If your partner was arranging to meet an ex for sex

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That’s probably never in 1 million years going to happen due to so much water under the Bridge but that’s not the point he’s asking and he’s trying to arrange it.

Would you really want to know ?

If this is your ex and he's messaging you I'd stay out of it...

Yes, I would

Um.. yes. Yes I would.

Absolutely would want to know, yes.

Preferably with a screen shot if you have it

Yes I would and it is not fair to you if he is trying to arrange it. He probably thinks you know nothing about it.

I have, however, known separated and divorced people who have often slept with the person they left or who left them.

Yes I'd want to know. Screenshot it and send to her.

For context quickly before too many people reply she’s been an absolute cow to me, at the beginning it was pretty unclear who he was cheating on with whom.

he had two children with me and then went on to have two children with her. Our kids have a similar age gap so they literally look as if he’s just replicated the whole pattern identically boy girl boy girl.

I was absolutely livid as you can imagine because his son is less than a year older than his young daughter with me.

on the one hand revenge isn’t really good motivation is it ?
but why should her children grow up in a happy home with their father when my kids have been cut off completely, who’s doing that is I dont know. And cheeky bastard is sending me photographs of himself in underwear that she’s probably washing.

It doesn't matter to me if she's been a "cow" or not. Just tell her.

Tell Her, with screenshots to back up your position and then block everyone and remove yourself from the situation.

I shouldn’t of said probably in the initial post I meant most definitely not happening.

I would tell her - not because she’s a “cow” and I want to crap over her life, but because he’s a dickhead and he shouldn’t get away with it.

Id tell her

I'd tell her, but I think it's sad that your motivation is so their kids don't have mum and dad in the same house.

This.

it’s tricky isn’t it because on the one hand they are the innocence’s involved in all this but then equally so were my children and I don’t think much thought was given to them before what happened happened.

What on earth were you texting him about if it wasnt him coming to see the kids? Hes cut them off, theres nothing to discuss. So, if it wasnt an accident to send them to you, why and what were you messaging about?

I wouldn't purely because I did before and she turned out to be mental and came to my work saying I was a lieing whore. I'd never be honest again 🙈 They can crack on.

And even if they split, what, do you want him back to come and play happy families again?

Losing all round, just ignore and move on.

I have a query about how he made the leap from cutting his kids off and presumably not needing to have contact with you as a result, and sending you underwear selfies?

Check your motivation. If it's spite, leave it alone and set your phone up so he can't contact you.

I’ve not spoken to him for two years he did text over the pandemic to see how the kids were.

so then he just pops up to comment on a Halloween picture of the little one on my WhatsApp stories because I didn’t want to block him because obviously you try to leave the door open in case reason is seen. So then of course it starts does now all the saucy suggestive comments, the way he speaks about her is absolutely horrendous if as a wife you read it it would break your heart. He wants he to watch us and to humiliate her etc

Yes, and I'd kick him out. I wouldn't want to be ignorant of the fact that my partner was such a lowlife.

In your shoes I'd send him an email address and say that you will check it once a week on a Sunday evening and if he wants to see the kids then that is how he must contact you. Then block him.

Personally, a man who hadn't seen my kids would be told to instruct a solicitor as the door is no longer open.

I would want to know,but with undisbutable evidence.

This is pure Jezza. Don't give him the head space.