If your partner was arranging to meet an ex for sex

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That’s probably never in 1 million years going to happen due to so much water under the Bridge but that’s not the point he’s asking and he’s trying to arrange it.

Would you really want to know ?

I would absolutely want to know, and if he wasn't already, he would very swiftly become my ex.

How did he have 2 kids with you and then 2 kids with her, if his son with her is older than your daughter?

Oh gosh no, geographically it could never happen even if I lost my mind temporarily and considered it.

stay well away. One of my uni friends slept with her ex to get back at his new partner. It ruined so many people. Just leave well alone. An ex is an ex for a reason

My youngest daughter is 10 months older than his oldest son with her.

All you can do with a useless bastard like this is try to get your child maintenance and whatever else you can get off him. Facilitate a relationship with the kids if they want it (they'll figure out what he's like in time).

Aside from that .... Just zone him out.

Tell him to contact you about kid stuff only.

Tell him you're seeing someone and his comms are totally inappropriate.

He presumably is only trying it on because he thinks you're single and, in men like his minds, available/desperate/grateful.

They are too dumb to realise they project their personal male sexual desperation and "any hole is a goal, abt sex is better than no sex* attitude onto women.

*any sex is better than no sex

He's just going around trying his luck with any woman who hasn't told him to fuck off .... In fact if he's tried this before and you've told her before and he knows; he's just beyond brass necked.

He's a bit of a sick fuck as well, by the sound of the degradation fantasy (of her) that he's trying to push.

Aren't you very glad you're rid of him ... It would be you being degraded.

I’d send screenshots of the photos and say, “Can you ask your boyfriend to stop sending me photos of him in his pants? I’ve already been there, done that, and I have zero intention of going near it again”, and then block.

I believe men like him are known as "community dick".

He's a real Jeremy Kyle contestant specimen, isn't he

I wouldn’t send the pictures. Sounds like you are so much better without him. Walk away and block. If he has nothing to do with your children.

Oh gosh I don’t get me wrong if there was no way in hell I was staying with him it’s quite a long protracted miserable story but I do actually believe he was faithful physically with me until I was geographically out of the way but they knew each other so even if nothing was going on physically they were lining each other up for my departure, geographically not killing me. However she must’ve been pregnant within eight weeks of me leaving. It was almost as if I out one family in with the next and at that stage there was no decision surrounding whether I would be permanently relocating or whether it was a temporary six-month thing. She kind of finalised it and took the decision out of my hands.
it has all worked out for the best don’t get me wrong and I suppose again that’s where the dilemma is on the one hand they are a pair of cunts that deserve each other.

But in a former life without kids I have been the stupid cow at home washing the pants, ironing the shirts for some other woman to take off him and it really quite pissed me off when I found out.

Tell her.

Suspect you’re enjoying the attention to have not put a stop to this, but seriously, tell him to fuck off. He’s using you to get his ego/cock stroked, he clearly has zero respect for you or her and thinks you’re both stupid.

YABU

Not only are your reasons for wanting to tell her are wrong but you’ve also been enjoying these messages too, else you would have told him where to go straight away and threatened to tell his partner.

If you don’t want to block him then just ignore his messages, apart from if they’re about the DCs.

Why would you want more drama off a man and women who’ve brought so much drama to your life already.

I have been enjoying it but not necessarily in the way you might think. I’ve certainly not been getting off on it anyway shape or form but I’m not gonna lie I have had the odd smug smile to myself at the fact that he’s being so awful about her.

But I did actually tell him to stop that because it’s hardly pleasant reading for any woman to read about another woman.

I agree with a pp, take the moral high ground and keep out of it.

Just don't respond to him. If you're not comfortable blocking, just ignore / don't respond.

I agree he is the one that is going to ruin his kids lives, but who knows when that will be. Be kind and give them a few more years before it all erupts some other way.

And I know nobody thought of your kids, and there's no excusing that. But look at the parents these poor kids have got. Don't make it worse for them.

Just concentrate on you and your kids

No that’s pretty much what I imagined, but keep in mind, the longer you take to put a stop to it, the longer he goes on thinking you’re an idiot he can manipulate into fighting the other woman over who gets his precious attention. It’s all just an ego trip for him.

If you take the kids out of the equation then o think most people would say you should tell her!

Or just send a message to her saying please stop your husband sending me pictures in his undies! Not appreciated.

By the way, as awful as he’s being about her, don’t think for a second that means he’s not being awful about you too. This prick doesn’t care about either of you, he’s all about himself.

Please don't. You are worth better than this. Revenge always sounds good, but believe me, you will feel like a bag of shit if you tell his girlfriend what he's up to. She'll find out for herself in good time.

So why are you angry at her, or thinking that SHE was the cow?

For all you know, she thinks exactly the same about you.

And if she does, you'd both be wrong. There's only one cheat here.

So why are you angry at her, or thinking that SHE was the cow?

For all you know, she thinks exactly the same about you.

I agree.

This guy is taking them both for fools and laughing at them.

I wonder what makes him so special to have 2 women fighting over him.

Because if we assume that she got pregnant the first time they ever had sex then she liked my daughter‘s birth announcement and the photograph of my son being carried in one hand and my daughter in the car seat in the other out of the hospital by him and then eight weeks later fucked their dad.