10 month old at funeral

[Jellywellyfish]

My husbands grandad has just passed away and details of the funeral are being circulated. I would really like to go to pay my respects, but aibu to take our 10 month old to the service? My husband would sit at the front with his family and I thought I could sit at the back so I could leave if she starts being fussy.
thoughts?

Our family did at an Uncles funeral years ago. Before webcasts and videos on smart phones, so they used a camcorder to record the church service and then the burial and a wee dram at the graveside (a family tradition for my parents generation).

He had 8 siblings, 4 in Canada who had lost a much loved brother couldn't make it to the funeral and they found it very comforting to have been able to have their own memorial service together once the tape arrived in the post with copies of the order or service etc.

I don't really see the problem with it, the family that was present wanted it too, it was done unobtrusively and respectfully, and it helped his siblings grieve.

Good plan. DS was about the same age and slept through the service then woke up at the get together afterwards and provided distraction.

Do it.

Many people enjoy seeing babies at funerals - especially when it's an old person who has passed. There's that sense of "the world continuing on". And often a baby can be a good source of amusement and small talk at the wake later on.

Who wants a "distraction" or a source of "amusement" at a funeral? Well maybe some do, but actually, when else are we permitted to grieve for a lost loved one.

Views differ, of course, but I want and expect a funeral to be a (probably the only) time to grieve, weep and remember.

And not feel obliged to play peek a boo with some gurgling tot.

Everyone has their own opinion of course and I agree with other posters who have said to check with the 'main mourner'.

However at my (49 year old) husband's recent funeral:
I grieved
I wept
I remembered
I also played peek a boo with my (9 month old) grand daughter who was sitting with me and my DC on the front row during one of the songs.

This 'gurgling tot' is one of my reasons for getting out of bed in the morning and I am very glad she was there.

Hi all, I just wanted to update as the funeral was on Monday and we did decide to take our 10 month old and have her in the service with us. We sat at the front of the crematorium with the rest of the close family and our daughter was as good as gold. She was not totally silent, the odd little quiet babble and I fed her snacks but she was an absolute delight and everyone commented on how lovely it was to have her there as she totally lifted the mood for what was a very sad day.

so, very pleased we took her and we are 100% sure great grandad would have been so proud to have her there. Great grandma was also so so happy as everyone who attended came up to her and said how well behaved our daughter was and that she was such a blessing for the family 🙏

Glad it went well for you all xx

That's lovely x

So pleased it went ok x

Nice and happy for all of you!

So pleased that you were able to be there and grieve with everyone else.

Take your baby. Support your dh. It's fine. If he's fussy just wait outside.
Very sorry for your loss x

i took 6 month old to FIL funeral as he was breastfed. Dhs friend sat behind us with the pram just incase but he was fine, service isn’t that long and he started laughing during a silence which was the highlight❤️

Sorry just read your update very glad for you x