage DD was so proud in me!

Bastards! Police are dickheads.

@autienotnaughty it shouldn't be banned I agree, in fact as you say it highlights what women have to put up with. Do we want this for our DDs? It does need to stop being brushed under the carpet. What I've noticed as well is the amount of comments where other women have witnessed it and laughed it off, victim blamed etc

I have had had so many awful experiences and what I could have done with is being told about boundaries and that I have every right to have them and I don't have to put up with anything that makes me unhappy or uncomfortable.

As well as being harassed by another employee, cat called and wolf whistled at I had another manager attempt to bully me after I found out he had approached one of my close family members after seeing her on my FB and try to arrange to meet with her! I reported his predatory behaviour and they spoke to him. He then proceeded to make complaints, try to force me to attend meetings alone with him etc. I reported him again and they warned him, however, he was an extremely unpopular employee and they relished the chance to bring him into line, I'm not sure how they would have dealt with it had he not been.

I had another male colleague send a photograph of a nude woman around via email suggesting it was me. I knew nothing about it as was on annual leave. I dont know how my management team found out but he was suspended. I was told about it when I returned to work. A disciplinary was held and he was sacked. Again this employee was not up to scratch and I had turned the job down prior him to being offered it and he seemed to be angry about that. But once again other women in the company told me it was my fault he was sacked, I'd over reacted, it wasn't a big deal etc. Now I didn't over react I never knew a thing about it, this all happened while I was on leave and the final disciplinary was the day I came back! But not one if those women asked if I was OK!

As an 18 year old at another company I was walking past an older male employee who sometimes I'd pass the time of day with. This guy was married with children. He grabbed my hair and tried to kiss me. This was in front of other male employee who laughed. I did nothing and said nothing, just walked away.

I was stalked by a male employee at my last company, its very long winded so I won't go into details but he got my business card off my desk and started calling me. I was at first confused then quickly became scared, I reported it as he had also grabbed at me and tried to kiss me.my boss asked me to write down the call log and what happened. On one day alone there were 13 calls. He left gifts on my desk, phoned me when i was out of the office and asked where I was, left voicemails. The list goes on. When my boss went and spoke to his manager the response was well she should just ignore him. So it continued. In the end after another complaint he was spoken too ans I recieved a menacing voicemail saying he "wanted a word with me" I played it to my boss who had the stalker banned from the building I was in. This didn't stop him he loitered in places he knew I may go and was eventually sacked. This man was my father's age.

Why are some people like this?
i can be having a perfectly normal conversation with someone and 9/10 they add in some subtle insult or put down. Sometimes I wonder if I’m overthinking it as it can be very subtle but then sometimes what they say is completely irrelevant to the conversation. We are both married with kids, this person is 10 years older than me, why can they just have a normal conversation without adding in some shitty little comment?

There's so many but ignorance of youth and all that!
One that springs to mind is being 17 at college, and a (much older) professor was reading a notice put up by the college about signs of depression to our class. One of the signs is loss of libido. He then quietly whispered to me "I never lost my libido at 17, what about you?"

Makes me shudder

My husband is a fairly enlightened feminist dude and I remember sitting an explaining to him all the horrible shit that happened to me as a teen when the me too movement started. He was horrified & even more so when I explained that LITERALLY EVERY WOMAN has countless stories like this. Also just how horrendous it is that we all just internalised it as our fault and ‘one of those things’. Our male partners really need to appreciate that sexual assault is just standard as an adolescent girl/young woman and start calling other blokes out on it.

When I was 16 my boyfriend at the time broke his wrist, I went with him to the hospital during school time. Apparently my English teacher had a conversation with the rest of the class as to whether I was pregnant or not 😡

Think the thread title should come with a trigger warning or OP should get this thread taken down. I was expecting light hearted and there are some truly horrific and sad experiences on here.

Name changed because I have a feeling this thread will be picked up by the press.

I was 16 and on holiday with my parents, little sister and my friend. Parents and little sister were in one hotel room and me and my friend next door. One evening parents went back to room and myself and friend sneaked down to the hotel bar, two waiters in their 20's were chatting to us and asked did we want to go to some bars. So at just turned 16 we left the hotel with two complete strange men and they took us around a tour of the bars (in a foreign country) and we got incredibly drunk, I don't recall what happened, perhaps some snogging and me and my friend made it back to our hotel room with my parents none the wiser so nothing happened but the thought that we could have ended up assaulted or worse when I look back so risky!

Another is I was 16 and a 34 year old I worked with told me to sit on his knee whilst we were chatting in a group at work 🤮 he was very flirty and at the time I thought I was all grown up and he was an older man interested in me, I did indeed sit on his knee and over time that escalated to a sexual relationship at one point I told him I didn't want to see him anymore but one night on a work night out I ended up incredibly drunk (off two glasses of wine?!) sure I was spiked looking back and the next thing I remember is waking up in his house and he had gone to work.
I could get out the house as it was locked and the alarm was going off. I called him at work and he laughed saying I was trapped forever. (If woken up with no underwear on and zero memory of getting there) still chills me to the bone - bastard

I think the op was going for lighthearted and it took a different turn

I haven’t read all of these but it’s so sad that the vast majority of them are men, especially older men, being completely sexually inappropriate with women and girls. It breaks my heart that we live in a world like this!

@VariantHela when I was at university the amount of pervy lecturers who'd try it on was unbelievable. Half the young female pretty PhD students were in a relationship with their mid 50's supervisor. Probably not much has changed.

The ages of 13-15, me and my friend would speak to men online on MSN messenger.
We would go on camera to these men and some would ask us to 'flash' them.
We ended up forming relationships with some of them, we thought we were highly sophisticated because we were speaking to men in their 20's.
My friend actually met up with one of them who travelled to see her. She was 14, he was 28. They kissed but nothing else happened, thankfully.
We look back now and shudder at the fact we were enjoying speaking to very obvious paedophiles and just how many of them there were.

These are horrific...I get called a raging feminist when I say I like men, but I don't trust many at all...I wonder why 🙄 My daughter is only 1, and I'm already nervous for her in the future :(

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My PE teacher smacked my bottom as I walked past him. I was in year 8. Everyone laughed in the class. So sad. He was 50 I’d say. The dirty dirty disgusting man.

The launch of 'Everyone's Invited' was an interesting moment. Initially, mums were supportive of their daughters posting heir experiences, before it became apparent that schools being lambasted were attended by their sons.

i started my first job as a trainee in my profession aged 23. We were allocated supervisors and usually shared an office with them. One fairly quiet day I asked my supervisor (aged probably about 45) whether there was any work I could be doing and he said “take all your clothes off and do a little dance”. I didn’t really say anything at the time and just laughed it off, and when I mentioned it to the department head in passing she (yes a woman) just rolled her eyes at his behaviour but that was it! He went on to have an affair with another trainee he supervised after me. He was revolting 🤢

Back in the 70s I was about seventeen and one of my much older male colleagues (must have been at least 50) was always make lewd comments to me and one day ‘playfully’ pinned me to the wall and laughingly said ‘how about you and me make babies’. It was a ‘joke’ but still makes me shudder at how fair play young women were treated by men in the work place.

My friends and I have plenty of shocking stories from our teens. Encounters with 30 + year olds in hotel fire escapes when on holiday with our parents. Shagging people in nightclub toilets. The strange thing is is that it didn't feel sordid at the time, we almost used to compete to be the most outrageous....not sure whether this was part of ladette culture. I never felt unsafe or pressured, but looking back so many of these scenarios were completely inappropriate. The men were often 10 + years older and probably married

My first job, the managers were all creepy, they all hooked up with the young graduates joining the company. One of them invited me out for a drink supposedly because I'd helped him out, then got angry because I wouldn't go back to his flat, he lived with his fiancée, we all knew she was looking after her dying mother!

All the managers were at it too, such an awful place