We all have different personalities, different strengths and weaknesses, different amounts of particular hormones, and different careers with different hours and demands which thus fit together in different ways. I can see that creating a world order where the default position is the equal sharing of childcare, domestic work and outward-facing work could help limit abuses of power on a macro level, but due to our differences, this arrangement simply doesn’t work for everyone at the level of the individual family unit and some people really just find it inefficient and unsatisfying (whereas others, of course, find it ideal). To achieve the supposed ideal, in any event, massive changes would need to be made to the entire structure of our society and to the capitalist system, as it very much rewards single minded specialists with a taste for power, whether male or female, and does not reward happy multi-taskers to the same extent.
It is not automatically the case that to be a SAHP you must be unimaginative, boring, thick, lazy, somehow unable to cope with the world of paid work, or expecting someone else to support you while you do nothing of any real value or that could possibly count sufficiently to stop you being an inferior partner in a relationship. It is not automatically the case that to be a WOHP, you must be emotionally detached, selfish, self-centred, power hungry, callous, uncaring, bullying, a capitalist drudge, or of the opinion that caring and nurturing are the same thing as weakness and powerlessness. You wouldn’t always think so from reading some threads on Mumsnet, though! At least this thread has been like the curate’s egg, though - good in parts. It’s a shame it keeps descending into tit for tat.