What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

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I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

My 19 year old self getting so drunk and taking off my blouse & bra during a works Christmas party in front of 200-300 people as though it was the most natural thing in the world. I was a temp and it was semi government organisation - a quango. It was in the ballroom of the Dorchester hotel actually. My contract was terminated the next day. I cringe now when I think of it.

Why did I do it? I'd been reading a book about flappers had read that Tallulah Bankhead used to get totally naked at Hollywood pool parties and everyone rejoiced at how beautiful her body was. At 19, I had pretty good tits, perky, not overly big which were admired by some of my friends... But what the hell was I thinking?!!!

Aged about 15/16 at travelling funfair (seaside town) and wearing a short stretchy skirt (in early 90’s) and an older man maybe late twenties/early thirties put his hand on my skirt lifting it say oh what’s up there and pestering me for the rest of the night. Stupidly my friend and I thought it flattering and waited until end of the night (as he asked us to) and went back to his mobile home, got us very drunk, told my friend to go home and we had sex. Can’t really remember much but he asked to keep my knickers to remember me!
shortly after I remember seeing a row of knickers on hooks on a wall there, he then said it was his friends mobile home and he didn’t know why, but obviously with hindsight it wasn’t and that was his row of conquests!!!

had a racing car driver instructor at 17 (don't ask!). He was a very conventional man, a policeman. All the male drivers were very taken with me as I was so young. For some bizarre reason the policeman if he'd liked to get stoned with me after a few exciting circuits of the track. He Said yes because he fancied me!!!!! Then an utterly uncomfortable and bizarre thirty minutes! He's never smoked anything in his life and was completely straight.

That is so horrible. Sorry

There's something very sweet about the fact you were inspired by talkulsh bankhead

It would be terrible to take down this thread. How could you suggest it?

Trigger warning

Reading through everyone else's is making me realise how many I have too 🙈

When I was around 13, my mum and I went into the public toilets in the centre of town, I finished before my mum and was washing my hands. Saw something furry & grey under the door in the cubicle next to mum, me being innocent and a lover of animals just assumed it was a cat, nope, it was a man in his 60's on the floor watching my mum have a wee 🙄 mums boyfriend at the time worked round the corner so we went to get him who dragged the guy out and called the police. Said guy had sexually assaulted a teenager in the same toilet earlier that day.

At 15 I lost my virginity to a 26yo who was my mums boyfriends colleague, he slept over in my room after they'd been out drinking.

At 15-16, I went to a house party and got absolutely smashed, passed out, woke up to find a school friend having sex with me, passed back out and never said another word about it (I could've consented, was so drunk).

At 16 I worked in the city and got the park & ride bus to work as it was near my home, the bus driver was nearly 40 and we fancied each other, he'd come into my work (Mothercare) and wait by the kids clothes rails to go and see him, then we'd snog 🤢 I found it sooo exciting.

At around 17, I went on holiday with my mum to Egypt, a security guard in the shopping centre at night, walked next to me and put his hand up my skirt and grabbed my privates 🙈 even though I was with an english guy I'd met.
On the same Egypt holiday, we got a mini bus transfer to get to the airport to go home, an old man who I think was the guy who put everyone's bags in the boot etc was stood in the aisle next to me, holding onto the handles, I was in a single seat behind my mum, I noticed he was touching my shoulder but it was quite a crammed bus so I didn't think anything of it, when I looked up I realised it was his crotch and he was rubbing his hard penis (through his trousers) on my shoulder, I was too scared to say/do anything so I just sat there looking out of the window, sobbing for the duration of the journey.

From a young age, perhaps 13, I was well into chatting online and I've always fancied an older man, my god there was some creeps on the online chat rooms! Which I loved at the time, but it makes my skin crawl now i think of it. Sent numerous pics of myself naked to these men and they did the same, sometimes on webcam.

Echoing what others have said that this makes me worry about my dd and her going through the same stuff. I'm just going to make sure I keep an eye on her and that I'm really honest about stuff so that she knows when it's wrong, unlike me when I was the age I was!

When I was 17 I was doing an apprenticeship at a police station and one of the married sergeants would always wink at me etc, somehow ended up exchanging numbers (can’t even remember how!) and he text me saying he wanted to fuck him.. 2 things make this worse - 1. My dad was also a police officer who knew this man and who had taken me into work as a child so this sergeant had seen me as a 5/6 year old and 2. I found out after I left that while I worked there he was being investigated for having sex with the previous 17 year old doing the apprentice on work premises and was subsequently demoted from sergeant! Saw him 10 years later at my dads retirement party.. wanted the ground to swallow me up!

When I was in my early 20s I took a 15 minute walk to an ATM just after midnight to see how much wages I'd been paid. At the ATM I noticed a big, black range rover passed me really slowly 3 times (we werein an empty street). 3rd time the window was down and the 40 odd year old guy just stared at me. I got a bit freaked and headed back home when the same car passed me again. I nipped into a kebab shop that was closing and stood until they told me to leave, hoping it was just someone at the wind up and they would lose interest. Left the shop and decided (stupidly) to cross the road, walk down the industrial path near the water and go to the petrol station for cigs as I was shaking like a leaf. About 5 minutes into walking down what is essentially a dark wide deserted alleyway (worst decision ever) a car turned into the alley. I couldn't see it was the range rover as its headlights were blinding me. It swerved and pulled over directly infront of me and the guy jumped out and moved quickly towards me with his arms stretched out at his sides to try and catch me and said "I thought I recognised you! Did I scare you?". I managed to avoid his arms and ran the rest of the alley, tried to jump over a fence behind the petrol station and fell into a bush. I just lay there genuinely not knowing what to do and no idea for how long. Eventually I got out, ran to the petrol station and the lady serving refused to let me in or believe my story thinking I was drunk (nightclubs nearby/had scratched my face in the bush and realised later I was covered in blood). Could see the Range Rover driving fast up and down the roads surrounding the petrol station almost like it was looking for something. I sat on the door step hysterically crying and eventually the lady hailed a security guard over from the supermarket to get rid of me. Thankfully he believed me and offered to call police although I stupidly declined as I didn't even think to look at the car reg. He phoned a taxi and seen me into it and would not let me attempt walking home. When I think about the stupid errors I made that night and how it could have ended it makes me sick to the stomach. I still wonder what the guys intention was and whether it was a case of mistaken identity. I also wonder why me.....I'm fairly solidly built for a girl, had black jeans and a big black hoodie on, no makeup, nothing to draw attention to myself. I question how I managed to run away from him considering I was so unfit and have never able to run. After this I started carrying a sharpened bottle opener on my house keys and would hold it whenever I passed a man in the street.

i was at my dealers house about 20 years ago and there was a man there i didnt know. Out of nowhere he said i was like temptation on a stick. I found out afterwards he was a rapist.

When working at a pizza place a male staff member had driven me around for training, when we got back the other guys joked about us being out and he said, here smell my fingers . He was twice my age and married. He had been moaning his wife didnt want sex as we drove round .
I think the main inapropriate thing thing that's happened is i didn't realise i could say no to sex when i was younger, i just used to go along with it if that's what was expected. Im now teaching my daughter to stand up for herself and to make her own decisions as i hope she has a better time than me.

Fuck me*

I have so many outrageous stories but these are a few of them. At the end of the school year post GCSE’s we all went out to celebrate. We saw quite a few of our teachers in town. A girl from our year ended up sleeping with one of the science teachers who was at least mid 30’s at the time. Another friend from a different school slept with her PE teacher.
I used to pick my 2 daughters up from school and park my car near to a small green area as there wasn’t much parking by the school.
Almost every day there was a suspicious looking man with a hat that used to stare at women and girls in the park. One afternoon my daughters (15 and 9 at the time) came running to the car stating the creepy old man had exposed himself to them. I told my older daughter I was going to call the police but she was so upset that she just wanted me to drive away immediately. I saw the creepy old man in my rear view mirror and he had already spotted his next victim (a young woman, sitting on a bench alone) and was leaning on a tree glaring at her. I honestly felt sick to my stomach. There was often police parked on the corner of the park, most likely to monitor him.

😨awful in itself but now you have to live with the what might have been thoughts too

Ok there's been too many to list but there are two that I'll share...

One was after being arrested and put in a cell, one of the police men on duty continuously kept coming back to me to chat me up and even asked me out for lunch. I declined.

The other was in hospital, I was really quite ill and the doctor to took a shine to me and told the nurses (who told me) that he thought I was cute. He was quite lovely too but I was not in any fit state to even think about how to proceed with that info.

There are plenty of really gross ones I could also share but I think there's enough of those on this thread

Reading these it rely is no wonder that women are wary of men, is it?! Especially as so many happen at such formative years

Mine is mild compared to many on here. I was 15, on holiday and showering off in the outside shower after a swim. The showers were slightly tucked away behind a curved wall from the pool. I was a very shy unconfident teen, but feeling proud of myself that I had put a bikini on that day instead of a costume. I was rinsing the chlorine from my hair, so eyes shut and head back and then when I opened them, a hotel waiter was just stood there openly watching me, with a horrible smile on his lips. He winked every time he saw me after that. Grim.

Had a friendly relationship with a teacher and post 6th form asked if I could borrow a certain book from him -went to his house to get it and he was slightly drunk and had made me a romantic meal! I made an excuse about being on antibiotics and couldn't drink as I had the feeling very much more was being anticipated here. He was actually rather angry with me! Broke of any contact after that.

Boss on my first job - had a mutual interest in a certain hobby which I had taken on face value but he took as me fancying him. Didn't try anything on but things became very awkward when it transpired he thought I was going to have an affair with a married man several decades my senior.

But I think the worst was when my grandfather threw 16-year-old me onto a bed and lay on top snogging me. Then snapped at me to get out. I have no idea why he did it and the rest of my family thought he was wonderful so I never said anything at the time or since.

I'm assertive and many of the incidents mentioned have happened to me since I was a child but it doesn't matter how assertive you are, how confident or able to speak up for yourself fundamentally it comes down to the fear of what men can do to us if we don't make please them.
I'm a full grown adult but even a few years ago I was walking down My street to MY house minding MY own business. A local shop worker who always accosted me outside his shop (on the corner of my road so minutes from my house) ran down alongside me and kissed me in the cheek.
I didn't see him coming, it was dark and it startled me.
He then apologised and I, fool that I was, didn't even bother reporting him to his employee. Why? Because we as women are conditioned to accept this behaviour and somehow be flattered by it, to pacify men, to stay safe.
I'm much angrier now and I thank the FWR group on here for that. I now teach my daughters to be loud, to shout, to challenge and to stop men from invading our spaces. Offering opinions to strange women, comments to us when we don't want to engage, physically crowding us in queues and shops, touching us when we don't want to be touched. Enough.

I was going to report it, but given the fact MN have posted a link to it from their Facebook page I can't see that happening, though surprising they've done that because it's quite explicit and possibly needs a trigger warning.

I've posted something mild, but nothing more explicit as I'm not sure what good it would do for me, personally, to share, and in case it is fodder.

Just remembered another that and old ex friend of mines did....

She worked in an office in a male dominated industry. She'd gained herself a bit of a reputation as she'd slept with quite a few of the guys and at the time was having an affair with her boss 25+ years her senior who was married with teenage sons. I always felt me judging her for this was wrong so tried to support her decisions but the next incident was way too weird....

So its her birthday and a few from the office get her cards, balloons, gifts etc. She comes back to her desk in the afternoon and theres an envelope on her desk with a birthday card from a 30 something old quiet guy in her office that she'd never even spoken to. It contained 500 quid! He had signed it "Happy Birthday" and wrote his name. She sent me a pic of it and I was flabberghasted. Told her she needed to give it back to him immediately as he could have learning difficulties or not understood what he was doing. And that she should tell someone about it and have them witness her hand it back. She went quiet about so I assumed she had....

Weeks later she admitted twwo me she had kept the money as "it was a gift" and she thought it was her righwt to. She still hadn't broken breath to this guy. I let her know I thought it was madness and she came out with some excuse about "if men are that daft they deserve to lose money".

Anyway, 3 or so months down the line she forwards me an email. From the guy. He bascially said (in a roundabout way) you took my money and now you owe me a "date". He'd even been so stupid as to send it from his work email. She didn't reply and didn't report him. He sent a few more being more insistent and she ignored them and finally left the company. He somehow had her personal email and continued on there. Eventually they stopped. How scary.

I used to babysit for a couple who had 2 young children when I was still at school. I knew the Dad as he had a shop near where I lived. One night when he was dropping me home, he got his erect dick out and asked me what I thought!!!! I was 15!!! I said (bizarrely) thst my Dad wouldn’t like it(😱) and I ran in the house.
never babysat again - and his wife used to glare at me for ‘letting them down”

Was 40+ years ago, but I still think WTF???

When I was in college age 19 I had a secret relationship with my law lecturer. During the Christmas night out in the toilets another girl told me that the same lecturer had taken her to a beach resort and they’d held hands. I realised then he was probably doing the same with all the girls. Terrible now as an adult, but I guess it was just a bit of excitement to 19yr old me. I really liked him though, so it was not a nice experience.

Thank you, it felt kind of therapeutic to actually write it down

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I'm absolutely not going to ask for it to be taken down!
All these stories should be heard...I wouldn't dream of invalidating their experiences by asking for the thread to be deleted.

I went to the police about being sexually abused by a close relative as a child corroborated by other members of my family - CPS deemed him ‘too old to prosecute’. They’re a total waste of space.